As humans, one of the qualities that we all share in common is the fact that we all need to have people and companions in our life. We all have to create bonding’s that continues to add meaning to our existence. We often feel the need to make sure that we have meaningful relationships in our lives to share our life with. It is practically impossible for any human being to continue living a life where they do not have close relationships to bank on. Irrespective of the kind of person we may be, an introvert or an extrovert, we all will need to have people in our life, who we can address as close friend and family.
Among all these relationships the most unique and yet the most incredible in nature is the friendships that we tend to strike with people. Friendships remain absolutely unique in nature because there is a certain amount of ease that is there when we are with our friends, and then there is the ability to share all those aspects of our life with them that we cannot share with our close relations and even our parents. What makes us cherish the bonding that we have with our friends is the fact that all of these relationships are those that we choose as a part of our life, these are the relationships that eventually turn out to be the witness of the best and the most exotic moments of our life. What we share with our friends is very special, and thus it makes it important that there is a certain amount of responsibility we take to make sure that we are completely responsible in a friendship.
This is the reason it becomes difficult for us to accept it when there are some things that our friends do which are hurtful to us and are not the things we do not expect from them. In cases where they pretend to be a certain way when they are with us, and they become complete opposites when they are with other people. It is very hard to accept things where these people backstab us and do things behind our back that can prove to be hurtful to us. It is not acceptable if they speak ill of us behind our backs and pretend to be our best companion when they are with us.
In case you have been dealing with someone like that who has backstabbed you, here are the things that you can do to make sure that you deal in a subtle yet effective way with this friend of yours.
#1. Make Sure You Have A Clear Conversation
Before you take any other step, it is very essential to make sure that you know all the details of the thing that is the bone of contention between the two of you. It is necessary to get to know what is really going on from the person who you consider to be a good friend. If you have the slightest doubt and have got to know about this kind of behavior being exhibited by your friend, then it is important that you make sure you clarify things with this person by holding a clear face to face conversation with this person. This will make sure there is no room for any misunderstanding between the two of you.
Having a clear face to face conversation will also make it possible for you to understand why the other person is doing what they are doing. It is not very easy to accept the fact that someone you consider a friend is doing negative things behind your back to harm you in various ways. But, if you have a word with them, it will be easy to see their point of view, and you will be able to understand better why things have turned out the way they have.
It is always possible to assume things and keep hurting yourself. It is always possible to listen to what others have to say about the backstabbing of your friend, but the best way to deal with this kind of situation is to make sure that you have a word with them and then assess what is really going on.
#2. Make Sure You Keep Your Clam
When you learn something of this sort about someone you are close to, it is very obvious that you will feel angry at such a point in time. It will surely be difficult for you to keep your calm and to hold a conversation that will be peaceful. But, the most essential thing to do is to make sure that you are able to have a conversation and keep your calm at the same time. Losing your temper will only make things worse and make it impossible for you to understand what your friend is really doing and what their exact motive is.
Keeping calm is very important as it will determine how the entire thing is going to turn out to be. If you feel it is crucial to ending the friendship due to all that has taken place. It will be a really good idea to do it on a subtle and calm note. It may continue to have very negative impact on you and your life in case you tackle this entire situation with a lot of anger and bitterness. In order to make sure that you end all of this on a cordial note, you will have to make sure you remain calm and do not let your anger take charge of the situation. You will not want to go on tolerating the repercussions of a friendship which ends on a negative note, especially with someone who has backstabbed you already.
#3. End The Friendship If Necessary
If you feel like there is a lot of bitterness in the relationship and the comfort level that you shared previously is not the same anymore, it will be a good idea to end the relationship. It is not always easy to let go of people who are close to us and to end the friendship, especially on such a bitter note. But, you will need to understand the fact that if the relationship has taken a turn like that, then it will be wise enough to make sure that you get rid of the baggage of dealing with it. If you have properly assessed the kind of turn your relationship has taken and you feel that it is not going to be possible for you continue being friends, then the best thing to do in such a case is to make sure you dare to end all that.
It will not be a good idea to continue to be stuck in a friendship where the other person is negatively treating you, where there is no scope for a better and improved friendship; it will only be a good idea to keep such people and relationships away from your life.
At the same time, it will be very crucial to make sure you are able to let go of this person. If you continue being attached to this person, it will prove to be impossible for you to let go of this person even if it is for your greater good. Thus the moment you decide to end the relationship, please make sure you have the ability to let go of them immediately.
Have you been trying to deal with a friend who has been backstabbing you for a long period of time? Do you find it hard to deal with such people? Do you think the above article is helpful for you to deal with such friends? Please leave your comment in the box below.
The only way you can deal with backstabbing friends is by making sure that you keep a check on
what is really going on around your back. What I have learned from my own experience is the fact
that we all have amazing friends and people who are really good in our lives. But at times we
also tend to have people in our life who just pretend to be nice and have a whole lot of mischief
in their mind. These are the two kinds of people we all tend to have in our life. What is really
important is to make sure that we all make it a point to deal with people the way they choose to
deal with us.
For some of us it is really hard to make sure we give people back the treatment they choose to
give us. But, we need to be able to take a call in cases where we are aware that person is doing
harm to us behind our back. What can prove to be hard in such case is the whole idea that you
will have to accept the fact that someone you really like a lot and someone who was a close
friend has back stabbed you and you will have to get rid of their companionship.
The attachment is what makes it hard to deal with the kind of friend who back stabs you. You
have to deal with the fact that the person you really like a lot has back stabbed you and then
there is the fact that you will not get to have a companion like them anymore. It just cannot get
worse than that. But, the whole idea is to make sure that you will have to choose wisely and be
strong while you are making the decision.
One of the other things to keep in mind id the fact that you not be able to be happy in case you
choose to be friends with this person who has already back stabbed you. The feeling of betrayal
will keep interfering in the friendship and will continue to make you give you mixed feelings.
Please understand that the trust that is once lost cannot be found again and once someone
manages to play with your trust it is impossible to keep the relationship the same. This is the
reason why it is very essential to make sure you deal with the relationship in the correct way.