How to be a Good Wife?

"Happy is the man who finds a true friend, and far happier is he who finds that true friend in his wife." - Franz Schubert 

When it comes to marriages, the relationship is pretty different and special. The level of attachment the couple shares is not just a perfect equation yet an inexplicable feeling altogether. And both men and woman have entirely distinct perspectives for getting into such a serious lifelong commitment, especially a woman. It is believed that marriages are made in heaven, but it also depends on the couple to carve out better understanding in reality. And this is when the important realization of how to be a good wife comes into play, to maintain a healthy companionship between you two.

Tips To Be A Good Wife 

Here are some really practical and powerful tips on how to be a good wife.

#1. Let Him Enjoy His Space

Be it any phase of the relationship, it is important for the wife to let her husband enjoy his personal space. It is highly significant for the two of you to enjoy your individuality. Relationships do not work when you start inspecting each other's activities. 

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If you are that kind of a wife who believes in keeping a check on your husband's routine, keep calling him on and off or want to be informed each time he goes out with his friends, then girl, it is time for you to change that attitude. It will surely make him love you more when you trust him and understand his space completely. Appreciate each other's privacy and don't just awkwardly keep crawling in.

#2. Express Your Love 

No matter how hard it is, showing your emotions is really essential. Hiding your feelings does no good for the relationship. You need to appreciate and acknowledge the love within. Try and find better opportunities for each other. Spend quality time and enjoy the relationship. 

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Even if it is small, gestures count. Celebrate those little things that you two do together. And do not hesitate when it comes to making him feel special. Occasionally give him presents or just plan a surprise lunch/ dinner. You need to make some kind of an effort to let the love sustain. You would not want to make the relationship stale and dull. Do things that excite your partner and make him feel that you care.

#3. Communicate

Communication is essential for one's survival. So, it needs to be H.O.T - Honest, Open and Two Way. But when you start lacking on it, this is when you start lacking on trust. Miscommunication leads to more doubtful situations, degrading values and no mutual intimacy. For a marriage to successfully last forever, it is important for the couple to communicate what they feel and how they feel about something. It is crucial, and this makes the relationship go on with ease. 

When the wife is willing to communicate her thoughts in an appropriate manner, even the husband wants to voluntarily listen to her. To strongly cement your bond, you need to sit down and clearly sort the problems that arise rather than yelling at him for his mistakes. Have a heart to heart communication and not strict interrogations.

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#4. Work On Enhancing Your Compatibility

To be a good wife, you need to work on enhancing the compatibility between you two. But how can you do so? It is really simple, just work towards intensifying your relationship skills. You absolutely need to make sure that the relationship is not falling apart but growing strong. Compatibility is not something that sprouts naturally. But, it is something that you two create amongst each other. And when any kind of dissimilarities crop up, it does not signal towards a breaking relationship. It is just indicated that you need to invest in stern efforts for rectifying the loss. 

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#5. Retain Realistic Expectations

None of you is perfect. But, both of you are exceptional in your own ways. So, your ultimate aim should not be to frustrate him with your highly demanding behavior but mutually find ways on satisfying them. Set such standards that are believable as well as obtainable. Because don't you think it would be unfair to keep demanding lavish things from your husband when even you are capable enough of doing so? Be an independent woman and if need be, help your husband too when it comes to the financial aspect. 

Even if financial matters are not concerned, go slow with your expectations. No relationship is absolute, and you need to accept the reality. In fact, work on appreciating what you have rather than what you do not!

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#6. How To Be A Good Wife? Do Not Modify His Behavior!

This again is an unacceptable demand! Remember that no two people are the same, not even your soulmates. And that is the reason wives shouldn't keep expecting changes from their husbands. It's a constant nagging behavior for self-benefits. And it gradually starts to disappoint the husbands. 

Changes to some extent are fine, but expecting him to change overnight and entirely is wrong. Until and unless his behavior is toxic for the relationship, let the man live his life and not feel marriage is like a burden. Be a good wife, not a mother to your husband. He needs a life partner, motherly love has already been showered at him!

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#7. Kids Change The Equation

This one is for the both of you. Not just the wife but even the husband needs to understand that having kids changes the situation entirely. Nothing appears to be the way it used to be. So, both of you need to spend time together with kids and understand your responsibilities. Both of you need to work as a team. Parenting isn't a solo effort, it strengthens the relationships only if you are willing to cope with the circumstances. Kids add an essence of love and work as a common goal for the couple to fulfill and raise with affection and admiration. 

But how to be a good wife and mom together? Find some fun activities that indulge the family and bring about a positive change. Having kids change the situation, but it also makes you understand the importance of having a shoulder and pillars of strength when in need. 

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#8. Become His Best Friend

There is a reason why best friends become the best married couple. When both of you understand each other like friends, it is not that difficult to manage a married relationship. True friends have the capabilities of developing genuine intimacy along with unconditional acceptance. So, if you are his best friend, there is a willingness demonstrated in the relationship that he wants to conquer and turn into a strong bond. 

Enjoy the shared intimacy, enjoy the inside jokes, discuss on interesting topics and cherish the companionship. Stay silent as even silence holds importance. To be a good wife, first aim to be the person who he finds most exciting. Become the person he would first come to no matter what the circumstances are. Be the one he doesn't hesitate coming to. Let your married life be strengthened through the magical bond of friendship.

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#9. Romance Is Essential

No matter what happens or how busy you are, make time for romance in your relationship. It helps in keeping your marriage alive and fresh. Manage your stress levels through one common activity. But we totally understand that it sometimes becomes difficult to think in that way once you have kids. However, going out once a week is surely possible. And in the case where you are a young couple without kids, make the love affair a memorable one. And romance applies not only to your bedroom intimacy, but it also applies to the beautiful little joys of life and special things you do for him that can renew your connection and rekindle the bond. 

Go for a romantically themed date night, opt for a long night drive or creatively decorate the room for the special moments to happen. Let your sexual association be spontaneous, kiss passionately, do not be judgemental when it comes to his appearance and turn your room into a dedicated sanctuary that drives in lovemaking as well as sound sleep.

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#10. If It Isn't Under Control, Put It On Hold

It is a woman's nature for acting like fixers every time. Women are anxious beings. They want to keep solving each and every matter, especially when it concerns their husbands. But that is not how to be a good wife and mom! Don't always try to keep fixing situations. Men are very much different from women. And no, they aren't kids who would require spoon feeding. 

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Just leave the situation as it is and walk away. Sometimes, in certain situations, this is the best you can do as a good wife. Do not regret and keep thinking that he needs you. Respect your individuality along with his. And remember that there always is a good time to talk about something, but that isn't now. Give him some space and love him, that is all what is required.

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