Have you ever used an elastic band? The property of an elastic band is that it is stretchable. Take an elastic band, stretch it to its full capacity and then release it. What did you observe? The band stretched to its fullest but when it was released, it came back to its original shape. The band holds anything you tie it with but it will not lose its elasticity because it is resilient. Do we stretch like that elastic when we face some difficult time in our life? Do we retain our shape, our truth and our existence? Can we call ourselves resilient? Are you resilient?
We all go through a time in life when we lose the essence of our existence, and we don’t know what to do anymore. We may have lost someone really close to us or may have lost a job that we really liked. Sometimes the problems are financial and sometimes it is a trauma that has hit us hard. Recovering from such problems is not easy, but we need to swim through the sea if we want to reach the shore. The sea is deep and dangerous. However, some people do not dive in even when they know how to swim because they are afraid of the water and some who cannot swim just flow with the waves and they land on the shore. What makes those some people cover the whole sea when they are not even trained swimmers? What stops those swimmers from diving in the sea? It is resilience that pushes the nonswimmers to swim across the sea. Resilience is the ability of a body to come back to recover when faced with difficulties. The nonswimmers wish to change the existing way of their life so they jump while the others are so occupied in their fears that they do not take the leap of faith. These people lack resilience.
Who Is Resilient?
We need resilience to be prepared for all difficult circumstances that may surround us in the future. A person who is resilient knows how to learn from their past. The mistakes and the failures teach them lessons that they remember the next time they find themselves in such situations. The resilient people bounce back and recover faster than those people who are not resilient. A resilient person has a positive outlook on life and is aware of the fact that life will not be the same forever. The life has some good things and some bad ones to offer. The accumulation of these creates the perfect balance in life. These people will experience the bitter and the sweet without complaining because they are not afraid of taking risks. They will stay grounded and grow stronger every time they fall. Therefore, we all need to become resilient so let us know how to become more resilient in life?
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How To Become More Resilient In Life?
#1. Open To Change
If you want resilience in your life, then it is very important to accept change. Your life is going to be full of ups and downs so you should be prepared for those changes. Being flexible will assist you in adapting to new environments and trying out novel opportunities in life.
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#2. Positive Outlook
It can be hard to have a positive outlook when nothing seems right from your perspective but you can seek hope from life. Hopes are a sign that you believe everything will be fine. When one believes in something truly, they always achieve it. Never allow the darkness of your experience cast its shadow on the light of your future. Transform your sorrows into hope and see how it works wonders for you. Positivity may not change everything in a day but it will give you the strength to deal with the bad time and welcome the good one.
#3. Be Confident
God helps those who help themselves. You are your own savior. Keep your esteem high and never let self-doubt cling on your shoulders because if it does then not even a hero can save you. When a person is confident about his skills and capabilities then it becomes easier for the person to come out of the pit they may fall in. Embrace your qualities, stay healthy and love yourself.
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#4. Take Time
Whenever you find yourself in a crisis, take some time to discern about the issues you are facing. Compose your mind and examine what went wrong. Once you are familiar with what the real problem is then you can find the solution for it.
#5. Find Solutions
Now that you are acquainted with the root of the issue, you will start coming across the resolutions. Any obstacle will not evade itself and you should not even wait for it to happen. Curate solutions on your own to lead a better future. Start with the pros and cons and eventually you will have a solution to your problem.
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#6. Brush Up Your Skills
As mentioned above, it is very important to believe in yourself. Your skills and smartness will assist you in fighting any battle but to win that battle you need to brush up your skills. Refresh your qualities, your skills, work upon your weaknesses.
#7. Set Goals
Establish goals to keep yourself busy so that nothing else distracts you. Set short term and long term goals and keep working on them even if some circumstances do not allow.
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#8. Keep Your Friends Close
Build a strong connection with your friends and keep them close. Friends are like family who stays with you in your good and bad times. Talk to your friends when you find yourself in trouble. They will look out for solutions and make sure that you stay happy so stay in contact with them. These are the people who you can trust in your bad times. Stay away from people who become a cause of emotional stress for you.
#9. Find Meaning Of Your Life
Purposelessness leads to a futile life which then can turn into a lot of existential problems. Find the reason of your existence. Discover the purpose of your birth. Why were you born? Is there a meaning behind your life? When you know what is your purpose you will be able to move ahead with an optimistic outlook in life.
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#10. Be Realistic
Whenever you find yourself amidst chaos remember that you should be realistic. Find solutions that are reasonable and logic. Do not expect something extraordinary in life unless you can work for it. You should have realistic expectations so that when things are not in your favor you do not hurt yourself. Too many expectations will take a toll on your emotions so stay positive.
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We as humans cannot know what our future holds for us. It may bring good opportunities to grow in life and it may bring something that devastates us. Both of these situations are inevitable and one can only hope that we do not face something from which recovering isn’t easy. Floods, famines, earthquakes and all the natural calamities destroy not just lands but also the people. A lot of us lose our loved ones and the trauma of the loss hits some of us deeply. Some of us are not able to come out of the trauma for years. I had known an aunt who lost her son in a tornado that had hit their house. She was shaken immensely and her pain would have been excruciating. She stopped eating and going out of her house. She would not speak to anyone for years because of which her health declined immediately. So, it is very important for us to become resilient. A person who is not resilient will suffer from an accident and will not be able to recover back from it. It is not necessary that the accident will be a calamity, it may be something as small as failing in a paper or losing a job. When a person is not resilient small incidents may take a toll on their minds. A student who failed in an exam may become depressed because he/she is not resilient. A man who lost his job may find it difficult to accept the fact and he may not even try to find another job due to the amount of emotional stress he is going through. A woman who faced a failure in her relationship may not find love again or may not even keep contact with a man. In this case, none of them is resilient and before we harm ourselves we should learn to become resilient in our life to able to come up with situations that may be hard for us.