Despite knowing the fact that your relationship has technically come to an end, you are at times not ready to make it official and get over it. There is always something or the other which keeps you hooked to a relationship, especially when the relationship is detrimental to you. The most basic and obvious reason behind this is a natural human craving for love. However, there can be various other factors too which just do not allow you to call quits on that relationship.
Here are some reasons you hold onto the relationships which are bad for you.
#1. Too many strings attached
The most common reason people are not ready to let go of a relationship that is bad for them is that they are still emotionally attached to their partners. Having a soft corner for your partner can come in your way of putting an end to the relationship.
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#2. The level of confidence
Putting an end to a relationship can somehow have an impact on our level of confidence. At times, we end up basing our self-worth on our relationships. Even the thought of losing the relationship can drop your confidence low and find it easier to rather hold on to it.
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#3. What’s next?
Coming out of a relationship might be a scary scenario for you have no clue about what to do next. People also go through the fear of not being able to find another partner and ending up alone. The fear of ‘what happens next’ might drive people into thinking that holding on to their current relationship will at least keep their personal life secured.
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#4. The peer pressure
It becomes a matter of social stigma when you come out of a relationship at the time when commitment is in a vogue. Looking at all your peers who are way too happy in their relationships can make it difficult for you to put an end to your relationship.
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#5. The guilt factor
Another factor behind the breakup dilemma is one of those phases when you feel guilty for abandoning your partner despite the fact that the relationship is getting on every last one of your nerves. However delusional it might sound, feeling guilty while ending a relationship is only a human tendency in certain circumstances.
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#6. Financial dependency
Not having a strong financial support will leave you with almost no survival options post breakup. If you are living with and financially dependent upon your partner, it only makes you hold on to that rough relationship.
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#7. The never ending wait
Waiting for things to smoothen up seems more convenient than calling quits. When you are emotionally quite involved in your relationship, you automatically wait for things to get better on their own. Coming out of the relation hardly occurs to you and the wait becomes never ending.
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#8. Support system
Besides a financial support, you also need emotional support to gather the courage to put an end to your relationship. People who lack the support system of friends and family find it hard to let go of the relationship.
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#9. When the children are involved
It becomes extremely difficult to cut your partner out of your life when the children are involved. Raising your children on your own needs a large amount of courage and resources. Looking at the risks involved, you rather find it fitting to continue living with your partner instead of ending the relationship.
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Do you know any other reason why people hold on to the detrimental relationships? We would love to hear from you. Share your thoughts and opinions with us.
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It depends on the situation of the person who feels bad or is looked down upon. Many a times, there are problems with the financial dependency etc. Then there are other things also like, the guilt, ending up alone etc etc.
According to me the two most important reasons that makes the person think about not leaving a messed up relationship is because of the financial problem and if that is not something that is the biggest issue then, there is the problem of the guilt of leaving their partner. This usually happens with people who are sensitive and do not have a problem with their partner doing bad to them. This shouldn't be the case.
Every person has to understand that as soon as their self esteem is put into the 'make fun' zone, they should immediately strike back and hard. If they don't do it then, there will be a possibility of further damage and issues and than that will cause a bigger and more hurtful damage to everything.
I don't think that anybody would want that so, speak up in the beginning or suffer for the rest of your life.
I can only click on one of the options but the true picture is a combination of many reasons. Many times it's the pressure of the society along with the fact that you fear being alone and abandoned, not finding someone else or still nurse a soft corner for someone you have loved for long. It's often a combination of reasons that make you stay put despite the suffering.