Were you promised something when you sprang on the planet? Nah, life does not come with promises and presents. We are given a blank slate which we are supposed to fill, come rain or shine. Just when you think life has been all roses, neurosis enters your life making you crazy. We cannot do away with life’s battles. Battles have become the part of our lives which must be fought with grit, determination, and perseverance. One goes berserk when one sees himself or herself in the face of a crisis of any sort. Life is replete with ups and downs, and everyone has to deal with the battles at some point of life.
When you face battles, your entire strength at once goes for a toss. People get really perplexed as to what is in store for them. No one likes to fight battles, and mind you, battles are not just the physical ones, the category is much wider. There are a variety of battles that a man goes through- emotional battle, financial battle, family battle, relationship battle, work battle, to name a few. One must choose his or her battles wisely so that the situation is prevented from turning bad into worse. A little alertness can do the trick, not to mention with the support of family and friends.
Human beings go through a lot in their life, from birth to death. The battles start from the get-go, our attitude towards our battle is what counts. There are times when we fail or lose our loved ones due to wrong decisions we make. It is not difficult to choose your battles. However, you must do it wisely so that you do not remain in the neurosis zone whining all the time. Here are some of the pointers which will compel you to choose your battles wisely:
#1. Know If It Really Matters
Sometimes decisions taken in haste go awry. People too, go astray in their lives when they cannot decide what to do and what to avoid. They sometimes are on the horns of a dilemma where they cannot choose anyone. If you are facing any challenges in life, and decide to tackle it head-on, just lunge forward and think about its impact in the future. Is it worth the entire trouble? Ask yourselves if the battle would hold any significance, say after ten or twenty years.
If you get your answer in the affirmative, you can pursue that battle without second consideration, but if there are doubts, you can forgo that battle and look for something else in life which is meaningful.
#2. Know The Nature Of Your Battle
Sometimes people just get into battles without so much as contemplating over it. There are occasions when people cannot contain their emotions and go the extra mile for fighting the battle. The battles which emanate out of your jealousy, pride, ego, disturbed emotions are futile. It is better that you take up different battles which are positive in nature instead of burying your head in a useless one in vain.
#3. Is It More Than The Victory?
Everyone likes to be victorious at the end of the day. It all boils down to positive outcomes. However, this doesn’t always happen. At times, you put in all your efforts and endeavors and still don’t cut the mustard, other times you do not make many efforts and achieve what you want. One must think of his or her battle and must see that the relationships do not get ruined in the process. Furthermore, if a battle costs you a lot in any terms, you should think twice about it. Afterall, insignificant battles are not worth our time and efforts.
#4. Consider Other Battles As Well
It is human nature to be in confusion when one has a lot on the plate; we cannot choose anyone and cull over what is the most appropriate solution for the current situation. People should be aware of other battles in life as well so that they are not ignored. A trivial battle is sometimes given more emphasis than a substantial and important battle. Make sure you keep in mind the all your battles and choose wisely out of them.
For instance, if you need to attend to your child’s needs, please do it instead of attending a meeting which is unnecessary. Your child comes first as he or she is your top priority. One can decide depending on the situations.
#5. Lean Against The Spiritual Side
If you are not spiritually active or aware, you would end up in a state of anxiety and doldrums. Do not let your weakness overpower or suppress you in any way. Trust your instinct and decisions and believe in the Almighty. If you do not tread the spiritual path, you are likely to ditch yourself, and this is how you can be the easy target for people to attack. Your vulnerability comes to the fore, and people take advantage of this, so just trust in God and pray for a brave soul so in order to choose your battles wisely and correctly.
#6. Look Beyond Your Own Life
When you stay away from your own concerns, you get to fight for something that matters. You can easily know what is good and bad and what is right and wrong. Do not hanker after money, power, authority, and charge, stay sane and take up a cause and work for that in a particular direction. It is no use wasting away your time on petty battles. We should look for opportunities in life through which we can make a difference in someone’s life and do our bit and help them in everyway
#7. Grapple Against Detrimental Approaches
The seven deadly sins must be fought with great courage and strength of will. We all have certain temptations, and it is human, there is nothing we can do about it. We have to deal with them anyhow, sometimes things like pride, lust, avarice, and wrath take over us and we are not able to make decisions and stuck in the rut. Fight against all the harmful attitudes that suppress you, once you overcome these occasional interruptions or attitudes, you can lay your hands on battle worth fighting.
#8. Avoid Small Compromises
If you ever do something which makes you compromise on moral grounds, you need to correct the wrong immediately. More often than not, we do not watch what we are doing and keep on making adjustments in life which can be catastrophic in future. Do not get carried away and shirk little and inessential settlements.
#9. Learn From Your Past
There is no better teacher than your past, it helps you delve into the details of what you did, how you did and what made you do a particular thing. So go back into your past, roll back the pages of your life and see where you went wrong. When you slip into your past, you get to see your mistakes so that you do not repeat them in future. Our past can guide us through the trauma and our confusion regarding our battles. Do not regret over past deeds and decisions, just look forward to making good decisions and attain good purposes in life.
#10. Trust God
Battles are an unending phenomenon in life, they come in various size depending on the intensity and level of circumstances. Surrender yourself to Him and pray him to give you energy and knowledge to achieve higher aims in life. Have complete faith in Him as he is the light that takes you through tough times and grants your strengths and confidence.
#11. See If It Threatens Fundamental Things In Your Life
If the battle you are taking up threatens the most important things in your life, you should give up on that battle. On should not think about such battles, let alone fight. The battles which give you zilch thereby snatching everything significant from you are worthless battles. Such battles have nothing in store and merely cosmetic and superficial, therefore, in order to choose your battles wisely, one must see if it harms them directly or indirectly in any way.
For instance, if any battle severs your relationship with your family for the lifetime, that very battle is insignificant and has no value whatsoever.
#12. Put Your Strengths Into Action
God has given us many strengths and we ought to use them in a wise way, and put them to a great use. We have been endowed with certain traits like integrity, honesty etc. which can help us scale great heights. If you go believe in God and his plans and work your strengths in a good order, you are likely to choose the most appropriate battle, thereby not giving your attention to gratuitous battles. All you have to do is pray to God to lend you wisdom so that you can make a good decision and do something productive.
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Life is full of battles in one or the other way. We must learn from our past as it helps us know our
mistakes. Our past serves as a mirror to us and we can introspect about us a great deal considering our
past. Sometimes we keep on making mistakes but when we turn towards past, we realize that we have
been repeating a mistake ad nauseam. It is completely foolish and absurd to repeat one’s mistake, we
must think seriously about our past deeds and learn from them. WE can avoid making mistakes in future
this way and choose our battles more carefully. When you are in a dilemma and cannot choose as to
what battle is worth fighting for, you need to consider the opinions of others as well. At times, others can
give you the best advice which you cannot even think of. No matter what you should see how this helps
you. For instance, if you engaged in something that has no value by a long shot, it is but preposterous go
for that battle. Our minds must be opened while deciding about our battles. You cannot take things
lightly when it comes to choosing battles. As the article says, on must consider the nature of the battle
and the impact of the battle. What if you pursue a battle that can wreak havoc on your entire personality
and reputation? What if a trivial battle snatches your family from you? What if that battle means zilch
ten years along the line? What is the subject matter of the battle you are fighting is petty? Think of every
possible consequence before taking up the gauntlet. I know it is easier said than done but once steer
clear of confusion and bewilderment you can make a right and good decision. Situations also decide
what one can do and what one is capable of doing. For instance, if you are thinking of a divorce with
your husband, do not plan it in haste, think of the ramifications it can cause and the effects on you and
your family. What if your child suffers without any fault of his? And why should he undergo the bad and
bitter phase because of you? Therefore think wisely and practically. Also, you can definitely pick up
something more valuable to you than the things that hardly matter. One can go and attend to your
friend’s need in times of adversity instead of getting into an ugly spat with your family members. So it
depends entirely on you – what do you want, how things affect you, the importance of those battles in
your life, yada, yada, yada. Yes, the spiritual side of a person is of utmost importance as well. I really like
this point in the article. We have to trust God and his powers. You should believe in miracles and human
power as well. One must pray so that God grants us the power, strength and caliber to choose our battles
in a wise manner.