In the stage from childhood to teenage, children change a lot. The hood of childhood goes away almost overnight. That is surprising but has happened to almost all the children. One day she will happily be going to school warning whatever mom gave her to wear, and the other day she wants to flaunt her stylish clothes to her fellow mates. The drastic emotional and dramatic change is hard to understand sometimes. If parents do not allow her to dye her hair, she will become all messed up. The protest in such crazy hood turns so swiftly that the parents or friends do not get time to digest that change. The tears in her eyes for getting an expensive denim which fits her best seems very relevant and real at that moment.
Like many paradoxes in our life, teenage drama inevitably seems almost everywhere. When everything is going safe and sound, the teenage drama queens take charge from there. They can be fascinating and funny, however, breathtakingly off-track sometimes. When a drama queen is just beside us, we usually have our lives on fire almost all the time. Have a drama queen by the side, and you can have the daily dose of recrimination. Exhaustion and threat negotiations probably. The result to that? The life full of adventurous, energized and enthusiasm fueled every hour. This starts from the teenage only. Do not make the mistake of thinking that dramas can be created by women only. It is not a feminine trait though, queens are, however, our pretty ladies only. As far as teenage drama queens are concerned, they crave attention and admirations, but you can never expect that back on the plate for you.
During the teenage drama, queens can actually create havoc in your life from time to time. If you are not guarded against them, you will end up having no energy in your body and sucked dry. The emotional and physical roller coasters that you may experience can become a wild ride if you don’t play safe. Most of the teens usually have overwhelming and dramatic reactions anyway. However, a drama queen can exaggerate the simplest events with a pile of reactions. Also, teens love drama as seems. They strive for excitement and love to gossip. Apart from loving gossip from all ends, they also love to spread the gossips and take no time to start a trouble on social media. The teenage drama is mostly with the biological changes. Hormones shift and brain development lead to drastic mood change. There becomes a teenage drama queen. All these reasons can be the actual swings behind your teen’s reactions.
Mostly teenage drama queen usually likes to make every issue a part of the public crisis in order to get attention. The drama subsides with time maturity and healthier ways to get attention. They have dozens of emotions to express themselves. In most cases, the inferiority complex becomes the reason of attention again. However, when a woman becomes comfortable in their own skin, the image of drama queen tends to fade away. In teenage, they explore or want to explore for that matter, extreme and different emotions adopted from different people probably. Responding a drama queen either add more fuel to the already lighted fire or can even calm her down. In order to deal with the excessive drama, you can follow some strategies:
#1. Try And Listen Reflectively
Instead of directly concluding, it will be better in the case of a teenage drama queen to handle her reflectively. Try the technique of reflective listening with them and rest will be sorted. Try to know what is in their mind and what they have to say about the situation rather than jumping to the solution directly. The situation can actually become worse with the initiative to give unsolicited advice. Reflective listening shows that you are listening and understanding their problem. Know the facts about the crisis and then respond, otherwise, do not respond to a drama queen.
#2. Decode The Language
The way she describes her problem, it is obvious that you run to help her in any possible way. However, the better step to finding what is wrong will be to interpret what they actually mean. Sometimes they make the situation appear negative because they crave for the positive reinforcement they did not get from anywhere. In fact, sometimes the drama queens can also aggressively screw up situations just to deflect blame. Nothing can be considered sacred in their realm. They can risk anything to seek attention, even people or relationship for that matter. Therefore, the essential step should be decoding their language and the way they want to mold the situation.
#3. Consider Her Problem
The most annoying thing for a teenage drama queen is when her feelings and emotions are not considered . You need to validate her feelings and emotions in order to calm her down. This will give her the belief that they are not alone and being understood by the people. Say something that can give her the satisfaction that she has a valid reason to behave that way so that so gets calm down more easily. She will feel much better when she realizes that she is relevantly getting the attention she wants.
#4. Teach Emotion Regulation
Being friends, family or relatives, it is your responsibility to let her have her venting day. However, it is also important to make her realize that all of these emotions have a time and situations to come. It is very okay to feel worried, angry, or sad. Teach your daughter, friend or cousin to control her intense feelings and emotions so that they do not exaggerate the situation anywhere soon again. Spend time with her to let her know the anger and emotions management skills so that she can find efficient and healthy ways to deal with her intense emotions.
#5. Try To Stay Calm
No matter your very own drama queen is absolutely panicked, you need to stay calm in order to calm her down. Whether they are panicked over the latest rumor or about the forthcoming party of her alleged enemy. Matching the level of her intense emotions and yelling like her will lead to more trouble than you are already facing. Frustration and yelling can turn the directions in the worse manner. Avoid fueling the heated argument or discussion. Take a deep breath and try to stay calm.
#6. Boost Her Skills
In order to fill positive confidence, you really need to boost her positive qualities and skills. Instead of talking about the drama and the ways to grab attention, it is better to talk about the positive things that she can endure. Try to embrace the present positive skills in her and inbuilt the new skills like new communication skills or probably anger management skills. As her confidence will grow the drama and hyper reaction will decrease.
#7. Don’t Reward That Behaviour
Sometimes it is impossible to control the teenage drama queen and make her back to her senses. Try and not to give her more attention. If they break something, don’t help them replace it, either a thing or a relationship. Acknowledging or rewarding that sort of behavior is like encouraging them to do that more often. Stay calm or do not respond them back to foster them more attention. It will only give them hope to behave in such manner again.
#8. Encourage Problem Solving Attitude
Trying to inculcate the problem-solving habits and skills into a drama can be a huge relief. A teenage drama queen might turn into a beautiful mature and grown-up woman when she has crossed her teenage. However, why does one has to wait for that long? It is so much better to teach them or at least make them aware of the problem-solving skills. Encouraging the attitude of problem-solving can help her pass her teenage more productively.
#9. Foster The Sense Of Gratitude
The most intense and exaggerated emotions often loose the string with justice or injustice. Fostering a sense of gratitude will make them aware and thankful for the things she possesses, and that will boost her confidence. This will help her to embrace her own self, and she will realize that she deserves better and productive life. The positive and good things will likely reduce the drama affect as well.
#10. If Nothing Works, Distance Yourself
If you have tried the above steps, it is better to distance yourself from them and with age, they will eventually understand what is wrong or right. End your helping rope here, because the craving for attention is still not stopping. You should then steel yourself from meeting their demands, and that is giving them attention. Ultimately the things will change gradually when she grows up.
This was our small guide to deal with a teenage drama queen. Let us know your thoughts as well in the comment section below.
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