Is anger justified? Of course, yes. Feeling agitated for genuine reasons is thoroughly justified. Anger is an emotional outbreak, however, how we show our anger is a question of dispute. Anger is a powerful device to express our erupting emotions and it is important that it should be expressed appropriately to justify its discharge. The underlying anger of a group has seen mass destruction and death in history, and uncontrolled anger of individuals has changed the course of relationships in personal lives. If each individual starts reacting to anger in a total rage, the result will only be disastrous and undesirable.
In our lives, we face stiff challenges frequently which invariably push us to a corner from where the only option exists is to explode. It is very difficult to think straight under these circumstances. This is where we should learn to control our emotions and start looking at things more rationally. Controlling anger can go a long way in leading a healthy life. Reacting to anger with rage sometimes can break good relationships and will possibly leave an imprint of a guilt which, in turn, will leave a permanent scar that will stay in our hearts the rest of our lives.
While accepting anger is justified, it is also true that managing the anger by suppressing all genuine reasons to be angry with sheer will force can be very harmful. If we do not show our anger, which was truly justified, then it becomes a mental torture and we tend to become accustomed to insults and injuries.
Anger, arguably, has been an element of many changes and the contributor for some positive things to happen also. The angry feelings should never produce any detrimental reactions. We should learn to live with our anger for a short while, analysing and identifying the cause and the future course of action productively to ensure a positive result. However, anger should never be bottled up for long as it will have a disastrous side effect. We should find a way to express our anger in a positive way without destroying the bonds of relationships. Bottling up emotions will lead to its explosion one day with such intensity that it can cause the utmost and undesirable damage in one’s life.
How to define justified anger? We come to the conclusion on our own that we are justified and sometimes go beyond our limits in an unjustified manner. Anger is a valuable device that can turn into a destructive weapon if not justified. We have got to analyse whether our anger can bring any solution to the problem or provoke things to turn from bad to worse. We cannot treat anger as a symbol of our pride. The end result should be the contributing factor and our emotions should commensurate with a look out for an amicable solution.
• Think calmly before you speak - Heat of the argument can make you say unpleasant things, which will make you feel sorry later. Take some time, assemble your feelings and then say something.
• Show your anger for justified reasons. It is important to show your anger but in a controlled way, and as far as possible, without shouting. Let the other party understand your feelings without any confrontation.
• Try to find a solution. Anger will never bring a solution. So think calmly on resolving the problems rather than getting mad for things that went wrong.
• Never allow any negative feelings or anger to encircle your mind fully as it will lead to irresistible rage and a sense of injustice. Learn to forgive someone even if he has angered you unjustifiably. The other party will get a chance to learn from his mistakes. Holding a grudge against someone is injurious to your own health.
• Meditation or relaxation strategies – Deep breathing exercises, repeating a soothing word, listening to music etc. are not only stress relievers but also work very well in anger management.
Conclusion: Anger is a judgment of one’s viewpoint of an event. It can be justified or unjustified as it is the perception of someone which may or may not be correct. It is, therefore, important that we show our anger in a civilized way without hurting and strangling any relationships.
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