How to Brag about your Kids without Sounding Obnoxious?

The happiest and the excited beings in the world are parents when a child hits a milestone. The moments like when the baby mumbles their first word or when they start walking, achieving a good grade, and getting admission in the best college of the state make a parent proud. Why? Parenting is not an easy responsibility. A parent begins from fresh with a child and works equally hard to reach the desired point. When all the efforts of the parents turn fruitful, then it becomes a moment of pride for them, and they start bragging about their child on social media, at work, and to every new person they meet. The child’s outstanding accomplishments compel the parents to boast about them, and sometimes they start sounding obnoxious.

Does it mean that the parents should not brag about kids? It does not necessarily mean that they should not share their children’s achievements. If singing about the children’s success pleases the parents, then they should go ahead with it. The point is that they do not sound loathsome. The children about whom the parents brag feel embarrassed a lot of times because they do not want the whole world to know about their attainment. It has been observed that a lot of parents get competitive bragging about their children that leads to a whole argument and the parents jump into the boxing ring ready to punch each other in the face. Can anything be more embarrassing than this? The competitiveness will not only be mortification for the children, but it also develops a feeling of hatred for the parents and for the other child whose parents were involved in bragging. If the parents are spirited, then their children will also be ready for action. Therefore, we can conclude that bragging does not promote a healthy environment for the children and the society in a whole. 

So, what should parents do in such a situation where they are excited about their little one? The parents want to identify the right way to brag about their children without making the children feel awkward. How to brag about your children without sounding obnoxious? Let us know.

#1. Select The Correct Platform

The kind of stage you choose to showcase your child’s accomplishments will decide what kind of parent you are. If you go on to brag over the social media, then you need to be very careful of what all information you share. Every piece of information belonging to your child is very sensitive. Moreover, social media is accessible to every person all across the world. All the parents of your child’s friends will be over the social media too. The words you choose for describing your child will matter a lot to other parents and to your child who has recently joined social media. The kind of things you write will be visible to the child’s peers who can tease your child. The child will be humiliated by his friends for what you will be responsible.

#2. Brag Out Of Your Child’s Circle

The benefit of bragging out of the child’s circle is that the parents will not get jealous. Were it the classmate’s parents; they would burn in jealousy because their child did not hold a trophy in their hand. The parents who listen to other children doing great in their life force their own to do so. The parents who heard that some child won a swimming challenge may ask their child to do the same. That parent’s child may be good at something else, but grass always looks greener on the other side of the field. The parents might not understand this, and they may put pressure on the child to do equally well. The competitive parents’ expectations can affect the child’s dreams and capabilities of doing something they are good at. Your bragging about your own child affects other children’s lives.

#3. Avoid Flying Your Own Kite

The parents who brag about their children forget that the child worked hard for achieving what they have today. Parents pat their own back instead of their children’s because they believe that everything could happen because of them. The child scored six goals in football because you think you were a great coach to them or your daughter gave a brilliant performance at the state level because you think you they have inherited the skills from you. Parents should not take credit for the child’s success because they toiled hard for it. A lot of times parents praise their kid's hinting that it could not have been possible without them. And when parents behave in this manner the children lose confidence. The children get disappointed thinking that they did not achieve anything great.

#4. Do Not Put Down Other Parents

Everyone should ensure that they do not hurt other parents’ emotions. Not every child outstands, and when the other parents watch the kids not doing well, they lose hopes. All the people are not high spirited to take challenges. Some are pessimistic, and they lose hopes for their kids. Some people are rude they may pick an unnecessary fight with you in aggression. The cause is that they got tired of listening to you boasting about your child. Make sure that you do not talk negatively about other’s children. Bragging about your child should not involve looking down upon other parent’s upbringing. You should not offend other parents because it would affect your child’s position among his friends.

#5. Appreciate Other Children As Well

Involving other children in your brag should be on your list. Do not make it all about your child and their accomplishments. If your child has become the leader of the debate group, then it is not only your child’s leadership quality. It is also because of the other members of the group who decided to vote him. Without their votes and support your child could not have been a leader. Appreciate other children’s efforts and achievements along with yours’. It will encourage other children and polish your child’s impression and upbringing among all the other parents. You will appear to be a humble and a grounded person because of which every parent and child would love to communicate with you. You will never sound an obnoxious parent if you follow all the suggestions mentioned. Be grateful for your words and express gratitude towards other children for helping your child.

#6. Including Other Parents In The Conversation

You will find one parent who will not be responding or reacting to what you say because that parent is probably going through some hard time. The child may be facing some medical issues because of which his/her caliber cannot be noticed. The parent may be cheerless thinking about what their child could do just like your child did. You should include that parent in your conversation. Ask them about their child and why they are not participating in the conversation. That parent may need someone to talk about their child’s condition. You should be considerate about other parents’ emotions as they could be going through some tough time in their life. Help the parent in bragging about their child who will allow them to be active in such conversations. They need motivation which you can provide them.

#7. Efforts Should Matter Not Achievements

Your child may have grabbed medals and trophies but what matters is the experience and the hard work. The efforts she has put in her work, and the lessons they learn are more important than rewards. How you welcome your child’s success decides what kind of person they will become when they grow up. If you make them competitive, then they will look down upon others who failed. You should teach your child to value efforts more than awards by bragging about the attempts they made. Do not appreciate the gold medal they won, talk about how difficult the competition was and how they managed to win with their mind and power. When your child and other parents see how you value the endeavor, then they will also practice the same. Their children will be praised as well indirectly because they work hard as well. Parents will not think down upon you when you sound so compassionate and caring.

#8. Brag Instead Of Exaggerating

Most of the times, parents forget that bragging is about telling other people about your child’s virtues. Quite often parents start exaggerating their children’s success by praising them for doing what they haven’t. The child may not even have tried hard for it. They might have won something by luck, but the parents will showcase their victory as they worked hard for it for their whole life. People know the difference between true and the false information. By faking an achievement, you will create a problem for your child because when the truth comes out your child will not be able to face anyone. It is better, to be honest than feeling guilty later.

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