Responsibility is a huge word. Being responsible means that an individual holds a duty for which he and only he is accountable. The meaning of this word is as deep as long the word responsibility is. On the surface level, responsibilities are some tasks or duties that require being handled by a person. Sending the children to school for good education, babysitting a sibling for a day, driving a friend home safe after a long party in a club, and writing an email at work are some of the responsibilities that a person takes every day. You take responsibilities sometimes out of love and sometimes out of compulsion. A person takes decisions for their life thinking that it would harness some good fortune but when things do not turn out as expected you start blaming your life. God becomes your enemy because you think that everything is predestined by Him.
But blaming your destiny, blaming other people and blaming God is not the right decision. The person who is to be blamed is you. Does it make you angry? Your life is your own responsibility. You make the decisions so you should be blamed. Taking responsibility for your own actions is very important if you want to succeed in life.
A very wise man once said “A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences. You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.” -Denis Waitley
#1. You become a different person. People do not accept their mistakes and do not accept that they were wrong but when you accept your mistakes you will be different from others. You become accountable for your own actions.
#2. When you accept your wrong decision then you get an opportunity to change yourself. You get to know what wrong step you took and you can change it after. Reforms are important to make the right decisions in life.
#3. Accepting your responsibility for an action will make others believe in you more than they do already. They will trust your courage and your honesty after you accept your mistakes. When people have faith in you, you start having faith in yourself.
#4. The fear of criticism that comes with accepting your mistakes will demolish. When you accept your mistakes you will be welcoming criticism positively and you will instantly make reforms. When you start understanding that criticism is actually good for you then the fear will not stay.
#5. When you accept your mistakes you become confident. You start thinking positively and all the actions you take will be bold because you will be confident that next time you will not repeat the same mistake.
#6. People will look up to you as a role model or someone they can have faith in. people will see the transformation in you and will be convinced to bring those changes in themselves.
We know how taking responsibility for your own life can benefit you and now you must be wondering how will you start taking responsibilities for your own actions? The following points will show you how to be responsible for yourself.
#1. Denying The Obvious
“We have forty million reasons for failure, but not a single excuse.” -Rudyard Kipling
The first thing to start taking responsibility for your own life is to stop making excuses. When you make excuse you are denying that you were responsible for the whole outcome of your action. You cannot blame others for what you do because they did not make the choice. They could have influenced your decision but you were the person to make the decision at the end. When you deny the responsibility of your decision you are denying your power to make a right one. By blaming and denying, you doubt your own power to correct the decision and inviting more regret in return.
#2. Nothing Comes For Free
“There is a price for everything in life. Even what you receive freely has already been paid for by someone.” - Sunday Adelaja, The Mountain of Ignorance
Everyone has to pray the price for every action they take. Nothing costs free in this world and nor your actions do. When you make a decision about your own life know that the consequences could be either positive or negative. When you accept that the results could be anything then you will not regret making a decision in life. You will act more responsibly before you take a step forward.
#3. You Are Your Own Hero
"Gather the shards of your courage. Patch together what resolve you can. We'll find this thing -- and kill it." - Janet Morris, Chris Morris
Your life is your possession. You should know what you want to do with and how to do things you want. When you are not confident enough you do not make right decisions. Self- doubt penetrates your mind and you feel helpless. At this point, you start looking for miracles or an angel to become your savior. But what you do not know is that you are your own savior. You are your own superhero. Nobody can save you except you. You must have heard that God helps those who help themselves. Unless you have the will and the confidence in your abilities you will not be able to take responsibilities in life.
#4. Break The Chains
“They who can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety.” - Benjamin Franklin
A lot of times one person is not able to take responsibilities of their lives because they have restricted themselves in a closed space that they think are their world. Our world is a humongous place and it is limitless. You can do whatever you want to do and even if you try doing something new every day you will still be left to do a lot after a year. The only problem is that you have confined your thoughts and your ideas to one sphere and that is why you need to break the chains. When you break the chains you will be able to take responsibility for your own life.
#5. Life Sucks? Think Again.
“Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough.” - Emily Dickinson
Do you think your life is horrible? Do you think that all the problems in the world have been put in your baggage? Is that really so? No. your life is not horrible it is just a chaos. You have one problem that you need to solve but there are hundreds of problems around the world being faced by millions of people every day. Someone somewhere is sleeping on the road, somewhere someone is in hospital from months waiting to recover fully and someone has been murdered. Do you still think that your life sucks? Whenever you think about something that has gone wrong, start thinking about the problems the other people could be facing. You will find your suffering so small that you will start taking responsibility for your own actions.
#6. Gratitude Is The Right Attitude
“Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn’t learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn’t learn a little, at least we didn’t get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn’t die; so let us all be thankful.” — Buddha
When you have realized how tiny your problems are in life you will also realize how you have been so ungrateful towards things and people you have in your life. You should start expressing your gratitude towards people who have supported you in every up and down and every sickness. When you start saying thank you to everything you will realize your responsibilities and you will start owning your actions. Being grateful for things you have will help you think positively and all the ambiguity in your life will get cleared just like how washed the world looks after the first rain.
#7. “Pessimism Leads To Weakness, Optimism To Power”
This is a quote by William James which portrays the power of positivity. Optimism always helps a person to take the right decisions in life and if the person has taken a wrong decision then the positive attitude will help the person to bear the consequences that come along. What you think is what you become. If you keep thinking about the negative result then you will get negative results in life. But if you think about the positive aspects then the negative outcomes will not pain you as much they will when you think negatively.
Do you find it difficult to take responsibilities for your own life? Do try these ways to bring a change in your perspective about taking responsibilities for your own life and share your experience with us through the comments section below.