10 Things You Should Never Say To Your Kid

Just out of an emotional outburst or for the welfare of the child, parents often end up saying things to their kids which might have a detrimental effect on their psyche. Not only do you put your relationship with your child in jeopardy, you might also hamper his self-esteem and emotional expression by telling them things which are difficult for a child to take.

Very often, parents tend to ignore and move on after rebuking their kids for something so petty that might create nuisance in the mind of the child. In the longer run, this might prove to be of a serious issue and therefore, parents must be very cautious when dealing with their kids. Here are a few examples of things parents should not be telling to their children:-

#1. WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE

This is the most common thing that people tell their kids without even realizing that it is irrational on every level. By setting your childhood as a benchmark for your child, you’re setting inappropriate standards for them in the changing times.

(Image Courtesy: Philly)

#2. LOOK AT YOUR BROTHER/SISTER

Sibling comparison is another erroneous remark that parents make to their children. Not only does this make you look biased, it also disrupts the relationship between the siblings. Moreover, your child will just end up with a low self-esteem.

(Image Courtesy: Huffington Post)

#3. INVEST MORE TIME IN ACADEMICS

Another common thing parents say to their child is to focus on academics which may seem appropriate on the surface level. However, by doing this you are not letting your child discover his talent and abilities in diverse fields. After all, grades are not the only way to make a career.

(Image Courtesy: CNN)

#4. YOU DISAPPOINT ME

Parents often think that giving such remarks to their children will make them work harder. Well, it might give out an entirely different outcome. It comes in as a major setback for your child and might lower his confidence.

(Image Courtesy: SEA Inclusion)

#5. DO NOT ACT LIKE YOUR FATHER/MOTHER

Often during a lash out, parents end up telling things to their children which give them a clear hint of a disturbed relationship. As they understand that their parents do not get along well, they might get hostile and develop a fear of family breakdown.

(Image Courtesy: The Loved Child)

#6. PLEASE DON'T BOTHER ME

There are times when you are exhausted or occupied and you find it impossible to deal with any of your child’s issues. While you find it easy to tell them to stop bothering you, you are leaving a negative impact on your children’s psyche by turning your back on them. You can look for gentler alternatives to make them understand your situation.

(Image Courtesy: NPR)

#7. WHY CAN'T YOU DO THINGS ON YOUR OWN?

Parents are often found to be eager to make their children self- dependent at the earliest. However, simply telling them to do things on their own when they come to you for help is an erroneous way to deal with your children.

(Image Courtesy: In My Own Kitchen)

#8. STOP BEING A CRYBABY

You might find it hard to put up with your child’s crying and tantrums and you often tell them to stop being a crybaby. Yes, it is important to resolve your child’s emotional and behavioral issues, but by giving a negative reinforcement for something as natural as crying might harm their emotional expression.

(Image Courtesy: Very Well)

#9. BECAUSE I SAID SO

Being at a curious stage, your child does deserve to know the reasons behind the things you tell him. ‘Because I said so’ is never a valid reason to give even to a child and it only makes your assertions look illogical.

(Image Courtesy: Working Moms Against Guilt)

#10. WHY CAN'T YOU BE LIKE OTHER KIDS?

Parents often compare their children to kids who seem to be doing great in life already or have just acquired traits or habits which their kids do not have. Well, this is mostly because parents want their child to grow to the fullest of their abilities or due to the fear of ending up behind in the parenting race.

 However, comparing your child to other kids is no different than sibling comparison. By constantly comparing your children to other kids, you are just giving them a message that they are not good enough. All in all, it is important to understand that every individual has distinctive capabilities.

(Image Courtesy: Pinterest) 

We would love to hear from you on things parents should not tell their children. Kindly use the comment box to share your thoughts and opinions with us.