Do you think homemaking is a job suited solely for the female sex? If so, you are completely wrong and not to mention, ignorantly unaware. And a little sexist too, maybe. A stay-at-home dad refers to the scenario where the man of the family stays at home, cooks, takes care of the children and the house and undertakes every task that a woman homemaker is expected to do. It is a rare sight indeed, but it certainly does exist.
When people in love decide to have kids coupled with the idea of having a career alongside, because they certainly need one to run the household and pay the bills, there are two options that the couple is left with. The first option, is of raising their kids at a childcare center or under the shadow of a full-time nanny, which obviously destroys a child’s need for parental affection. The other and the most common option that is preferably opted includes either one of the parents sacrificing his/ her career while the other goes to work. For ages and ages, it has always been the way that the male of the family goes to work and the women of the house take care of the other things, including raising the child. If it were 1984, the idea that the breadwinner male, also considered as the stronger sex staying at home, shopping for groceries, cooking and taking care of the children would’ve just sound ridiculous and laughed off. But it’s 2017 and the world is changing at the fastest pace possible whilst giving way to underlying issues like suppressed sexuality and women empowerment to name a few amongst the other issues in the society. If you are a guy and reading this article, here are some pointers that would help you if you think you are just the man for the job!
#1. Are You Ready?
The primary step in deciding whether you are the one is by asking yourself if you are really up for this job! Homemaking is not a menial task at all and requires you to be on your toes all day every day without getting paid in cash for it. This is actually the kind of work that goes unnoticed most of the time and not to mention, underrated. But if you think that you are absolutely okay with your wife earning for the family and can take care of all the work in her absence, maybe you have the qualities of qualifying as the stay-at-home dad!
#2. Can You Afford It?
If between you and your wife, your lovely wife is the one driven by ambition and desires to make a career for herself or she has what it takes to be successful along with the fact that she earns pretty well, maybe becoming a stay-at-home dad is not the worst option at all! Real men do not have to prove their manliness or worth and what’s better than to express it by taking a lifetime sacrifice for the love of your life! If your wife earns well enough and you want to be the one who picks up the kids from school, then maybe you have what it takes to become the stay-at-home dad!
#3. Does Your Marriage Support It?
Usually, when two people fall in love, their families get married too. Not that it’s your job to convince every individual against the idea, but letting everyone in the family know about this huge decision comes as a part of the package. Before taking up the profession, ask yourself some basic questions such as ‘can your wife afford to financially support the family?’, ‘are the kids okay with it?’, ‘is your wife comfortable with the idea of being the sole bread earner?’ etc. If your marriage falls perfectly into the loop with the mother working all day and the father dropping the kids to school and cooking dinner, being a stay-at-home dad may not be the worst option to undertake!
#4. Do You Love Spending Time With Your Little Ones More Than Your Ambitions?
If working for a job means nothing more than earning a livelihood and you consider yourself more as a pure family guy, maybe being a stay-at-home dad is just your thing! There is nothing belittling about it, and with the racing generation, more and more guys are opting for it. If you do not believe in raising your kids in some childcare facility or with the full-time company of a paid nanny, the only option left for the couple is to choose who goes to work and who puts up at home and choosing the latter being a man, is not a stereotype anymore.
#5. You Don’t Care About The World’s Opinion!
If you have realized it for yourself that pursuing a job is not your cup of tea or the fact that your wife has some serious goals in life pertaining to her career, if you are more than happy to become a stay-at-home dad, you are the real man for the job! There have been house husbands where they have admitted to being living the life that they aspired where they cook, clean, shop and take care of the children and are absolutely loving it!
#6. You Have It All Sorted Out For The Future
There might be a possibility that your wife and you might’ve already opted a discussion on how to lead the married future life or more like who would lead the married life. If the people involved in the decision-making process such as the kids, better half, and the spouse have it all clearly sorted out for the future, this job might not be the most difficult thing in the world to undertake and to live with for the rest of your lives.
Here’s a vivid list of things to consider if you are planning to become a house husband but still have doubts about the idea. Do you know of someone who is a house husband ? Let us know in the Comments' Box below. We would love to hear from you!
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