Undoubtedly understanding women can be very difficult in most cases. The beautiful moon like women can lose their temper in minutes when the mood is not appropriate to argue with her. It is usually said that there is nothing completely black or completely white. It is always gray. However, the woman is the only creature on the planet that can become completely white or black in just a fraction of a second. There are no two ways about it that women are prone to mood swings. You might not believe in this until your girlfriend hits you. There is a major outburst of emotions just around the corner. Beware or keep precautions.
The epitome of grace and elegance can become disastrous and untamable sometimes. If you have suffered from the dark reality of PMSing or mood swings in a relationship, you can probably understand where exactly the conversation is going. Sometimes, it can be extremely difficult to handle the moods of your girlfriend/wife. Though we have come up the four P’s formula which can be immensely helpful in controlling and managing the mood swings of a woman: Patience, Pampering, Perseverance, and Presence of mind. Your concern shouldn’t be why she is having such moods, just focus on finding a solution at that time. So whether you are already aware what we are talking about here or just someone who wants to equip himself for the future references, then stick to us and just follow the guidelines.
#1. First Of All, Leave Her If She Wants Alone Time
When your wife or girlfriend is in a pathetic mood, ask her what is wrong and what is bothering her. But, just once! Not more than that. If you are pestering her again and again to make her talk, trust me you’re getting yourself into such a mess that you might not realize at that moment. If she’s not looking in a mood to talk, just don’t try and bother her. Of course, you are concerned about her and it is hard to sit back and not take any step when your loved one is their worst mood. However, sometimes not taking any decision is also a wise decision. It will help her recover from her mood swing soon. Leaving her alone will provide her enough time to think and bounce back in a good mood. Regardless of the fact whether her mood is just off or she is having her time of the month, providing her space will work best in this case.
#2. Listen To Her Is The Key
Now, the other situation can be what if she wants to talk and discuss when she’s upset? She might be swirling moods as she might be upset with something specific. Try and find that problem and look for a solution. The possibility can be that something annoying must have triggered her mood, your responsibility that time is listening to her care and comfort her by providing a potential solution to her problem. Be patient and try and avoid monotonous conversation with her as that will annoy her even more. PMS is not the only reason she has a bad mood but can be some external factors as well. Talk things out and ask her if she needs something on your behalf that can better her mood and cheer her up.
#3. Be Very Conscious That You Don’t Annoy Her Even More
You can not give an excuse of “poor choice of words” when she is in an immensely pathetic mood. These words won’t work. So be very conscious of what you are saying and doing at that time as unconsciously you might end up doing something that will annoy her anymore. Don’t let that mood swing to spiral out of your hands at any cost. For instance, don’t leave the bathroom dirty, don’t play the music that she hates, do not look at other woman or don’t be arrogant. A few of these things will only calm her down soon. A woman’s vulnerable state of mind is capable of destroying anything and everything in this world. Cliché, isn’t it? But, this is actually true. Therefore, beware of doing anything that irks her.
#4. Follow The Obvious, Agree On Whatever She Says
Your wife or girlfriend can have mood swings because of bad days at work, some external fight or just having a bad hair day. The key to keeping her going is to emphasize with her. In the impact of bad mood, she might say something ridiculous or childish but agree to whatever she says. No matter how irrelevant that is at that particular time, it will relieve your wife/girlfriend that someone considers her even if she talks stupid stuff. Moreover, you can expect her laughing about her own silly behavior once her mood is fixed and fizzled out. So keep the logical mind aside for some time and get to the business.
#5. Abandon Being Righteous And Judgemental For A Moment
The last thing you should be doing while your wife/girlfriend has a bad mood or PMSing is to tell her that she is wrong. Being a righteous person at that moment will only work against you at that particular point. Of course, you can talk to her after some time when she is good to speak of the things she did wrong. But, blame games, unapologetic rants, and heated arguments can get you into a lot of trouble for some days to come. She will ultimately realize what exactly went wrong when she’ll calm down but don’t bend on just being right in the heat of the moment. Your unbiased and non-judgemental behavior will instantly make her feel better.
#6. Stick To The 4P’s Formula, Pamper Her
Love is the best heal without any doubt. The easiest way to deal with your wife/girlfriend’s mood or PMS is to pamper her. Probably a massage, a cuddle, a glass of hot chocolate or a dish from her favorite food joint can cheer her up instantly. If you want the immediate reaction and want to cure the mood swing, it's best just to pamper her. You don’t need even to follow anything else apart from a generous pampering to get her out of her severe bad mood. To lift her spirit promptly all you got to do is show her your chivalrous side and she will start loving you even more. Women do appreciate efforts and especially the ones with them at their worst. So keep the pampering game strong guys.
#7. Remember “If she laughed, she’s yours.”
Most women are prone to like guys with a great sense of humor. Try to manage her bad mood with your sense of humor and make her laugh. Your sense of humor will work as an antidote to her worse mood swing. Crack jokes which will deflate her pain and stress. Try to recreate the incidents you remember when she was rolling in laughter. This will make her mood lighter and will divert her mind from the bodily functions related PMS that are bothering her. A heart out smile will instantly break her bad mood. Even keeping her busy will also help in this case. Try and involve her in a funny and interesting conversation. Attempt to start conversations which are related to something she loves to talk about. This trick can usually diffuse her irritability and keep her mind away from stress.
#8. What Is Better Than A Romantic Date
The cherry on the top of the cake will be a romantic outing. Treat her with some fresh air and take her out. Choose a place that she likes when she is irritated. Usually, women do not prefer a place with loud music and a lot of lights. So in order to keep the environment romantic and light take her to a place where you can just laugh, eat and talk. Even a local cafe or an hour of strolling in a park will make a lot of difference in her calming down her nerves. A patient ear and a hot chocolate are all she wants in a bad mood. You don’t need to make this date a very glamorous one. Don’t make a hole in your pocket because she will also not like it. Fresh air, beautiful sight and her partner's attention will keep your girl’s mood intact.
When she seems in a bad state, demoralized and detached, this point will help you throughout her irritable moods. Well, after reading so much, you don’t really look for much advice here, do you? In fact, in order to fix a fight a between you both or to impress her (in case you are dating), you can actually take advantage of the situation to pamper her and impress her even more. This will eventually strengthen your relationship. Try and don’t run away from the situation and make the most out of it. Sometimes the worst moods can be fixed with the most basic human gestures. We hope to help you through this guidelines, do know us your experience in the comment section below.
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