Being one’s true self is really a challenge as conformism runs deep and high in our society. The resistance of even the strongest is broken when their non-conformism blocks their daily money-making. When one conforms to something it doesn’t believe in, he or she is going against his true nature and true sense. We can get confused by both reality and imagination when we increase our rate of thinking.
The quote ‘Those that don’t have it, can’t show it. Those who got it, can’t hide it’ by Zora Neale Hurston tells the only truth there is to know about us which is that our abilities and talents are the ones that separate us from our fellow members. In order to be your true self, you need to look at the success of others as a challenge and inspiration instead of whining that you haven’t done this.
#1. Define Yourself
Being yourself is all about doing things which makes you happy and withdrawing yourself from activities you don’t like. People often receive scathing attacks on them from others when they don’t do something that others are doing and sometimes even receive the ones which come when people are just releasing their anger. All of us fill ourselves with anger from time to time, owing to an existential meltdown or pure jealousy out of the competition. One needs to convince oneself that if one undertakes things which make them happy, they won’t be fighting with themselves over doing things which make them unhappy and after one has done their job for the day, he/she can finish it with an expression of contentment. This period can be used to do other things you like either you can relax or chase something else if you are not satisfied with what you have accomplished for a thoroughly satisfying life.
#2. Practice Efficient Self Communication
Self- communication can often break or make a person. You need to tell yourself positive things in order to have a positive mindset because if you don’t you will make yourself vulnerable to criticism and negativity. A person who can uphold positive mindset at all times is sure to have more fun and inspire the same in others.
#3. Embrace The Real World
A lot of people find it very difficult to lose their imaginary view of themselves. When we get bitter or sore about something, we want to get out of this mood fast, and sometimes we imagine things to shield us from the truth. Not confronting our shortcomings and failure and continue to believe what we are not, can fuel our vanity and make us unappealing in the eyes of other people. When we embrace our reality and form the determination to change its aspects that we are not okay with we will triumph at some point and be pleased with our efforts.
#4. Visit A Trained Professional
All of us are suckers when it comes to acceptance and approval and no matter how much we tell others about ourselves we don’t tell them all. This may be because we have already received a plethora of comments and opinions when we shared what was personal to us and don’t need the same bad things from other people. A person in the capacity of a trained professional will still be a person but you will be able to deliver yourself in front of them with brutal honesty as you won’t have inhibitions about being judged.
#5. Revisit Your Childhood
Often in your childhood, you are supposed to do things which stem from the belief of your parents, and they convince you that doing this thing is sure to give you boundless joy for years to come. As parents always wish the good of their children, the chances are that they knew what you would excel at and you may have been one of those first time lucky child. However excelling at one thing and staying with it forever can simply mean never trying out other things in life. Fascination can be endless if you are enamored with all things and when you have given your all to one thing reaching the summit of your potential for that thing, you will for sure get bored or too full of it and here the other things you have tried out will help you.
#6. Avoid Comparison
A comparison is the death of harmony, and it really is as it forces you to think about the other person than yourself either shrinking your esteem or growing both of which take you far from the state of bliss you were in when you were just doing things from yourself. Always remember that outer appearances of people can deceive you about their inner selves and what’s going on in their life so to stay true to yourself, you have to continue doing what you are doing without worrying what others will think or say?
#7. Everyday Won’t Be The Same
Striving to be perfect can get you and get you bad, really bad when you convince yourself that only when a particular thing happens will I be content. Albert Einstein said that life is like riding a bicycle, so you have to keep moving. We partly agree with that, that we have to keep moving but the setbacks and obstacles that we cannot overcome at a particular point are just opportunities that we can undertake again and this time with more wisdom. You cannot be on the move all the time about one thing but you certainly can be on the move all the time about many things. So, when you are having a bad day, just tell yourself that feeling a little low on energy makes you human.
#8. Acknowledge Your Multiple Needs
Humans are an erratic race who can’t do stability and security for a long time without a reckless habit that they can go on and off. You can write about your feelings in a journal or paint different colors on a canvas and associate them with a particular feeling. This will help you know how you react when you are going through a particular feeling. Knowing yourself is not only knowing about your tastes and like but also knowing how you behave when a particular feeling courses through you. This will help you know your character better after you have laid down what drives you more and what you don’t react to. When you know which feelings brings out the best in you, then you know what fibers you are really made of. A single feeling in a single moment is too less to define you, but the same feeling expressed more than other feelings is the one to define your character.
#9. Trust Your Instinct
Snap out of over-thinking and embrace the truth that is ‘All our final decisions are made in a state of mind that is not going to last.’ So when we reflect on past final decisions, we are just asking for the same truth over and over again. This can make one insane as this truth will not change although through reflection we can make hay of this statement but then the action that will be a counter by words for words. Instinct, on the other hand, launches you towards your calling and settles you down with yourself making you happy and pleased with your choice. Don’t give in to the hysteria of other people instead make your own noise.
#10. Play With Words
What makes you eccentric can be described by a person with a critical mindset as a flaw whereas at the same time a person with a not so critical mindset may describe it as a quirk and in both cases, these words will make an impression on your mind. If and when you revisit this, it can make a great difference in how you react to the word 'flaw' riling you up whereas quirk is not ruffling you that much. As long as you stay competitive in what you are doing to earn a living and don’t unnecessarily hurt others, you should not worry about what people think about your other manners.
#11. Analyze Your Habits
We have a tendency to realize our habits only when they have become too strong. They often throw us by surprise and sometimes we only take notice of them when someone points them out to us. You make too much noise while eating or you always start singing when you are too happy are some examples where we are powerless to change this about us and you never should. Habits are the manifestations of our character traits and go a long way in securing our future behavior and not adding confusion in the mind of people who know us.
Tell us the thing you do that assert your belief that you are being yourself and times in which you don’t feel like yourself at all. Drop your comment in the comment section below.
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