Falling In Love: The Perfect Guide To How It Happens

Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy. It does not boast. It is not proud. It is not self-seeking, it isn't easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongdoings. Love rejoices with the truth. It protects, trusts, hopes and endures! ~ A verse from the Bible

Despite all that science has to offer, love is a human emotion that is necessary for one’s survival. It’s altogether a different kind of an experience.

We usually fall for the person who we find attractive or who we share an intense chemistry with, leading to opening up a great opportunity for the two to self-expand. 

Whether it’s between parents, love partners, friends or children – there is some satisfaction that we look to fulfill. According to the Maslow’s hierarchy, when there’s a deficiency of needs, it motivates people to achieve desirable necessities. Love is one of them and in a majority of cases, it sustains for life.

Love is also more than just a facial symmetry or a few chemical reactions. There are several concrete reasons that advance towards a higher level of psychology. Family values, respect, friendship, responsibilities, empathy, and integrity withstand the relationships. But have you ever wondered about other fall-in-love factors that lead to the process of lust-attraction-attachment? Probably it could be one of these:

#1. Desirable Characteristics

This attribute is mainly focused on the external appearances that are found to be desirable. It could be her well-spaced eyes that make you want to dive right into or maybe his overall personality that keeps you excited throughout. We consciously or subconsciously look out for such characteristics and the judgment at times is swift!

#2. Synchronicity Of Interests

According to a recent study by the Rice University published in their Journal of Politics, people who retain similar political views tend to connect deeper. Their understanding is much better than the ones who have dramatically opposite views. It also includes other beliefs and interests that people involve into.

 #3. Being Considerate

When you put others in the first place and are thoughtful towards them, it's an attractive trait. There's a fine line between being a pleaser and being selfless. However, it’s also not surprising when people overextend themselves to end being emotionally damaged. But being considerate enough is also essential.

#4. Mystery

When there’s an enigma surrounding the other person, curiosity to know them better too initiates the temptation and passion. Wondering when the other person would give rise to the communication can also contribute towards a strong attraction. 

#5. Seclusion

To escalate the feelings of love and passion at times require people to spend time in isolation. So, the spark can ignite when there’s alone time available (intentionally or involuntarily).

#6. Reciprocation

It’s not always mutually happening. When we feel bad about ourselves, we tend to miss out on the opportunities of falling in love. But, even in such situations if someone else reciprocates the love with affections, there are chances that we would start feeling the same.

#7. Cultural Attractiveness

According to a psychological study, men living in regions with scarce money and food tend to attract plump women than the petite ones. On the other hand, it’s not at all surprising that skinny people are idealized in places where there are plenty of resources to go about!

#8. The Biological Factor

Every relationship we develop is often influenced by our genetic makeup. We are most likely to carry out certain biological markers for idealizing attractions and turning them into attachments. An Italian study suggests that biology plays an important role and not every time science can forecast our love activities.

#9. Chemical Makeup

Selflessness, sacrifices made and making the significant other a part of your life is a psyche. There’s an underlying mechanism for things happening to a certain extent. Dopamine initiates the intensity of pleasures. Testosterone and estrogen give rise to the sexual cravings. Serotonin tricks your moods and Oxytocin releases the feeling of attachment (between couples) that’s for a lifetime.

There might be hundreds of scientific, psychological and evolutionary reasons. But at the end, we love who we want to, and the whole act makes us want to exhilarate. Let us know through the comment section below about what your thoughts and opinions. We would love to hear from you!

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