Every one of us wants to be liked by people in general. We all want to have love and compassion in our lives. We even try a lot of things that will get people to like us. There are a lot of reasons why people can develop a liking for you. It can be your chirpy smile, your thoughtful talks, the way you dress up or maybe you are just a nice person.
It is not possible that each single person around you likes you. There will always be few people who would be back-bitching you; no matter how good you are to them. But if you follow some tips you might be able to get those straightforward people to actually like you. It is not something very difficult. We will help you become the master of it all. Without any extra efforts, you can get people to like you.
#1. Keep A Smile
This is the first and the easiest way to get people to like you in the first place. People love to be around those who have positive energy and infectious smile which will make them believe you are a fun person to be with. People like being around people who are happy mostly because just being with them makes everybody feel good. So smiling is the first gesture of letting people know that they should be around you. But do not fake a smile. Put a genuine little curve on your lips, and that would do the job for you.
#2. Use Eye Contact
Making an eye contact while talking to someone is a great way of showing that you are a confident person. Also if they are telling you something, eye contact makes them feel heard. Make sure you do not overdo, or it seems like staring which you do not want. Just the right level of looking into their eyes to let them know you are there for them.
#3. Give Compliments
People love getting praised for their efforts. So if you are trying to befriend a colleague who just gave a speech, let them know which parts of their speech you liked. You will create a bond there, and that person will start liking you too. Also, most people will judge your character on what you say about people. If you use kind words to describe others, people will consider you a nice person. If you talk bad things, people will most likely consider you as a bad person to spend time with. So choose your words wisely when you are in the company of others.
#4. Mirror Positions
If you are meeting someone for the first time and you are not able to decide the position of standing or sitting, you will be better off copying the position the other person is in. It is said that people with similar sitting or standing postures have similar thoughts. So getting in the same posture will be an attempt to make them feel that you are like them. After that, it will be more likely for them to start liking you. This is a very simple and good method to get in the good books of someone.
#5. Spend More Alone Time
You should try spending more time with people you are hoping to befriend. Get to know what they like and dislike. Also, share your interests and soon enough you will find some common likes. According to the 'mere-exposure effect,' people tend to like others who are familiar with them. Be genuinely interested when they are sharing something personal. At times, people just like to have ears for their emotions they are pouring.
#6. Ask For A Favour
It is a wrong notion in our heads that only doing favors for someone gets them to like us. But the reality is far from this. You can truly ask them for a little favor and see how they feel about it. You should thank them in a way that the bond is created right there. Your little token of appreciation will make their day. They will start perceiving you as a friend from that day on. How difficult can taking a favor be if it means you can get a person to like you.
#7. Dress Appropriately
The very first things that people notice about you is your appearance and your clothes play an essential role in that. Choose your clothes carefully according to the occasion you are going. But be careful that you do not end up overdoing your look. If it is a formal event, you might want to take out that tuxedo you own. For a party, you might want to bring out your casual tee and jeans. Dress to impress must be your biggest mantra to get someone to like you before you even begin a conversation with them.
#8. Maintain Hygiene
Nobody wants to spend time with a person who stinks, literally and metaphorically. If you want to create some magic with your persona, it is equally important to back it up with your hygiene. Make sure that you brush your teeth and floss them properly to get your pearly whites to shine. Use a light aftershave and some sprays of cologne to get a likable body odor. It is said that having good body odor boosts your confidence too. Get ready to impress people just by your looks.
#9. Touch Casually
This is a tricky one here, only try this one if you feel you can do it correctly. It is scientifically proven that a gentle touch improves the coordination between two humans. And people only like others when they develop a coordination with them. So here is your cheat to coordinate with them by just a brush of the hand on the shoulder during a conversation. It should just be a tap, hardly noticeable. The other person will start liking you before you know it.
#10. Share A Secret
You only share secrets with someone you are close to. This is another quick trick to lead them into believing that you consider them your close pal. Confiding in each other get people to develop a liking quickly. Even they might start sharing their secrets with you and make sure you make them feel heard. Let them know that their secrets are safe with you. This way you will end up being good friends.
#11. Let The Other Talk About Themselves
Listening is a way of showing people that you are compassionate about their problems. Let the other person speak their heart out if they are sharing something. Do not interrupt in between. Speak only when they stop. People immediately like you when you are a good listener. Avoid talking about yourself at first as that would not make the other person feel welcomed. It is when they are speaking that they feel connected. The connection is the basis here to get them close to you. If they are going on and on talking about something that they really love, then you should feel lucky as they are going to start liking you after you have heard everything they were saying. And if you happen to remember the details of a thing they barely mentioned, it is another plus for you.
#12. Use Their Name
A person's name is very important for them and maybe the most beautiful sound on this planet. The easiest thing you can do if you want someone to like you is remembering their name. Refer them to it so that they know you find them interesting enough to remember the name. It is a quick and easy way to get to their heart. If it a group of people that you want to get welcomed in, try associating their name with something they do or look like, and it will be little easier to memorize their names. It is surely impressive if you manage to remember a lot of names after the first meet. So the next time you meet, you refer to them by their name, and they will be interested in knowing yours too.
#13. Show Good Sense Of Humour
People who laugh together stay together. If you are looking forward to someone to like you, then bring a little humor to your conversations. People always like a hearty laughter on a tough day. Keep making a few punch lines, and people will start liking you without you making any special efforts. If you are a natural at this, you need to only be yourself and people will like you for it instantly.
If you have any other tips and tricks that you would like to share, do mention in the comments!
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