Do you have a friend who is suffering from suicidal tendencies? Did you try to help them? Are you not sure how to help?
Helping a suicidal friend might get tricky considering the fragility of the matter. A suicidal tendency is said to be born out of some suppressed anxiousness that turns into depression.
We have come with a list of suicide prevention tips which can help you in identifying the signs of a suicidal friend and to help them come out of it.
If you think that your friend might be vulnerable to suicide, observe his or her behavioral patterns carefully. A tendency to suicide usually occurs due to some severe mental trauma or depression. Suicidal thoughts usually occur when:
#1. The person is preoccupied with frequent and obsessive dwelling on similar thoughts
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#2. He/she gives up all hopes and finds suicide as their last resort
#3. They start looking at life as a meaningless endeavor
#4. The person finds it difficult to concentrate because they feel that their brain is surrounded by some fog or mist.
While it is hard to decipher one’s thought process, you can always look for these suicidal signs. The suicidal thoughts are generally accompanied by various emotional changes which act as warning signs. Some of these signs are:
#1. Varied mood swings
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#2. Feeling lonely even when in the middle of a crowd
#3. Persistent feelings of shame, guilt, self-hatred, worthlessness
#4. Feeling sad, tired, withdrawn, disinterested, anxious, angry or apathetic for long hours
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A suicidal friend is sure to state the unexpected. Their statements usually echo the patterns of their suicidal thoughts and feelings. Few of the commonly used statements by suicidal people are:
#1. Life isn’t worth living
#2. You, my friend, would be better off without me
#3. Don’t worry; I won’t be around for long to deal with that
#4. You’ll feel sorry when I’m gone
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#5. I just can’t deal with everything, so what's the point?
#6. I won’t be a burden for too long
#7. There’s nothing I can do to change anything
#8. I’d be better off dead
#9. I don’t think there is any way out
#10. I should have never been born
Many people who suffer suicidal depression often face sudden mood swings. They appear to feel better than they used to be. If you find someone seeking peaceful resoluteness through suicide, then please follow the suicide prevention tips.
While dealing with a suicidal friend, colleague or family member, you are sure to come across some unusual behavioral patterns. Some of them are:
#1. Poor performance in school, work, or other activities
#2. Social isolation
#3.Disinterest in sex, friends, or any other social activities
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#4. Carelessness towards personal hygiene
#5. Alterations in sleeping or eating habits
#6. Prominent changes in the daily routines
#7. Indulgence in lethargy and withdrawal
A suicidal friend has reached this stage of his or her life because they could not find someone to discuss their problems with. They must have been through a tragic failure, a loss of family member or maybe a heartbreaking breakup; whatever be the reason, they suffered tremendously because of it. You need to be the shoulder on which they can cry and breakthrough their web of guilt, shame, and sufferings. Try to give them a comfortable environment wherein they feel free to open their hearts out to you. Talking is one of the best ways to prevent suicide.
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While talking to a friend with suicidal tendencies, make it a point to never bring the term suicide throughout the conversations. You can always have light-hearted conversations especially related to things that they like to talk about.
You can always talk to them about movies, sports, television shows, or any recent social events. If they are interested in automobiles or just watching comedy shows, you can always take them out to spend the day. Some conversation starters can be:
#1. Did you watch the match last night?
#2. Do you want to hang out tonight?
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#3. Let's check that new restaurant tonight.
#4. What do you think about the new show?
Be sure that the conversations are interesting and far from depressing and sad. a lively conversation is sure to lighten up their mood, and you never know they might just share their problems with you.
A suicidal friend may have his or her own reasons for considering suicide. Try to listen and understand their point of views. Do not ever try to judge them for you think the reasons are lame or your friend is just a coward. People with suicidal tendencies are already suffering from shame, and self-hatred, do not give them any more such reasons.
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When you talk to a friend with suicidal tendencies, be careful about what you say. Such people get extra sensitive towards judgments and comments. Just remember that you are trying to help a suicidal friend and not provoking them to jump off the cliff right there and then.
You can encourage and motivate them to look at the larger picture and be positive about what’s next. Statements like ‘you have so much to live for ’or‘ think about how your suicide will hurt your family and friends can work as a suicide prevention tool.
When you are trying to help a suicidal friend, make sure you hear them well. Listen to what they have to say about their life, their sufferings, and their mental state. Make eye contacts and use a body language which is non-judgmental and welcoming. Let them talk for as long as they want. Give them enough time and space to express themselves.
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Committing suicide is often said to be a sign of cowardliness or a means of escapism. A person with suicidal tendencies might have already suffered immensely to come down to killing themselves. As a friend who wants to help them to come out of their world of suffering and miseries, you need to tell them that you care and that they're not alone.
#1. Emotional support works as a great suicide prevention method. Let your friend know that they are loved and thought about, and they do hold importance for some people. Try to project your love and respect for them through your conversations.
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#2. For a person who believes that his or her existence does not bother even a single soul on the planet needs to be loved enormously. Showering love and attention can heal their wounds better than any other psychiatric support or medications.
#3. Tell them that suicide is just a permanent solution to problems that can be solved with alternative methods. Suggest them some feasible options if possible.
#4. Remind them of their families who would be devastated by their decisions and actions that involve committing suicide.
#5. Browse through the internet to gather all the relevant information about suicidal tendencies. You can also connect with organizations that work with suicidal people. Try getting in touch with them to get to the roots of the problems. They may even be helpful in providing you with some effective solutions.
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#6. Get rid of all the pieces of equipment that can aid your friend in committing suicide. Things like anti-depressant pills, or a revolver or any other nonprescribed medicines should be disposed off.
#7. Tell your friend that you are always with them whenever they need to talk. You can create diversions whenever they have an urge to kill themselves. Do not leave them alone in the needy hours. Stay with them to support and talk.
While trying to help a suicidal friend it is important that you stay strong. It may be emotionally traumatizing to look at a close one suffering so badly, but you need to stay their undeterred. Your strength and motivation can help in preventing your friend from committing suicide. Stay Strong!
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