We always see in the movies, fairy tales, television and so many other places, that great feeling of having the first love and the incredible emotions attached with it. This is a very natural feeling, and we all are inclined to give a little extra attention to our first love.
See, there can be a time that we did not find ‘the one’ on the first go. So what? Everybody makes mistakes, and you also made one. No big deal. The only thing to think about now. Make sure that you don’t start looking at the breakup from first love as the end, but the start of something new and exciting.
Okay so first you need to get out of that sad look! Now, read the reasons why is your second love a great thing to step in.
#1. You Are Experienced Now!
Whenever you d anything for the first time, there will be a possibility that it did not turn out to be perfect. There is no need to regret it.
In fact, by gaining the experience from your first relation, you know what are the things to be kept in mind in your next relationship.
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As you fall in love for the second time, you begin to realize that you have learned and grown a lot compared to your first love. This is where you become mature.
#2. You Know You Can Handle Breakups
After your first breakup, things become tight. It is then that you realize that unlike classic love stories, every fight does not end with a kiss in the rain. The first breakup is indeed the toughest to get over, especially when you did not break it up.
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But, as soon as you recover from that heartbreaking experience, you understand you are a strong person. And if you can overcome that, you can handle the breakups. So, there is no fear of ‘what if it doesn’t work out?’
#3. You Are A Grown-up Now
Your first love happens at school or college when your biggest issues are to go to the prom with the first love! But when you get in your second love, you not only get older, but your responsibilities and maturity level also increases.
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This makes way for a much more serious relationship and taking big steps together like a live-in relation or getting married.
#4. You achieve emotional balance (kind of!)
Emotions like jealousy, possessiveness, intimacy, cuddles, calls, rage, resentment, etc. get a little too excessive in the first time. And you also get carried away in that emotional flow. This is purely natural.
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When something as big as love happens to you for the first time, then the emotional state goes dramatically high. But, when the same things happen to you for the second time, then you have a better approach to handle it.
#5. You Are Not Dating The Same Person Again
Thank God for that! Always remember that you aren’t dealing with the same person that you were in your first relation.
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You can very well pick and choose the one that suits you the most and then make a move.
#6. Recognizing The Drama, And Getting Over It
The experience of your first relationship helps you differentiate between the cheesy and false promises of your partner and their true and genuine side.
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This will help you to recognize when to trust them and when to let the phase pass.
#7. You Face Your Fear
When you break up for the very first time, then most of you tend to create certain boundaries for yourself, and we try not to have anything like this ever again. This is because we fear that things might go bad again and you cut ‘love’ or ‘being loved’ out of your life.
Falling in love for the second time means, generating those positive emotions again and facing the things that you feared the most after your first breakup.
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#8. You Can Be Who You Are
This is the most important lesson that we learn from our first relationship. In the first go, we try anything and everything to impress our partner. But, the fact is, that it is a mere pretend! We are something near to the opposite of what we present (in most cases).
On entering a more mature and serious relation, we can be adults about accepting each other with their flaws.
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#9. You Still Have The Spark!
It’s not that one major heartbreak has killed all the spark inside you. You still got it, and that will help to add interest in your second relation.
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#10. It Will Hurt Less
If you have a heartbreak the second time, then, you know that you will escape it, the way you did it the first time.
So, it will be a lot easier to cope up with it and move on (just remember if Ross could move on so can you).
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#11. You Know That The Search Isn’t Over Yet
Even after ending your second relation, you know that things aren’t over yet and you might find your better half anywhere! This is why you don’t give up very easily in the second breakup.
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Is there anything else that you learned from your first love. Then go ahead, share it with us in the comment section.
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