In this generation, the issue of desertion and isolation is increasingly alarming. Teens are afraid of being lonely, and that is why they approve of the bully and illegal activities. They are worried that others will exclude them from the group and they will have to bear everything alone. Growing up, people have become even more afraid of being lonely, and that is why they keep proximity to hundreds of people. But those friendships do not fetch them anything. People still feel alone despite having a massive list of people they know. The point is that people are losing interest and trust in each other. Nobody can share their personal history with anyone because the fear of revelation always surrounds their mind. When we can share our feelings with the other person, we feel alone, and that feeling bites our soul from within.
Is being alone so dangerous? Shouldn’t a person be comfortable in their own skin? Every person should be comfortable with the idea of being alone. There is no harm in it. Instead, there are multiple benefits of enjoying doing things alone. When you are alone, you get time to introspect about your life. You learn your past and the decisions you took then. The realization that your decisions were right or wrong if they harmed someone or helped someone comes through introspection. It also helps in making better and informed decisions in the future because, after introspection, you know what are the things you shouldn’t do if you want to reap benefits later in life. You learn to tackle your problems and your problem-solving skills get improved. Your brain gets rebooted and freshened when you spend time alone. There is no distraction in the environment due to which your brain is not forced to work harder. You can easily concentrate on the tasks you have in front of you. It increases your attention span and concentration leading to a rise in your productivity. Your efficiency to work gets a boost which can win you promotions and successes at work. Spending time alone allows you to have great relationships and career as you are able to accomplish your goals in time. When you are alone, you can think about the status of your relationships with different people. You can think about who is more valuable and who needs your care more. The things you should do to make your relationships better to strengthen them will come to you when you are sitting alone with a calm and open mind.
#1. Embrace Your Solitude
If a person wants to enjoy doing things alone then they should learn to embrace their solitude. There are several advantages of being lonely and nobody can deny the fact that one can enjoy equally being alone as being with others. Solitude is the time one thinks about their life and the way they are leading it. Embracing it would mean that you accept your life the way it is and this embrace would bring happiness to your life. Be positive and live your life the way you want. Solitude is precious because you do not find it often. It is, very rare and you do not find it often in your life. A lot of people think that they are alone, and that is why their life, is boring, but this is not true. If you make your life dull then the presence of other people in it will not make a difference. You will not enjoy your life until you decide to enjoy the little moments of joy that little things give you.
#2. Observe Things Around You
How often does it happen that you do not realize you have covered your whole way to work when you are with someone? It happens almost every day. Try to recall the things you saw on your way. How many do you remember? Most probably you do not remember anything else except your friend’s face. When we are in someone’s company, we do not observe the things around us. There may be hundreds of interesting things happening around you, but you do not look at them because you are too busy gossiping about a third person. Try to observe the nature, the people, the kids in the park whenever you are alone. You will find a lot of amusing things that will make your day. You may make new friends on the way. Try to talk to strangers, and you will not be bored. Listen to what other people have to say about the latest political happening, and you can know what is going on around the world. You will never be alone if you do not want to be lonely. Examine the people around you or just listen to them talking to each other. You will have new gossips for the day. Just kidding!
#3. Create Something Of Your Own
Create something of your own means that you should do something that has your personal touch to it. You may have great ideas about things you wish to try but you couldn’t after thinking about what other people may think about you. When you are alone, nobody can judge you because there won’t be any other person except you. Do not think about other people and get on the thing you always wanted to do. You created a recipe when you were a kid, but other people told that it would fail. Go to the kitchen and make that dish today because that is something you created on your own. That dish would be your signature and your personal impression. It may not be successful but it does not matter. Today’s failure may turn into success tomorrow. Your idea may work, and you may create something iconic. Don’t be afraid to do something new, something daring. Be bold and learn the things you wanted to but the society stopped you. Enjoy every bit of the things that you do alone.
#4. Relax And Pamper Yourself
If you want to enjoy doing things alone, then you should make yourself feel special. If you have time to spend alone then what can be a better way to spend it? You could go shopping or go to a spa. Enjoy every bit of the time that you get, make yourself feel special. Take yourself out on a lunch date and order the food you love to eat. When you are with other people, you have to sometimes restrict your choices but that’s the best part about being alone. You do not have to pretend to be someone else. You can be who you are, or who you want to be. If relaxation means dancing, singing, painting, then do that. It depends on you how you make use of the time, but the main thing is that you enjoy it. If your idea of relaxation and pampering is cooking on your own at home and watching a good, movie, then do it. Your hobbies are something you have to do, alone and you can enjoy them because they are of your interests.
#5. Do Not Think About Losing Something
Do not think that you will lose something else while you are spending time with yourself. Your time alone is equally precious as your time with your friends or family. You may consider going to a party over spending time somewhere alone because it sounds more fun, but this is not true. If you learn to be with yourself, then you can enjoy every moment you are alone. When you keep thinking about other things that you could have done, then you miss the fun of the thing you currently may be doing. For example, a person who has climbed a hill to watch a sunset will not be able to enjoy it because he will keep thinking about the things he could have done had he gone to the party that his friends invited him at. You will never be able to achieve all the things together in life. You will have to lose something to gain something, and this is the rule we must accept. Do not miss the things that are not under your control. Enjoy doing things alone.
#6. Realize That You Are Perfect On Your Own
The most important thing is that you should realize that you are perfect the way you are. You do not need someone to make you feel complete. Some other person cannot make you feel a whole new entity unless you become one yourself. The other people will recognize you from the perspective you portray. You can stand tall all by yourself, and that is why you do not always require help from other people. You can, and you must enjoy your time alone so that you can love your company when others are not around. It may become difficult to be lonely when you are used to being surrounded by a lot of people.
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