There was this man that use to come into the shop were I worked. he owned a bussiness just up the road. he said he needed staff and I new someone that would be interested . so I had his number off him to pass along. I told this person who I new would be interested she used my phone to call him.
This man was a different nationaly to me but was the same as this person's partner they spoke for a long time in there language . once they came of phone he asked me if I would go shop the next day to get some paper work so I did. when I went shop this man was trying it on with me but I thought nuthing off it . he said to me there a back entrance to his shop so he walked me around the back of his shop . He became very agaressive towards me . I was scared . he asked me to kiss him I dunno why I did but I did . his car was parked around the back . I think I gave him the wrong impression by kissing him . he forced me into his car and had sex with me . I told him no but he wouldn't listen.
I rember just living there looking up and he asking if I am okay because I now this is what I wanted . ( there was never a back entrance to his shop) did I lead him on?
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The pain and problems you went through can never be realized by anyone else until and unless they are in the same shoe as you were. However, know and accept the fact that it wasn’t your fault as sometimes we don’t realize what is happening around us till the time it’s done and we go back to that time and calculate to potential possibilities that we could’ve done. People are cruel and selfish in this world, all we can do is behave in the same way as they did with us. There were chances that you could have saved yourself and could have behaved in equally aggressive way. However, this is not possible every time. The best you can do now is to not blame yourself and give up the regret that you are holding inside you. Also, if you think that was the wrong done from his side, try to take the best revenge possible, whatever is in your zone. If you will not take a step for yourself, people like these will never understand what pain they are leaving behind them for the other people. My advice will be to take a stand for yourself and you will never want anyone else to go through the phase that you faced. Give up the blames on yourself and stand for what is right.
We know it’s only you who knows the ordeal you went through when this was happening to you, but one thing is for sure, if you said no to his advances, then you are not wrong. What one needs to learn is to accept the fact that ‘No’ means ‘No’. Whether it’s a ‘No’ right in the beginning of a conversation or ‘No’ before the worst that could happen. If you have said ‘no’, the person needs to respect your choice and not force theirs on you. So, do not blame yourself for what happened to you.
Whether you feel you "led him on" or "this is what I wanted", but you said NO! No one has right to get aggressive with you, especially when you have used the word 'NO'. So, stop blaming yourself and don't let others blame you either.