Friendship is a relationship that provides us the solace of being at home even when we are away from our family. It has the power to nurture our being and help us flourish. No matter what goes wrong and how we tend to react to the problems that life throws at us, we always have some people to approach for help, the ones who will back us up without any judgment. They always remain with us without any restrictions of being in a certain way. There are times when we face a lot of difficulties while dealing with our families, who at times want us to do certain things that we may not agree upon. Sometimes, it becomes difficult for us to cope with them without the assistance of anyone at all.
In such situations, we need help from our friends. At times, when we are unable to find a way out of some crisis, and there is no one to help, friends are always there to help us through. They can understand the challenges that we face in our daily lives in a better way and can provide immediate solutions to help us tackle a difficult situation. Mostly, people from the same age group are friends with each other which results in having a similar thought process. In any stressful situation, it is essential to make sure that we find someone who can understand the way we are thinking and the challenges we are facing.
At the same time, finding solutions to the family related challenges of your close friends is not an easy task. You need to make sure that you give them the correct advice or guide them to take the right step. In cases like this, it is not essential that your friend has a correct argument. It could be possible that your friend’s family is right and there may be a possibility that your friend is misunderstanding them. However, the situation can also be the other way round. Such challenges can be complicated and you being partial may just lead your dear friend into some mess. Thus, there are some things that you will need to keep in mind in case you wish to help your friend and to make sure that you are assisting them in their family-related challenges in the most unbiased way. Here is how you can go about it.
#1. Be A Good Listener
The best thing to do is to make sure that you listen to what they have to say. Sometimes being a good listener can make all the difference. When people do not have the opportunity to express what exactly is going on their mind, it becomes impossible for them to understand the situation they are in. When they have someone who is willing to listen and to understand all that they have to say, it gives them the opportunity to speak up all that is going on in their mind, speaking up often helps us to clarify things in our mind as well.
When you choose to be a good listener you will be able to understand the problem that they are going through. An essential thing to do in case you are trying to help someone to cope with their family issues is to make sure that you know the details of exactly what is going on in the family. Family issues can be complicated and can prove to be difficult to handle. In such cases, all you can do is first to understand what is going on and then suggest something to your friend.
Not listening properly can prove to be a great disadvantage as it may leave you giving a biased take on the entire episode. If you advise them things without understanding the situation, there is a possibility that you may just give them a wrong suggestion. You do not want to do something that is going to get them into trouble instead of solving the mess they are dealing with.
#2. Discuss Some Solutions With Them
The best way to come up with something that can help you to get your friend out of the situation they are in is a practical solution that they will be able to apply in their lives. To do this, you will have to make sure that you discuss some possible solutions with your friend. This will help your friend to be able to judge what exactly they need to do so as to make sure that they can effectively deal with the situation they are in.
You can discuss with them how they want the situation to be and then help them think about ways to make it possible. When you are giving suggestions to someone regarding the family problems they are going through, you cannot suggest solutions that they will not be able to implement in their lives. Thus, it will be wise to discuss all the things that they are willing to do and then reach to a conclusion.
#3. Give Them Suggestions
Suggest something that they can do and is the best possible solution for them, according to you. All you can do is to assess their situation and give them a solution that they can incorporate into their lives and can make it a point to improve the situation they are in. You have had a discussion with them about all that is wrong and all the things that you both can consider doable under such circumstances. Now, it would be a good idea to make sure that you suggest them certain solutions that you think will be easily possible for them to implement in their lives and to make their situation better.
You will have to be critical while doing so, if you feel that your friend is doing something wrong and that could harm their future, then it will be a good idea to inform them about it and to make it a point to explain things to them. Suggest them whatever you feel will be ideal for their stuation.
Keep the fact in mind that you give it a good thought before you suggest anything to your friend because sometimes when there are many problems surrounding us we are not able to think properly. Your friend might just take your suggestion really seriously and choose to implement it; in such a situation, your suggestion will prove to be very crucial for them and their family. Make sure you suggest something that will help them to get rid of all the complications they are facing.
#4. Think About What You Would Do If You Were In Their Place
Just place yourself in the situation that your friend is and then give a thought about what you would do to make sure that you get out of the situation and can resolve all the problems that you are facing. You will need to do so because that will help you to understand better what your friend is going through and how is he or she feeling. Sometimes when we think from other's perspective, it can prove to be better than giving a thought to the situation from our perspective. When we think about the situation this way, we can understand better what they are going through, how their family is and how it will be possible for us to make it a point to suggest something that will solve their challenges and at the same time will be appropriate for them to implement.
#5. Encourage Them To Seek Professional Help
You, as a friend, are definitely going to do all that is possible for you to make sure that your friend can deal with all the problems they are facing in their family. But, you will have to keep in mind the fact that you are not equipped to suggest the solutions to all kinds of problems. In case the problem seems to be serious and the two of you are finding it hard to reach to a conclusion the best you can do is avail professional help. In many cases, professionals can come up with solutions that no one else may be able to.
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Really nice tips. Just like this, I always help my friends who have family related-problem and he can't solve it alone.
What is essential for us to understand that fact that we all have a friend who is there for us at all times and makes it possible for us to live the life of our dreams. We truly cannot accomplish all those things that we wish to accomplish in our life. We do need people who will back us up and will make it possible for us to the best version of ourselves.
The same stands true when we all have to deal with various kinds of family related challenges. We all need to understand the fact that we have to be able to deal with all the challenges that come our way to have a fulfilling and a peaceful life that we are capable of creating for our self. This is the reason why we need to have a set of those people who will willingly make it possible for us to deal with all these challenges that are a part of our daily life. At the same time it will be impossible for us to make it possible to live a life that is going to be easy and fulfilling if we do not have these people in our life.
What I have realized from my experience is the fact that people and especially friend are the most important people in our life and they make it possible for us to deal with all those challenges that come from our family that we are not able to deal with because we are not well equipped to make that kind of an effort or take those steps.
What you will you will have to keep in mind if you are making an effort to help your friend who is dealing with all kinds of problems that are associated to their family life, you will need to understand the fact that your friends family problems are something that you will have to understand properly before you choose to give them any kind of advice. There are possibilities that you may turn really partial and end up suggesting them to take a decision that may turn out to be wrong for them. You will have to understand the fact that just because your friend is in an unhappy state does not mean that they are always going to be correct and does not mean that they are going be the ones who need to get out of the situation. If you feel in any case that their family may be correct and they need to follow what they are telling your friend to do, then it will be really essential for you to give them the correct advice that will make possible for them to deal and understand the situation correctly.
That is why it is a very crucial thing that you decide to do when you decide to make it a point to help your friend who is dealing with family issues.