What to do when your Best Friends Date Each Other?

Till yesterday you were the happiest person to have both your best friends with you and suddenly you are not. Why? Because both your best friends are now a couple? Yes, they are dating. How weird is that? We mean, we all have heard how important it is to become your partner’s best friend, but dating your best friend? Not sure right?

Well, the idea of it sounds amazingly interesting because no one understands you better than your best friend, but is it really that good for the third best friend? Most likely no. Irrespective of how much you try, the equation between you three is sure to change. You will always feel like the third wheel on your friendly dates. Life’s worth living when you have your best friends to look after you, but what happens when they are too busy looking at each other, completely forgetting about you?

Here’s what happens.

Just like before, plans will be made, but unlike previous days, your BFF’s WhatsApp group will be flooded with mushy messages exchanged between your other two best friends. You will try to laugh it out initially and later will end up asking just one of them to make plans because now they are glued together; they will come together, eat together, laugh together and obviously leave together.

There would be times when you’ll be shushed to talk about the stupid things that you have done together because your girl is trying to make an impression on her best-friend-turned-partner. Like what??

You’ll become their official photographer always clicking their oh-so-cute pictures, letting yourself float somewhere in the backgrounds.

But then, you should be happy about them, isn’t it? And you probably are, it’s just that you need time to sink in the very idea. Do not let them know about the storm that hits your mind every time you look at them holding hands or exchanging kisses.

You have your reasons to be uncomfortable even if you smelled something fishy between the two lovebirds. If you have been planning to talk to them about your opinions, then better stop and read this one.

What To Do When Your Best Friends Date Each Other?

Have your best friends finally started dating? Is it giving you butterflies in the stomach? We can imagine your situation and our sympathies are with you.

Let us help you come out of this situation with flying colors:

#1. Don’t Freak Out

They might have fished around for a while, but the relationship is new to them too. And you are the best friend now, who else would they expect to be happy for them? Even it was a shocker to you, do not overreact. It will be natural for things to fall out of proportion, but try to hold your horses. Just be glad that you didn’t get to know it from some outsider, so be clear about your feelings from the very beginning. Be supportive and happy for them.

#2. Set Your Boundaries

Now that your best friends are a couple, they will try to steal as many moments they can of being together, just give it to them. Do not try to poke them now and then. While it is important to be aware of what could go wrong and it’s after effects, you just cannot keep running behind your friends telling them that they’ll screw it up. Doing so will only make you look like a downer and make it difficult for them to hang out with you. Give it some time until you genuinely start feeling happy for them.

#3. Be Supportive

What is the first thing that you do when your partner does something special or something stupid to you? Call your best friends, right? So now that your best friends are a couple whom would they call to talk? Their best friend, which is YOU! You will have to hear them banter, blabber and talk utter nonsense at times because they are in love. You cannot snap at them just because you are not okay with them dating, or because the idea of them dating still haunts you.

#4. Be Happy For Them

Did we just ask for too much? Ummm, maybe we did, but do you have a better plan? Do you want them to break up? No, you don’t. So deal with it. Life will be much easier if you give your friends a chance to convince you about their relationship. Things will smooth out eventually.

#5. Don’t Behave Like A Third Wheel

Just because your other two best friends are dating does not make you the third wheel. You three were and will always be best friends. If they were to go out, they will do so separately, calling you implies a friendly date.

Sure, it'll be awkward, but try not to feel like a complete outcast. Try to be as normal as you were when they were not a couple. Things will get better.

#6. Give Them Some Time

Out of all other friends, they expect you to understand them and give them some “their time.” We know that you were like the three amigos, but things have changed now. They will need their couple time. Do not consider yourself to be excluded from the party, just accommodate their needs.

#7. Do Not Take Sides

No couple does not fight, and your friends will be no exception. They are going to have their good and bad days, and fortunately, you’ll be a part of all of them. It was easier to calm your friend earlier when they were dating some outsider; “Chill, he’s a jerk,” or “That Bi*** didn’t deserve you,” but now you are stuck. Stuck between both of your bestestest friends.

The best thing to do is stay quite. Do not take sides at all, let them clean their own mess. The moment you take sides you are surely losing out on your other friend.

Stay safe, just Shut Up!!

#8. Ask Your Other Friends To Tag Along

Well, there is no one like your best friends, but now that you are awkward with them being together and you don’t want to be the third wheel, all you can do is to tag someone along. Yes, ask another friend to join you. They’ll help you to keep out of the uneasiness, and you never know, things might just feel right after a while.

#9. Talk It Out

There could be times when you start feeling overwhelmed with the way things have taken shape. Couples tend to move into their own space as soon as they are together. They fail to understand that their “love” could be infecting the air and suffocating their friends. If you wish to avoid the “love-asthma,” then talk to them about it.

They are your best friends and will understand if their behavior is gradually drifting you apart. Just make them know that you have no issue with them being together, but it’ll be great if they could just be like old times when you are with them.

#10. Prepare Yourself For The Breakup

Ahaaan, this one’s the toughest of all. You know where there’s a relationship, there’s a breakup (in most cases). So, now that your best friends are in a relationship, you better embrace yourself for the worst. The BREAKUP. Imagine both your friends breaking up at the same time!! It is going to more intimidating than a nightmare.

Keep yourself stocked with alcohol, and a dozen advises. You will need it as soon as your friends break up.

Jokes apart, a breakup between your best friends will surely affect your “group.” Now that they have broken up, they are so not looking each other in the eye. And you’ll be the one who suffers the most. However hard you try, getting back your friends together will be a difficult task.

Your best friend’s dating can be fun or a disaster depending on how you take it. You can either be happy and excited for your hunny-bunny or make a scene out of it. Relationships are fun if your friends support you. So be the friend who is there with their lovebirds when they need you the most.

Have you ever been in a situation where you found yourself stuck between your best friends dating each other? What did you do? Let us know in the comment section below.

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