The World Of Secrets: What To Keep And Not To Keep From The Spouse

Every couple has its own set of dark and deep secrets that they may or may not want to share with their beloved. But that does not mean, they don't love their spouse?

There are times when you must keep some secrets wrapped in the closet while others can float outside in the open. It is not because you are worried it would hamper your relationship with your lover, but they are not necessary for your partner to know. Let's talk about the secrets you must and you must not share with your partner.

Secrets To Not Share With Your Partner

Let's quickly go through some secrets that MUST NOT be kept from the lover:

#1. The Burden Of Your Past

One should not hide the baggage one carries from their past relationships. Instead, indulge in a conversation with your spouse and share the details about your past to ensure that you both enjoy transparency. This will not only strengthen your bond but also get you closer on a personal front.

#2. Acknowledge Your Financial Secrets

Are you a spendthrift or a miser? Whether you have taken a loan against property or you are suffering from significant debts, share your financial secrets with your loved one. They will not be judgmental for the same and would rather extend their support in looking for a solution.

#3. Social Addictions

If you are addicted to something, be it alcohol or narcotics, your spouse has the right to know this vital information about you. Hiding the same would reflect your fear. You must not conceal such crucial facts about your personality from your partner. It will lead to creating a difference between the two which may intensify with time. 

#4. History Of Sexual Abuse

If you have ever been subjected to any form of sexual abuse, you must not hide this from your partner. Although it may be difficult to talk about it initially, as you narrate the horrors of your tale, you will see bonding with your spouse on an emotional level.

#5. Disclose Your Health History

Who doesn't have a medical problem in today's age? However, it is your moral duty to inform your spouse about your health. Whether it's cancer, depression or a mere bypass, keep no secrets from the one you love when it comes to health. 

Secrets To Keep From Your Partner

In contrast to these, there are certain secrets that you MUST keep from your spouse. 

#1. If You've Had A Better Love

Is your partner as passionate as your ex-lover? If not, then it's better to keep this fact under seal. Your partner may not like the comparison with your ex-lover. Try not to share this secret; it could create a rift between the two and lead to insecurities.

#2. If Your Relative Thinks You Could Have Done Better

Love is blind. You don't realize when a person walks into your life, steals your heart and makes it their's forever. While you may feel that the person you are with is the best for you, your family may hold a different opinion. Just ensure their views is not spoken out in the open before your partner. It may cause pain to them.

#3. Their Best Friend Is Attractive

It's okay to find someone else attractive but don't cheat on your partner. However, don't share the detail about finding your partner's best friend attractive with your partner either. It will add to the insecurities and make things uncomfortable in their friendship.

#4. Their Dressing Style Doesn't Appeal To You

Not everyone can dress up like Madonna or Robert Downey Jr! Hence, accept your partner for who they are. If you do not like their dressing sense, don't say it directly. Give them subtle hints by taking them out for shopping and help them improve their wardrobe. 

#5. Never Share Your Best Friend's Secret

You and your best friend share a special equation. Do not add a third person to that special bond. There are some things about your best friend's life that they want to keep as a secret from the world other than you. Respect their decision and do not share every detail with your spouse. It will shatter your best friend's trust in you.

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