What to do when Everyone is Taking you For Granted?

You’re in a restaurant sitting down for a meal, but you get driven to a corner, being taken for granted, and everyone at the table turns deaf ears to you, you wind up feeling dejected. Often people are taken for granted, and they are left with sullen countenances.  The presence and its acknowledgment are quite important, 

but you are dashed to smithereens when people fail to notice you, hear you or simply fail to share a word or two with you. People go berserk when they are taken for granted, all they can do is steer clear of emotional strain and mull over it seriously. 

Everyone on the planet has a person and an identity of his own, his or her existence matters. It is a terrible situation when someone is taken for granted. People build a web of thoughts which revolve around people, habits, and mannerisms. They start blaming themselves and their existence, to put it mildly.

What Does Taken For Granted Mean?

When a person is almost ostracized in a group or rejected or turned a blind eye at, he or she is taken for granted. Being taken for granted is a very bad feeling. You feel lonesome, sad, crazy and go through the motions of anger and impatience. It makes you go ballistic, and you feel like cocking a snook at everyone, little realizing that people barely notice you.

#1. Disrespects You

When people around you do not engage in conversations with you and humiliate you just for the heck of it, you go in a zone where you would like to hibernate. People don’t respect your decisions, shun your opinions and go on their own without even discussing matters with you.

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#2. Have No Faith

When you are not trusted by anyone, say at work, you are being taken for granted. People don’t trust your decisions, do not find you credible and feel you are just an easy fish to capture which can be cornered any time. You end up feeling like a fish out of water, at long last.

#3. Ridicule You

People treat others with contempt when they take them for granted, for instance, if your partner derides you before others repeatedly, you feel like you're being hemmed in. People question their own identity and feel discouraged when things like these happen especially when it comes from one’s own relatives and acquaintances.

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#4. Do Not Depend On You

Everybody needs a hand in tasks when they engage in some work. If you are being taken for granted, no one really maintains a connection with you and do not rely on you. They hinge on others owing some dearth of skills or abilities in you.

How To Stop Being Taken For Granted?

Often people are kept at bay; they do not get any attention and fail to impress managers and boss. They lag behind professionally and personally as well. They confront you, insult you, ignore you at every stage to demean you. Here are some of the things you can do when you are being taken for granted at work 

#1. Be Assertive

Do not try to dominate but be emphatic. When people take bold decisions and put up a brave front, they are paid attention. Once you claim your stand, you are hard to ignore. You can clearly state your own views without being worried and anxious. People will stop taking you for granted at work.

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#2. Confront People

People often persistently ignore remarks and comments for fear of being ridiculed. Lack of confidence and willpower lets them down, and they become the object of ridicule. You need to confront people, call a spade a spade, and object to their thoughts where you feel they are wrong or going astray.

#3. Communicate With People

Sit in large groups, express yourself and interact on topics you can discuss or have knowledge. Participate in activities and interact with people else you will fall behind, and your own colleagues at the office would avoid you. No one likes passive, silent people.

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#4. Be A Decision Maker

Try to be as direct as possible and practice what you want to speak or share with your co-workers and managers. Take decisions and stick to them to avoid being taken for granted at work. Do not dilly-dally, be consistent and do things on your own, and set boundaries.

#5. Be A Keen Observer

Observations and recognizing things and behavior to drill those into our lives do the trick. Observe the body language of people, the way they talk, the good vibes they exude, the confidence and their decisions. Try to imitate some of them by making certain amendments according to your convenience.

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#6. Brood

Self-analysis is very important, jot down your thoughts and compare it with others. Do not follow others blindly. Follow your managers and co-workers smartly, and introspect and make changes in your lifestyle and attitude towards others.

Being Taken For Granted In Relationship

When one person in a relationship avoids the other, then starts a chain of problems. If you are being taken for granted in a relationship, your thoughts revolve around what you did wrong and how things went bad. In reality, good relationships go on rocks due to misunderstandings and misconceptions. Sometimes, it is because of the person who feels he is taken for granted. Here are some of the things you can do if you think you are being taken for granted in a relationship :

#1. Vent Out Feelings

People should not contain their feelings and articulate what they feel. Discussing things can work wonders and help you get over the tensions and know the reason when someone does not acknowledge your presence.

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#2. Do Not Pander To The Wishes

People-pleasers are irksome, and no one likes to be surrounded by bootlickers. State your true viewpoints, be honest and say the truth without any gull and dupe. Do not always concede with the ideas and suggestions of your partner.

#3. Let Your Absence Speak

Familiarity breeds contempt. Try to be consistent and assertive and create your own importance with good body language and have the ability to make decisions. Do not continuously roam around your partner and your absence is sure to roar.

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#4. Learn To Say No

When you always answer in the affirmative to the requests and desires of your partner, they become accustomed to it, and is hard for them to come out of that habit. Learn to reject things and say no and let him or her know that you won’t like being taken for granted anymore.

#5. Give Importance To Your Self-Respect

When people compromise with their self-respect in a relationship, they let go of their dignity and ability to make decisions and think on their own. It is very important that your partner respects you and your decisions and what’s more is dignity that begets happiness. So shout to your partner if you being taken for granted, so that he or she cares and think about you.

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#6. Be Independent

Freedom to make decisions, change decisions, and decide things on one’s own is important. If someone exerts control over you, you furnish your partner a chance to exercise his rights, and your prerogatives are ignored, and you are being taken for granted. One must be independent and have the carte blanche to do the things he or she likes to do.

What would you do if you are taken for granted? Please let us know in the comments below.

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