Do you feel left at out parties? Or do you wish to be more likable when around people? Well, who doesn’t? Everyone has their own individual personality and we all follow our own manners of self-expression, which are, trust us, completely enough to make you likable.
But there are times when you have to make deliberate efforts to be more likable to make an impression on people you are around. It may benefit you in networking, career development and socializing.
But do you know what to do to become more likable? Being liked by people doesn’t take much. As per your efforts are concerned, the more effortless it is, the better results you’ll yield.
#1. Stay Respectful And Polite
The first thing that you do is to greet the people you meet. Be it someone you know, or a complete stranger, your attitude needs to be right. Acting judgmental or displaying a dismissive attitude will take you no more. It will only give way to negative feelings and people will only dislike you. if you plan to be more likable, you should always practice meeting and greeting people with charm, calm and respond to them using “pleases” and “thank-you’s” as and when required.
Keep your biasedness aside when you meet new people; be it a waiter or a guard or a company’s CEO, you need to respectable and polite while making your conversations.
#2. Always Wear Your Confidence
Confidence is your biggest asset when you are self-endorsing. Why would one buy a deal from you when you aren’t convinced yourself? You will be more likable only when you display confidence in what you do without being cocky or arrogant about your skills. There is a healthy level of confidence which shows that you are doing great but there are still others who can and are doing better than you. If you always keep self-criticizing or put yourself down, people will not show much interest in being around you. If you wish to become likable, you’ll have to keep your confidence level balanced, so to make sure that you do not create a wrong picture.
#3. Be Honest, Yet Gentle
They say it right that Honesty Is the Best Policy, but they didn’t tell us that it’s the most difficult too. Difficult to say and more difficult to hear. We do advise you to be honest with people you like and care about, but at the same will warn you of being very polite about it. Honesty is probably a virtue and a vice at the same time if not practiced the right way. If you want to be more likable, you’ll have to keep playing with your words while passing an honest statement. Frame them in a way that doesn’t offend or upset them. Being polite while advising honestly will generate trust in people and you’ll instantly become likable. Avoid using negative comments; rather convert them into affirmative sentences to make it sound better.
#4. Be A Good Listener
Do you feel great when someone gives you attention? Don’t you instantly happen to like them? So, isn’t this the simplest way to be more likable? You just need to listen to what people have to say. Usually, when we engage in a conversation, we tend to be on the speaking side and other person’s input becomes secondary to us. But if you like people who listen to your stories, you’ll have to become one to be liked as well. Try to be very engaging by holding an eye contact, nodding your head, commenting and questioning, and using the appropriate body postures to tell the speaker that you are listening.
#5. Be Curious
Apart from being able to listen to people, it is really important that you are attentive while making a conversation. When you listen carefully, you always come across a lot of questions. Ask them. Keep your why’s, what’s, how’s, who’s handy and use them to clarify your doubts. Asking questions or backing up the speaker even when you are talking, in general, makes them feel that you are interested. And when they know that you are interested in knowing them, they’ll naturally start liking you.
#6. Call Them By The Name
It is a little surprising but works all the time. Using the person’s name during the conversation makes a huge difference. Hearing out our names being called activates a particular part of the brain that remains latent otherwise and we absolutely love it. Our names are our identity and when someone uses it repeatedly while talking, arouses the sense of identity within us making that person likable. Do not make deliberate efforts of using the name, just use it in general statements when greeting them, or asking for a favor or in statements as simple as “ How are you, Rob?”. Insert them casually, just anywhere.
#7. Be Aware Of Your Audience
When you have different social groups to look after, it is better to decide which one’s more important. Things were different when your only objective was to be part of the coolest group in high school. Now you want to more likable among your colleagues and be noticed by your superiors. Just know who you are dealing with and play the right cards. Get an insight into what they like, what interests them and what are the qualities in a person that they highly appreciate. After knowing these basic details, you can act upon in a manner that’ll make you likable instantly. According to recent studies, trustworthiness, honesty, warmth, and kindness are the highest rated, and most valued qualities (with intelligence and sense of humor following) that make you more likable by people around you.
#8. Laughter
A good sense of humor goes a long, long way when you are trying to become a likable character. With so much stress and tensions surrounding us all the time, who doesn’t like a few moments of laughter and happiness? When people know that you are playful and funny, they’d automatically approach you to make a conversation. Joking around also works as a great ice breaker, or just like Chandler, use it to avoid awkward situations. Interestingly, some studies even reveal that embarrassing oneself makes people like and trust them more. Makes sense, doesn't it?
#9. Open Up
Let’s face the fact that each one of us wants to be like, why? Because it makes life a lot easier as you’ll always be surrounded by well-wishers and people who like you. But how do you become more likable? Just simply smile, or uncross your arms, turn off your phone, and listen carefully. You have your world in front of you, just live it to the fullest. Think about the people you want to be liked by, and just approach them. If you cannot initiate, then become approachable. Make sure your vibes are welcoming. Stay relaxed and be engaged in your current environment and keep noticing people. You have won the battle if you do all this right.
#10. Do Not Underestimate The Power Of Human Touch
Human touch is an essential reason for us being happy today. A kid who isn’t touched enough, do not thrive. If you wish to develop a more concrete bond with people, you’ll have to find opportunities to touch them. Appropriate touch, we meant! A high five or maybe a hand on their shoulder is enough to signal the person that you care. To be more likable, you’d have to play with the power of human touch. A light touch on the arm while walking past a friend makes a huge difference. These little touches help in creating a bond, a chemistry, and trust. So get touching… in all the right ways, please!!
Being likes by people around you always feel good until it doesn’t take much from you. Just be the person you are and people will like you naturally. Be fun, be easy and enjoy what’s coming your way.
Can you think of someone who is very likable in your social circle? What has made them so likable? Is it their humor, or their body language? Let us know in the comment section below.
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