How can Constructive Feedback Change your Life for the Good?

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How can Constructive Feedback Change your Life for the Good?

Feedback has become a part of our life. We like to give comments everywhere. But, what about getting feedbacks? We aren't very well with being at the receiving end.

However, not all feedback is bad. In fact, feedback is rarely bad. Especially, if it is given to you not to put you down but to bring the best out of you. 

Enter, constructive feedback. It is when people criticize or praise you after observing you or your work. This feedback, if taken seriously, can help you improve manifolds.

Following are some advantages of constructive feedback. Check them out:

#1. Changes Perspective

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You will get to know your mistakes and areas to improve. This will make way for framing a perspective about yourself (right for your benefit).

#2. Lets You Go Easy On Yourself

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If you are obsessed with making your work excellent, then feedback will help you go easy on yourself. This way you can become more productive and identify the area that you are excellent in.

#3. Contributes To Know Yourself Better

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Feedback improves self-awareness quite effectively. Often it takes someone to bring out the best in someone else. That is why people who observe your work on a daily basis can bring out the best in you with their feedback.

#4. Strengthens Your Listening Ability

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You will start to listen to the whole thing. You will stop being judgmental in your head about the person who is giving it in the first place.

#5. Honesty Is A Virtue

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Once people give you their real and honest opinion, you will learn to appreciate it.

#6. You Will Avoid Outbursts

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You'll eventually become more patient and will likely be more encouraging of hearing critical things about yourself. You will stop having those sudden outbursts you had upon hearing critical things about you.

#7. You Will Become Stronger!

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You will come out as a stronger person; this is because you will get hold of your emotions. Once that is done, nothing can stop you from becoming the best!

#8. Sense Of Parity

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You can easily distinguish between the feedbacks that are for your improvement or just to mess you up. Choose the ones that you find sincere.

#9. You Will Start To Incorporate It In Your Life

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You will learn to implement the feedback in your practical life. Once you do this, everything else will come in very handy. Not to mention the incredible improvement that you will have in your life.

How To Give Constructive Feedback?


#1. Focus Not On The Person But The Situation

Constructive feedbacks focus on the circumstances and not the person. You don't have to keep going on and on criticizing someone's attitude, their way of working, their delays or their intentions. You are in no way helping the person to improve. Any such behavior that you display is just considered as a personal attack. Concentrate on the aspects they could have improvised for a better performance. Make sure to detach the individual from his/ her present situation. Circumstances really need your criticism.


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So, for instance, don't tell the person how his/ her presentation was boring that you just fell asleep. Instead, let them know how they could have reduced the time limit of the presentation. And in case you still want the person to analyze their character, don't say how negative they are or how their negativity drains you. Instead, you should try and say how their behavior/ comments hurt you and you are let down. It is tricky but all you have to do is not offend the other person.

#2. Try To Be Specific

You may at times give a pretty vague and unnecessary feedback like how you felt the effort of a colleague on one of the assignments was just fine. You also felt that there could have been more room for betterment. That isn't something you can call constructive.


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So, you need to be very specific like how their efforts were fine, but a list of things needed improvements. Greater feedbacks are focused on specific things that you feed need a reform. Rather than being subjective, you need to deal with the situation very objectively. Do not let it out in a big lump, but break the feedback down into various points.

#3. Make Sure To Give Recommendations

Letting the other person know where they are wrong does not just sort the issue. You also need to give recommendations on what exactly can be done to improve their circumstances. By this, I mean that you have to provide the other person with a strong call-to-action so they understand your viewpoint.

                 

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The recommendation should be helpful, specific and also leave a greater impact on the other individual. The critiques can be interpreted in just any manner. So, do not procrastinate if you would want the other person to act upon what you have shared as a feedback. Suggestions should be rationale and useful.

#4. No Assumptions, Please!

Assumptions are sure to create embarrassing situations in the case where they turn out to be wrong. Constructive criticism gets tougher as well as faulty and leads to misconceptions. So, being honest and direct with your communication is a crucial step. It helps you realize where the problem lies, you can also get over it quickly and you develop a better listening ability.


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Rely on the things that are considered as a fact related to the individual. There is no need to opt for the other way. For instance, when someone is not able to give a proper speech in front of a large audience, it doesn't mean that you have the right to assume he/ she never had any such experience. Nervousness can occur due to several reasons and you assuming their lack of capability is pretty unfair.

#5. Mind Your Tone

Whenever you want to communicate a constructive feedback, make sure that you are careful about your tone. This is one aspect that can easily make or badly break the perception that is to be conveyed. When you are coming off as an angry or strict personality, this is when you give out signals for the other person to pull off their defenses.

 

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Take out a moment and accurately consider how you would want to approach the situation and the person. If you are one of those temperamental people, so before reacting in the heat of the moment, just think what if you could respond in the other way? What if you were not at all reacting but understanding? Yes, that is what makes a difference!

#6. Analyse If It Really Needs To Be Said

This one comes from my personal experience. Correcting other people is a pretty satisfying task and you may not be the only one feeling so. But that's where a question arises - does the other person really need your suggestions? If not, then why would you want to waste your time and efforts? But if yes, the feedback is required, then approach the person with kindness to make them bring about a change.


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Maybe there are certain things that should not come from you. So, make sure that you are not making it an unsolicited advice. It is not easy. But you will have to analyze the rights and wrongs of how to give out your feedback when needed and stay away when required.

#7. Allow The Other Person To Respond

You don't have to be judgmental about the situation but act smartly. If there is no constructive purpose behind giving the feedback, just opt out of it. But if you do, make sure you also allow the other person to put forward his/ her point of views.


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For some time, just remain silent and give the other person an opportunity to get rid of their hesitation and tell you what their thoughts are. It is important to even hear the other side of the story. You might never know how they may actually have solutions for the problem. Or you may be getting the entire thing wrong. Or in fact, there could be something serious that you can address and rectify the mistake.

#8. Do Not Make Comparisons

This isn't just true at work but also for maintaining other relationships. Because when you start comparing one person to the other, you are actually inviting troubles! No matter if it is flattering or not, you somewhat set a standard for the other person to achieve goals and objectives irrespective of their personal performance/ behavior.


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However, you can definitely compare that person's past attitudes with that of their present. But when it is with someone else, the situation goes out of hands. This way, you even lose that respect that the other person has in his/ her eyes for you.

#9. Are You Being A Guide?

Not being of a strictly authoritative nature is the best you can do to yourself as well as for the others. For giving out constructive feedback, be a guiding star for them. Device for that person, a course of action where they can learn and earn. Your voice should not appear to be the final authority, but be a voice that asks back for opinions.

Maintain a two-way communication and nothing one-sided. If you have a plan, work towards it. But when you don't, let the other person come up with one. Good leaders are there to support and not rejecting or neglecting.

#10. What Are The Other Principles?

When you know that your feedback is essential and will be helpful for the other person, just make sure to follow these:

- Let your feedback be very precise.

- Make a clear distinction between the people, their actions along with the results obtained or to be obtained.

- Do not let the feedback appear nebulous.

- Let the information provided be actionable.

- Make sure it is also positively formulated.

- Even if there is nothing to improve, you should know how to appreciate the person you are giving the feedback to.

- And at the end, if you show full trust and respect in the other person, you will have people who are ready to listen to your views and also work towards improving their situations.

So, as soon as you start taking constructive feedbacks positively, always remember that it might be tough for you in the beginning, but, the long-term results will be brilliant!

Do you have any thoughts over constructive feedbacks? If yes, then please share it with us.

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