When my boyfriend is angry he says things he later says he didn't mean. basically confirming all my insecurities. what do I do?

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Please advice me on this situation, When my boyfriend is angry he says things he later says he didn't mean. basically confirming all my insecurities. what do I do?

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Kinsley 15 Dec 2017

When you are in a relationship with someone who is not able to keep track of the kind of things they say when they tend to lose their temper, it can get really annoying to experience the negativity they impose on a you at the time of being angry. What is important to understand is the fact that you will need to make sure that you are not letting this person get the worst of you. You will have to keep track of how their behavior is impacting you. You need to remember the idea that it is not your responsibility to bear the negative behavior of other people who do not know how to control their behavior. It may be true that you love this person, but loving someone does not mean that you give them the liberty to treat you badly. Please understand the fact that it is not good for your emotional healthy for your emotional health to be treated negatively for no reason.
When someone behaves negatively and is of the opinion that they did not mean to hurt you, which really is not an acceptable excuse. This may have taken place once, but if it keeps recurring for the longest period of time, it really is not something you need to put up with.

Mitali 15 Dec 2017

My boyfriend is a shy and calm guy but when he gets angry he says things that are mean and rude. When he calms down he also says that he did not mean any of it. Do I trust him? No. I cannot trust a person who insults me at first and then says that he did not mean to because he loves. I have been angry as well and I know if I say rude or mean things most of the times I mean it. Majorly all the comments are something I believe in or have happened. If I tell my boyfriend that he does not do anything for me then I mean it. I may tell him that I did not mean it because he felt bad about it but somewhere I know that it was true. Somewhere deep in my heart, I feel that my boyfriend does not make me feel special. But yes I cannot say that it is always the truth that is spoken in anger. A lot of times we also lie out of jealousy. We lie because we want the other person to feel jealous or to let them know that they should pay attention.