Our inner riches are what helps us keep the faith alive when all odds get against. But, what if we start to feel bad about us and our circumstances? What if our instincts also do not support our choices? What if experiences start diminishing your quality of life? Feeling low in confidence and not believing in self, comes naturally in such circumstances.
However, that is not how you handle difficult situations. This is not how you pave your way towards the brightest star. This is not how you will be appreciated and understood. And for turning all of it around, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and get rid of self-pity.
We always have one or the other reason to feel sorry for ourselves. And these certainly relate to situations where all odds turn against us. It makes us feel inadequate in a situation and we start to sabotage our own efforts. But, somewhat we even enjoy doing so. However, by feeling sorry for who we are, unintentionally prepares our destiny to reach the path of failure. And self-pity is actually a very cheap way of getting the needed attention. Such are the people who are never ready to take up any responsibilities or grab opportunities. What they want to portray is that highly unacceptable "Oh, I am the victim" attitude.
But, such an attitude just doesn’t' work. And this is a life-saving fact. Be willing to see the truth and welcome the healing that can be brought about, regardless of how painful your circumstances are. The dark and self-compromising state only makes your life change for the worse. You start to resist all the good things and the possibilities of receiving better opportunities. You are also choking your heart and mind by not accepting the dark side of worldly circumstances. And such a heart gets filled with tears that soon turn into a stone incapable of feeling any amount of compassion towards others or for self. Also, when you agree to live with such saddening regrets, you are ensuring that they are going to be by your side tomorrow and even in the days that are yet to come.
You either get bitter due to your circumstances, or you get better with time. It is just that simple. You either let in the things that you face and allow them to tear you down, or you take them as challenges to make you a better person. This choice belongs to you and not to the fate. Therefore, here is how to stop feeling sorry for yourself and free yourself from all kinds of terrible feelings.
#1. Count Your Blessings
Feeling grateful for whatever things you have is the key to absolute happiness. This is one such feeling that makes you feel superior to others. Because when you are not concentrating on the blessings, you are focusing on the problems and start feeling sorry for yourself and the circumstances you are in. But, expressing gratitude gives you a positive perspective. And instead of getting frustrated and discouraged, you are encouraged to perform competently and be hopeful. This way, even if you are defeated in any particular sphere you know that things can go wrong but you have still got it pretty good and sorted. This life of yours is ultimately in your hands. So, you have the power to make it count and not keep adding to the troubles. Bringing the good things and good mindset to the forefront makes it a worthwhile experience.
#2. Try Volunteering
Yes, do that even when things are not in your favor. Volunteering always reminds you of the world that exists outside your trouble bubble. It allows your mind to witness even worse conditions. But on the other side, it also lets you put in positive energy for the sake of helping someone else. So, make sure that you are keeping some time aside for an activity that will snap out the feelings of self-pity and be feeling sorry for self. Because when you know that there are people who do not have even 1% of what you own, that is what makes you realize the difference. Richness and satisfaction are not concerned with the number of possessions you own or about your fan following but having a life that makes you feel contented and happy from within.
#3. Take Responsibilities For Your Actions
Because when you are capable enough to take up responsibilities for each of your actions, you can efficiently achieve your dreams. And it is a foundational idea that you must be accountable while planning for your life and goals, success as well as failures. Do not adopt the attitude that everything is someone else's fault. Not taking the responsibility blows you away with the passing wind. And all you will be left with is blaming the wind for turning things around. Do not set a stage for failure and miserable conditions for yourself. You have to fulfill your aspirations instead of feeling sorry for the things that happen beyond your control. Get rid of blames and excuses, listen to what and how you speak, take constructive feedback seriously and know that what may ever happen, you matter.
#4. Unplug From Social Media
But how do you know that social media is affecting your choices and your life? Just keep a close watch on your activities and observe if you are silently comparing your life and the lifestyle with someone over the other side of social media. And in case this thought keeps you bugging throughout the time, you really need to unplug before you critically start feeling sorry for yourself. Practice this advice for a while, and you will see your life changing. It allows you to concentrate on the things that need more priority. Plus, you also realize how important it is to ditch the virtual world for enjoying the thrilling realities. You will start enjoying your company.
#5. Become Independent
You might feel this to be just another general tip, but once you realize its importance; you will understand that it is a special tip. Being dependent is like wishing someone else to carry you with the scruff of your neck like a baby kitten and place you under a safe shed. But, even if someone really does that, you might not feel so good on the inside at a later stage. After all, it will someday hurt your self-esteem.
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