Getting angry during a heated argument is natural. However, fuming with anger till you burst like a volcanic eruption is not a healthy practice. Therefore, one must learn to master the art of calming oneself down during such troubled times.
It may sound easy, but when rage is at its prime, you lose your rationality and act immaturely. Thus, it is critical that you learn to control the anger and maintain your calm in such times. Here are five best ways to manage your anger swiftly and efficiently.
#1. Think Of Something Funny
One of the best ways to divert the mind from the topic is by thinking of something else. Try to recall an episode that made you laugh out loud or remember an incident from the past that tries to pacify your mood and lighten it up. It will shift your attention to the happier times and help you manage your anger with greater ease.
Tip: Try remembering the person you love the most and some fond memories you have shared with them. It will subdue your anger and bring a smile on your face.
#2. Try Practicing The 3A Approach
If it is tough for you to divert your mind from the issue that is causing anger, try adopting the 3A approach to curb the anger. But, what exactly is the 3A approach? Acknowledge, Ask, and Add is the 3A’s that are effective in calming a person down. According to the approach, you first acknowledge what the person is saying. Once you have recognized it, ask what you feel is wrong with the situation. Then Add your opinion with phrases like ‘in my opinion,' ‘if I may add’ to ensure you sound polite while trying to address the issue.
Tip: Close your eyes for 3 seconds before you indulge in this approach. It will help you regain your rationality.
#3. Adopt Innocence Strategy
Nobody likes to be proven wrong. If you feel that the other person is unnecessarily engaging in an argument, you take the innocence strategy. Instead of highlighting the mistake of the individual, try to indulge in innocent questions that make the other person realize their faults. This way you have neither proven them wrong nor have you offended them.
Tip: While asking questions, try not to mock the person and pose genuine questions that make them realize their fault. Else, it will sound offensive.
#4. Practice Deep Breathing Technique
There are times when nothing can help you stay calm in an argument. The mindless words of the person coupled with your thought that you think are always correct, lead to a situation beyond control. In such times, one must resort to deep breathing as a way to calm oneself down. It not only allows you to relax but be vigilant of what you are saying. When one is angry, they often say things out of turn. This is the best way to control your tongue and not say anything that may hurt the other individual.
Tip: Try doing a set of 10 to curb the raging anger!
#5. Seek Solution To The Problem
Once you have practiced deep breathing and calmed your motor skills, it’s best to ask the other person involved as to what they want as the solution to the argument. This way, you get a clear picture as to what are they fighting for. You can then manipulate their wants with what works in your favor and win the argument.
Tip: Remember to calm yourself down before the other person does, to take a driving seat of the argument and manipulate it in the direction you want to.
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No...(Although I really wanted to)
I have strongly considered it but the prospect of spending a night in jail is not all too appealing so I held back.
Sometimes the anger comes out as irritation and that is way more than the anger. I would suggest drinking water at the time of extreme rage.