Drama exists in everyone’s life, but really everyone does have a choice to the amount of drama they want to have in their life. A lot of people constantly strive for peace and happiness and yet when they find it, they are not content. The reason is simply that they are used to living restlessly. Sounds silly right? How can someone allow restlessness to be ao part of their daily life?
Boredom and addiction to action are the main reasons for never being content when nothing is happening. One needs to relax when they have accomplished their tasks and have free time on their hands only working too much. Man’s ego has always been the driving factor of doing more; they even pretend that having extravagance in life makes them better than others. The truth is that any person who starts feeling empty and restless when they are not actively discussed is addicted to drama and will seek it all the time and if it is not available to do his best to create it.
#1. Distance Yourself From Tabloids
Nowadays, In this age of Facebook and Instagram, no one needs to know how these stories are created. Celebrities are people who stay in the limelight as the public associates with them and their fans think that if they post similar stories or fabricate one if it doesn’t exist, it will get them into the limelight as well. One needs to understand that celebrities are people too and the events that happen in their lives are similar to that which happens to people. Gossip magazines and yellow journalism are all about creating hype in every story sensationalizing aspects which are common and of no value to one’s personal life. A person who doesn’t read these things remains rooted in reality and doesn’t get carried away with his feelings.
#2. Define The Relationships
Most of the drama in life happens due to relationships when they try to spill over and force you to choose between anyone. This happens with all of us, doesn’t it? Parents may not spend time with you all the same, and you end up getting attached to one more than the other, favoring them when it comes to settling an argument, deteriorating the one you have with the other even further. We crave for love and affection, and lack of it does distance us from people who are not serving this need. Every relationship you have, even the one with your parents, need to have some unspoken rules and some rules need to be discussed so that everybody knows what it is that will jeopardize their relationship. You need to have a zero tolerance policy for people who cross the line even loved ones because if you don’t then you will have to deal with their bullshit time and time again.
#3. Value Your Time
You have good parents, not perfect ones! No one has perfect parents as they don’t exist and you have a sibling who respects your privacy and gets privacy in return. On top of that, you even have a partner who loves you and a best friend you share most of the things with. What more do you want? Accommodating all these loved ones in your life is a hard enough task so if you try to add another person in your life just because you know everything about the ones existing in your life, you are hooked on to excitable emotions. Familiarity breeds contempt, but only if you let it, it can also breed creativity as you keep looking to make new things and share new experiences with the ones you have in your corner instead of looking to add more. Moreover, if you do get more time on your hands, you can always take up that old interest you had to let go of when you set on your career path.
# 4. Steamroll Half- Relationships
You have a few friends who you play soccer with regularly or a group that plays guitar every two weeks. Do they add meaning and value to your life or are they the ones that can be easily done away with? How much do you value what you are doing? Adult life is all about priorities, and you need to be selective about things you spend your time on. Everyone can do it all; it just depends on their definition of all. We know that experience in a particular field can wear even the best of men down, but the mental rust can only be cleared by having a positive perspective when negativity has you by the throat. It’s never a good idea to have half relationships because they stop you from giving your all.
#5. Goals
Tie yourself to goals instead of people. Setting big goals leave you with little to no time for drama in your life. You are constantly chasing something that demands that you outdo your best and grow in the process. Having one partner who you love can go a long way in realizing the goals you have set yourself along with achieving more than you hoped for.
#6. Separate Drama From Real Issues
It is a little difficult to detect the difference between real issues and dramas as both of them can generate hype and over the top reactions. Life has a way of imparting it’s sense of tragedy to everyone alive. Grief and Disappointment spare no one but it is really up to oneself to control the amount of involvement in any particular thing. You need to be discerning and attentive before believing the hue and cry of the person who is in front of you. Getting a read on the person is easy if you have spent a lot of time with them and the ones you don’t know if they come up to you with something you will be more or less passive to their cause and feelings. A sense of attachment with someone only comes when you have spent a lot of time with them, and you must be affected only by the ones you deeply care for and know only get upset when something is really bothering them.
# 7. Don’t Socialize More Than You Need Toh
Meet and Greet only the ones you share a close working relationship with. This is hard to implement as in your sphere of socializing, not everyone can be at the center and some will be on the fringes. If you hang with people who you work with you will be on the same page when it comes to thinking of ideas and innovation to improve and increase the scale of your business.
#8. Meditate
Life is messy and if you are living it, you need to keep yourself in the balance and remove yourself for every few minutes every day. This helps you block things which do not concern you and reminds you that it is not your responsibility to be in control of everything that is going around you. Breathe in and breathe out for a few minutes and stop your thoughts that keep rolling till it feels they have you arrested. If we don’t do this, we keep fanning the fire that eventually makes us hot with rage.
# 9. Don’t Lie
Lying can hamper any relationship you are in and some people no matter how many people tell them not to lie find it amusing and even wise as they think that they are evading reality. The truth about reality is that one can never evade it, what one does in his time here gets written in the pages of history. Lying not only creates a web that you try to catch people in, but it also fails to catch them and makes sure you are the only one who is caught in it. A lot of people claim they have heart and are kind whereas all they really get pleasure from are wicked games of cheating and dishonesty. This may seem to them as a cool and dramatic life when it is just a life of never getting cared for and never really caring from anyone from the heart.
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Drama no matter how much you try to avoid it finds a way in your life and my life was also full of drama and a little despair. We do get a little heated and excited every now and then when our feelings are uncontainable. When our emotions spill over they mess up the emotional equilibrium of others around us. If someone hates you and you stop and accept that they hate no matter how close they were to you or how strong your relation is whether of blood or bond you cannot question their hatred once it has settled deep. Trying to get rid of their hatred will only end up consuming you after making you uncomfortable. People can be a fickle bunch at times and it is very important to watch what they do instead of what they speak. All of us can claim the moral high ground over anything we wish to hold onto and then say that we do this that’s why we don’t need to do what you are doing. Beware of their self-deception, never forget the truth about men that we come from nothing and are headed to nothing so what we surround ourselves with is not just an extension of our self-worth but our actual self-worth. People overreact and exaggerate the importance of things from time to time, this forces them to shout and yell when something unexpected happens. The feeling of meeting the ends is never really attained by dramatic people because whenever they achieve one thing the move the ends and perceive dissatisfaction at it. One big factor in avoiding drama is to eliminate critical mindset which questions the how and why of what you do and what impulses drive you to do these things. People prone to dramatic outbursts always have a fractured sense of right and wrong and often fret more about the approval of others rather than their own opinion. One needs to understand the effect of what is happening to them and the impact it has on their life. Petty arguments and little stuff that confirms that people are just venting and ranting because they have made themselves feel the heat about these things. Having a calm temper and belief system that does not waver when people behave irrationally around you is the surest way to diffuse the drama. At time when people realize that they are not getting what they want they summon their hysteria and believe that riding it spouting shit at the other person will make the other person surrender. One must not give in to this frenzy and tell people to control themselves and walk away when they don’t stop. This is the way to keep your head above waters and when you feel like things are spiralling out of control quiet your mind and analyze the situation instead of reacting badly to it and tell others just the same.