Do you often feel that you have some hidden anger inside you which needs the right passage to come out? Well, it is good that you can hide your anger at times when required, but you shouldn’t be doing it every time. Your hidden anger can be very distasteful to others when it comes out. So, it is better that you let go of it in the right manner.
Just like we have our hidden secrets, we do have our hidden anger too, which comes out at the most unexpected times. We keep it within ourselves to avoid fights or conflicts, but it is better just to let go of it. Once you let go of your hidden anger, you automatically start feeling much lighter and happier. Your mind and heart feel at peace with each other. If you too are one of those you keep their anger hidden and are not able to deal with it anymore, here’s what you should do. Follow us:
#1. Go Through Your Rulebook
Each one of us has our own virtual rulebook that includes your trigger points and the “do not do this to me” points. Your peer group is much aware of that list and hence avoids crossing their lines. But what about the ones who are not aware of it? If you never explained your rules to the person who angered you, you cannot be upset if they break those rules. Maybe they play by different rules. You need to make them know how things work on your side so to avoid blazing them with your hidden anger.
#2. We Live In A Mean World
Yes, we live in a mean-mean world which is full of rude and disrespectful people. They’ll easily persuade you to bring out the hidden anger if you are not mindful and patient in situations like these. Just know that your patience will be tested in every phase of your life; be it the school days when you are not able to do well in math no matter how hard you try, or in college when you aren’t able to lose those extra kilos, or in the office when your boss keeps poking at you. Let your hidden anger be hidden or else you’ll have to suffer the repercussions.
#3. Ignorance Is A Bliss
If you are likely to fall into a rage when speaking, say nothing at all. Try to ignore such situations that trigger your hidden anger. Say nothing at all or just walk out. This will help you to quiet your anger and later deal with the problem with a calmer mind. And of course, there are times when silence is the best answer.
#4.Sleep With It
Confused? Normally people suggest to get done with your fights or calm yourself before going to bed, we say sleep when angry. There are times when lack of sleep causes anxiety and irritability. Sleeping more can be as effective as conscious meditation.
#5. You Are The One Who Gets Hurt
Just understand that when you get angry and blaze out the fire, you are the only one who gets affected; physically and emotionally. Instead of shouting, yelling or getting hot in anger, try to solve the matter at hand peacefully and mindfully. “Holding onto anger is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” ~Unknown
#1. Aromatherapy
Aromatherapy is one of our favorite methods to deal with hidden anger. Are you angry? Think about a beautiful room, filled with scented candles and diffusers filling the room with soothing fragrances. Does it help in settling your anger? If it does then just make it happen for yourself. Candles and diffusers are great to alleviate stress and anxiety. You can also try a few drops of essential lavender oil on your pillow. It will relax and calm your mind.
#2. What About A Bath Bomb?
Instead of bathing yourself in anger, wash it off in a relaxing hot shower. Relax in a warm bath and let your hidden anger fizzle away.
#3. Your Anger Is Just A Drop Of Water
This may sound ridiculous especially when you are trying to let go of your hidden anger, but this one works. Trust us, it does. All you need to do is to close your eyes and imagine your mind as a crystal blue ocean filled with the water of calmness. Look at your anger as a single drop of water falling into your calm ocean, barely causing a ripple before becoming a part of the ocean.
#4. Or Maybe It’ Just A Boiling Kettle
Imagine your hidden anger to be like a boiling kettle on which you have complete control of. Flick the “switch-to-off” button as if you were turning off your anger. It’ll help you in cooling down your anger just like it cools down the kettle.
#5. Make Your Bedroom A Universe Of Peace
We all have that one wish in our bucket lists to sleep under the open sky full of stars and planets. So why not make it happen in your own bedroom? Lie on your bed with the lights off and see the shining stars (the glowing stickers, we mean). Immerse all your thoughts in watching those stars and your anger will vanish in no time. The best part, you won’t even know when that happens!
#6. Paint An Angry Mouth On An Hourglass Timer
Okay, now this one calls for some special attention. You need to get a little creative this time. Just get your pen and notepads out to write down the required ingredients. To avoid burning the house down with your anger, all you need is a glass of water, water paints, brushes, an hourglass timer and some free time on hand. All you have to do now is pick out your favorite colors and make an angry face on one side of the hourglass. Now, turn the hourglass and make a happy face on its other side. Keep it aside till it dries. Whenever you are angry, all you need to do is put the angry face of the hourglass down and let the sand fill the happy face side. Just watching the happy mouth fill will naturally make you feel better and calm.
#7. Your Anger Is Your Responsibility
There are a lot of people who can influence your anger response, but it’s only you who can control it. Take responsibility for your anger and do not get easily influenced or triggered by other people.
#8. Write It Down
Anger usually takes the form of verbal or violent attacks. To avoid getting involved in any such uncomfortable situations, write it down. Writing is a great way to get rid of your unexpressed thoughts, so just pick your pen and get writing. Let your diary know how angry and furious you are at what just happened. It’ll help you feel better as you’ll be able to let go of your hidden anger.
#9. Blow Up Some Balloons
When one is angry, they usually give out a lot of energy which if channelized in the right direction can calm them down. So, whenever you get angry, just blow up a dozen balloons. To add some excitement, you can write down the reasons for your anger on each balloon and keep blowing them until they burst, leaving only the shredded remnants of your deflated anger. Other than the above-mentioned tricks, you can always take some time and think about what is your hidden anger making out of you. Is it really the person you want to be? Or are you better than this? And if you are (which you surely do), then do not let your anger take over your personality.
Work through your hidden anger and let go of it in the best possible manner.
Have you dealt with your hidden anger? How did you do that? Let us know in the comment section below.
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