Why is it that we always seek approval from all the people around us? Why is it that it is so crucial for us to fit into the society? Why is there always the need to be accepted by the society and to be someone who is looked up to because they have accomplished all those things that are approved by the society? Why are most people looking for the approval by some external entity to determine the worth of their own self? Why is it that the concept of self-worth is dependent on fulfilling the norms that the society sets for us?
We always look for people to like and appreciate things that we are doing in our life when we ourselves are filled with doubts and insecurities about our self. What we do not realize is the fact that we do not need others approval to love and accept our self. We do not need to make sure that people are going to love us and that is the reason why we are amazing and acceptable. There is absolutely no need to change who we are to suit what people feel is good, bad or ugly. There is a need for people to understand that they are the way they are and they are unique, that does not need to be changed because the external world is not ready to accept it.
Please understand the fact that all you will ever need to do is to love and accept yourself the way you are. It is essential for us to be able to love each and everything about the person we are and the kind of things we love to do. We need to be in love with every aspect of our self, and then it will not be necessary to ask for the approval of other people. What we need to understand is the fact that we should be able to love who we are and then people will naturally love and accept who we are and what we are like. If we our self cannot love and accept our self the way we are, then how is it that the world will ever be able to accept us?
All we ever need to realize is the fact that we need to love our self and the world will be a better place to live in if we love our self and there will be no baggage of being liked by the society. There is the feeling of letting go of some kind of huge burden that we have been carrying for the longest time, the moment we choose to love our self the way we are; we are making sure that we have made peace with who we are. That is the best form of self-acceptance that anyone can choose to practice.
Have you been ignoring the most important person in your life, which is you? If you have not been able to love every bit of the incredible person you are, and be in love with all yourself including the quirks, here are the things you can do to start loving yourself.
#1. Keep A Check On The Kind Of People You Surround Yourself With
The only thing that causes us to doubt all that we are is the kind of judgment negative people pass about us. It is not possible for us to not love our self unless some external entity tells us that we are not good enough. This is the reason we begin to doubt who we are because people have different judgments regarding who we are and how we are. People tend to make it a point to criticize all those who are not following the norms that are made by the society and that are followed by most people.
This is exactly why it is important to make sure that you surround yourself with people who are kind and loving. It is essential to make sure that people, especially the ones who are your constant companions are positive and do not introduce the thought of doubt regarding who you are.
#2. Do What You Love Doing The Most
When you love yourself, you love each and every aspect of who you are. The essential part of that is to make sure that you permit yourself to do all those things that are close to your heart. We often do not make enough time for all those things that we love the most and also do not have the ability to do them if the society does not approve them.
What we need to understand is the fact that the more you do all those things that you love, you will get to know yourself better and will be able to embrace all that you are. We are actually the happiest when we are doing those things that we love to do the most and tend to discover all those aspects of our self that we may not be familiar with.
#3. Accept Yourself The Way You Are In The Now
The best way to love yourself and the way you are is to make it possible for you to love every bit of who you are without modifying all that you are today. The idea is to make sure that you love yourself now. It is perfectly fine to have goals of looking a certain way in the future, but what is essential is that you love yourself with all the flaws first.
It is easy to love our self when we have modified the way you look and have done all those things that are essential to look and feel pretty. But, when you can make peace with all those flaws that you have of yourself in the now, you actually have learned to love yourself completely. You need to be able to make sure that you are proud of who you are and each thing that is a part of you.
#4. Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Do all those things that are essential for you to get out of the rigid comfort zone you have created for yourself that is prohibiting you from attaining your greatest potential. The more you get out of the comfort zone and do all those things that are new and adventurous. The more you explore your potential, the more you make sure you are discovering those aspects of life and the potential that you never thought were a part of you, you will fall more in love with yourself.
Getting out of the comfort zone is the best thing that anyone can ever choose to do in their life. When we choose to do so, we get to know all those aspects of our self that we were not familiar with and this helps us to understand the fact that there is so much that we can do and so much that we have to offer to the world. It becomes impossible for us to concentrate on our flaws. It throws light on the fact that it is absolutely impossible for us not love the amazing person we are and we do not need to judge our self on the basis of the stereotypes that the society has created.
Other than doing all these above things we need to begin to give importance to the concept of self-love in the first place. We do not give importance to this subject a lot in our lives, and it is not one of the top priorities in the life of any of us. But, we need to make sure that it becomes the top priority in our lives, as self-love is the most essential in all our lives, it becomes impossible for us to accomplish anything if we are not aware of who we really are and of the fact that we are amazing just the way we are.
Do you find it impossible to accept all of yourself the way you are? Do you find it impossible to love the flaws that you have, flaws that are called so because they are termed as flaws by the society? Do you think this article will be able to help you to make peace with all aspects of yourself and help you to love who you are without any modifications? Please let us know your opinion in the box below.
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