Recovering from the trauma of rape

I prefer to characterize rape simply as a form of torture. Like a torturer, the rapist is motivated by the urge to dominate, humiliate, and destroy his victim. 

Like a torturer, he does so by using the most intimate acts available to humans -- sexual ones. In the wake of widespread child rape and child abuse cases reported and unreported, Infliction of "Death Penalty" for child rape irrespective of the degree of offense or homicide, and a rigorous penalty for child molestation would serve as an excellent deterrent mechanism.

Sexual violence or assault can happen to anyone of any age: men, women, and children. The way how to concern the situation and make the victim to overcome from the incident is important.

A girl or woman who has been raped may seek consolation from people among her personal support system. However, such people are not always the best to provide this support; in an effort to shield themselves from believing that such a thing could happen to a loved one might speculate as to why the event occurred and may decide that – though not deserving to be raped – the person seeking support had put herself in a dangerous situation, which does not help recovery.

Don’t judge the victim, don’t blame them. Make the victim also understand that sexual assault is not the fault of the victim who is abused.

Listen to the victim, but don’t ask them the details of the assault. Don’t question why they could not stop it. This can make the victim feel as though you blame them.

Offer practical support, such as going with them to appointments. Respect their decision of whether to report to police or not.

Bear in mind that they might not want to be touched. Even a hug might upset them, so ask first. 

If the victim is your life partner, be aware that sex might be frightening and scary, and don’t put pressure on them to have sex.

Don’t tell them to forget about the assault. Life will heal their injury, and they need time to deal with their feelings and emotions. You can help by listening and being patient.