Should you Relocate to a New Place for Love?

Are you in a long distance relationship with your partner? Is the traveling to and fro tiring you guys out? Have you considered to relocate for love? There are chances that you might have given a thought to this. Uprooting your life and moving to a different location is a difficult choice to make; the outcome of your choice hinges on the outcome of your relocation.

Moving countries for love seems a bit extreme, but sometimes it is what is needed to be done. Before you make such a drastic change in your life, you should consider why you want to move. Will you be happy? Is there a great job waiting for you? And the most promising question: Is someone waiting for you there?

Before you make a decision or rush into things, stop and ask yourself the following questions:

#1. Where Is The Relationship Going?

The first and foremost thing you need to ask yourself and your partner is- Where is your relationship going? Is it worth this huge step? Talk with your partner and ask what they feel is the outcome of the relationship. It might be hard to talk about wants and scary to consider that there may not be a serious intention (yet) or even devastating to discover that your future goals are incompatible. But it is necessary to have this talk to make things clearer.

#2. Is This Move An Act Of Love?

You will be uprooting your life from a place that you have known for a long time. Your career and day to day life will be hugely impacted. Ask your future self whether you will resent this move or will it increase your joy. A move should be an act of love, not a trump card.

#3. Are You Both Willing To Relocate?

If you are in a loving and a healthy relationship, both the partners should consider moving. If your partner is forcing you to relocate and refuses to move you should seriously reconsider the thought of relocating. Career, family conditions and the location of moving are several factors that you should consider before you uproot your life. A move should be about the two of you together, as a team, both open to the possibility of how you can accomplish that.

#4. Is This A Short-Term Solution To A Bigger Problem?

Consider whether or not your move would cover up larger problems that are not really about distance but character. Moving may resolve the annoying fight over whose turn it is to travel to the other or about next Saturday’s availability. But when it gets down to it, the core of those discussions is not really about your gas bills; it’s about your ability to deal with conflict and one another’s capacity for service to the other. If a key ingredient like that is missing now, how will you resolve it once you’ve moved? Or maybe you have difficulty trusting your beloved while you're far away. When you’re closer, will your trust issues fade away? Either your partner is giving you reasons to be suspicious, or the mistrust comes from within yourself, which will take a lot more than a move to overcome. Working through issues rather than finding a short-term solution is a better indicator of the strength of your relationship. Talk with your partner to see if this move would heighten your joy or just temporarily patch a bigger problem.

#5. What If You Break Up?

The biggest thing you should consider before relocating is “what if you guys break up”. You might believe that you and your partner love each other unconditionally and will never break up. However, you have to seriously consider the possibility of a breakup. You don’t necessarily need a Plan-B but think about the possible repercussions of your move.

Consider these things and ask yourself these questions before you make the big move. If you think there are more things to consider before making the big move, let us know. Also, would you be willing to relocate for love? Tell us in the comment section below.

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