We live in an ecosystem where we have our own social circles to attend, our friends with whom we can hang out and people we can hobnob with. It is a cycle of life where people form associations and groups to see each other and catch up on one another’s life. The circle of life is indeed mysterious yet entertaining and adventurous. Sometimes, we invite guests, at times they pop up out of the blue. We cannot clearly articulate our true feelings before our guests, the reason being it is rude and downright uncouth and inappropriate. No one throws one’s guests out; you will never hear someone say – Don’t darken my door again!!. There is a decorum and propriety in life which we have to uphold. The entire constitution is such, and we cannot change it, and what’s more, guests have been considered the reflections of God. How can we be indifferent to our Gods?
Wonder if your guests stay for a long time at a stretch at your crib? You would feel asphyxiated and become sidelined in your own home. Well, who can argue against the comforts of apple pie and motherhood, but some guests waddle to our doors in vain. Some guests are pretty unruly and obdurate who cannot be satisfied at any cost. The sense of well-being is an anathema to them which gnaws to your vitals. The worst part of the problem lies in the fact that we have to bottle up everything, from their presence to their tantrums. This is really saddening and irksome. You have to be a little patient and understanding when it comes to dealing with guests.
Guests irk everyone when they extend their stay and decide to live at your place without even seeking permission from you. What is interesting is their behavior and demands that add fuel to the fire. Uninvited guests can knock your doors at any time and have a guiding principle around which they weather time with you. They will have unnecessary demands and would drum up excuses to be with you, maybe getting sick or anything petty which could have been easily ignored.
Desperate situations call for desperate measures. Guests make us happy, help us share a laugh or two and we get to vegetate in their presence, however, some of the guests are utterly obstinate and leave no stone unturned to pry in your life. They come uninvited and nurse no embarrassment or reticence of any sort. This is what makes the situation all the more bizarre. Or perhaps they take you for granted and go on their own without knowing the impact of their presence and constant interruption in your daily life. Here are some of the pointers which will help you to give a wide berth to the uninvited guests who have been pestering you time and again:
#1. Lessen Your Charm
Do not be oversweet all the time. People should not sugar coat things and talk in a saccharine manner all the time. It is better you stay real and make them realize their unnecessary intrusion in your life. Try to be less charismatic and enigmatic.
Sometimes male friends are attracted towards you and like to frequent you often which annoys you. Make sure you do not put on display your best and try and wear a simple, worn look as far as possible.
#2. Drop By At Their Place
You can only know a person what he or she goes through if you are in their shoes at any time. So decide to call on them and hit them with a surprise visit like they do. They might realize the situation and their own act which is pretty unacceptable. So, just visit them often so that they hardly get the opportunity to surprise you with their abrupt visits.
#3. Ask Them To Pop The Bill
Some guests stay at your place for an inordinately long time and keep adding to your woes, be it mental or financial. Next time these guests enter your place, ask them to go Dutch or at least pay their own bills. Your money is the blood and sweat which you earn, it is no use spending on people who are shamelessly indifferent and downright stoics.
Once you pick up this habit of interjecting them after the meal, they will probably decrease their number of visits for the fear of burning a hole in their pocket.
#4. Irk Them
It is not really a walk in the park to annoy your guests, you have to figure out tricks and see to things which re bete-noire to your uninvited guests. Practice things they despise, talk things which are not in line with their thoughts and ask them about the subjects they have no idea about. Do boring things repeatedly.
When you start annoying your guests, they land up in a state of exasperation and give up on all your shenanigans. Your uninvited guests will be at an arm’s length when you vex them.
#5. Ask Them To Stay Away From Your Gadgets
In this technologically advanced world, everyone wants to fiddle around with gadgets so that they can have access to social media. They surf the Internet using your phone or computer. Ask them politely not to use your gadgets and pay attention to their own.
No one likes to be objected for little things but you will have to imbibe this attitude somehow in order to get rid of your uninvited guests.
#6. Inform Them About The Arrival Of Other Guests
Guests regard your homes to be their own den where they can do anything they feel like but they must be told whenever other guests plan to arrive. It is not imperative to tell them however, if you want them to be away from your house, you have to tell them flatly.
Also, learn the art of deceit as it is not detrimental to anyone and would bring you peace of mind. Cook up a plan of your friend’s visit and ask your guests to leave so that others can come and share your place.
#7. Ask Them To Assist You
Okay, lazy, demanding guests simply sit on our nerves and we have nothing but to accept them bottling up our feelings. If you want your guests not to stay long, you can ask them to help you with chores, dusting the furniture, cooking food, doing the dishes, washing clothes and such works. The odds are people will shirk work as they happen to be lethargic and lovers of comfort. This is probably the reason they greet you with their presence so that they can shirk the chores. So be aware and assign them duties. So what if they don’t leave, they will get annoyed and might think to say goodbye to you.
#8. Make Their Reservations In Resorts Or Hotels
You can avoid being with your guests by asking them to stay in a resort which is nearby to your place. You can pay for their recreation and food if you have money. Some people come with the mentality of staying for a good number of days but rain on their parade by planning things for them well-in-advance. It will help you in removing these uninvited guest from your list who come tour place ad nauseam.
#9. Limit Your Conversations
The uninvited guests get latitude to hit your place in that you interact with them whole-heartedly. Do not be loquacious and talk only when necessary. You have to make them feel as if they are unwanted but do this in a polite manner. A rude gesture can have negative consequences.
So put a hold on your communication with your guests, it is necessary to keep a check on your feelings and emotions, else you would burst out with words every now and then, adding to your troubles.
#10. Plan A Vacation
The best way to avoid such guests is to plan a holiday where you can break from the hustle bustle of daily life. Give them a shout that you are going to a virgin territory to have fun and satisfy the inner adrenaline junkie within you. They will leave when you intimate them about your vacation plans. The guests will have no option other than to leave your house when you pack your bags for a journey.
#11. Pretend To Be Sick
People can feign sickness, they can either sneeze or tell the guests about your serious health. If you wear a mask of illness on your face, they will run from your place out of emergency, else they will catch the disease if it happens to be communicable like cold and cough. Also, the burden of taking care of someone is too much. Therefore, be sick until they leave and stop displeasing you.
#12. Ask Them Directly To Leave
Guests are of various ilk. They can be cold, understanding, stoics, defensive, etc. You have to call a spade a spade and without prevaricating tell them to leave your place quickly. Please keep in mind the etiquettes and decency while giving tongue to your feelings. Tell them straight that it’s been too long and you feel a little uncomfortable and uneasy in their presence.
Hope you got the ideas on how to dispense with the uninvited guests. Please feel free to share your opinions in the comments below.
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