Young girls begin learning about the concept of beauty by observing people around them. When their mother applies makeup, and when other teenage girls they admire talk about the latest beauty trends, these young girls become curious. The curiosity to know who is beautiful and who is not arise in girls. They gather information about the same by overhearing other people talking about beauty which can be biased and prejudiced. Your daughters can learn the wrong definition of beauty. What do you do as a parent then? You talk about beauty with your daughter.
You teach your daughter about the meaning of beauty before they learn it from somewhere. Beauty is nowhere, and beauty is everywhere if you have the eye. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. Something beautiful may not be for the other. Beauty is subjective. A thorn may be attractive for some people when for most a thorn does not symbolize beauty. People have their ideas about beauty. Some judge beauty for what they see and some find things beautiful when they attach meaning to things. Your daughter should know that beauty is not just what we see. Beauty can be felt too.
The personality and the kind of characteristics a person holds should weigh more than the appearance of the person. Beauty may attract the eyes, but inner beauty attracts the heart of the people. It is understandable that talking to a growing girl may become a little awkward about some topics but it is necessary that they get first-hand information which is correct instead of second-hand information that has been manipulated. So, how do you talk to your daughter about beauty? Let us know.
#1. Ask Your Daughter What She Knows About Beauty
The first thing a parent should do is to know what the daughter already knows. The daughter must have some prior information about the topic. Before you inform her about beauty, you should have some idea about what she knows so that you can clear her doubts. When you have an opinion about what she believes beauty is then you will be able to see what part of beauty you should explain to her, laying extra emphasis. Question her about how she came to know about it and who told her. You can understand from this that who influences her and what kind of company she keeps. It is important that your daughter knows the right things and no false impressions stay in her mind about people.
#2. Beauty Is Not About Appearance Only
Once you are aware of what your daughter knows about beauty, you can decide how you are going to tell her about the same. Based on her understanding of the term, you can think of the right ways to tell her that beauty is not about appearance. What we see outside can be false, and it can fade away. It is vital that she knows what others have told her is not actually beauty. The cosmetic world has tried to create a concept of beauty which says that wearing makeup makes one look beautiful. Every person who does not use branded makeup and other cosmetics are not beautiful. People have accepted that nobody is beautiful and if someone wants to look beautiful they need makeup, but the makeup was created to hide the flaws, not make one a beautiful person. Every person on this earth is beautiful in their way. Every person cannot have what the other has because God created everyone different from each other. Fashion and clothes tear down, but the body remains the same. The face remains the same. Depending on clothes for looking good is, therefore, a bad idea.
#3. A Superior Mind Is Beautiful
With the emergence of the beauty industry, the concept of beauty has become makeup and fairness. The beauty of the mind is always undermined. Nobody emphasizes on having a beautiful and a great mind. The ability to make correct decisions and having opinions on every issue has been long ignored and not given much importance. A girl has been looked over as an object of display, and that is why she needs to look her best to able to attract people towards her. It would not be wrong to say that advertising and promoting self has become one of the ways to achieve success. The way to sell something is by making it look attractive. We all buy things that look good even if the object is hollow. But a shallow object is useless as it can break easily. We need our daughters to be more than pretty dolls. They will succeed in life with a great mind and not by looking pretty. A superior mind is beautiful in every way than good looks.
#4. A Little Makeup Is Not Harmful
Your daughter will not understand this in a day. The concept of a beautiful mind over appearance will not impact her right at the moment. She is young and will be under peer pressure, and therefore she will insist on wearing makeup. Do not stop her, instead, you should help her use the right makeup. You can allow her to wear slight nude makeup that does not make her look over the top. Makeup is not a sin so you can always allow her to do because if you don’t, then she will revolt against you. Probably the mother or other females around her wear makeup, and if they can, then she should be allowed to do makeup too. You cannot wear makeup and tell the daughter that makeup is bad. It will prove you to be a hypocrite, and your daughter will never follow you. The children observe their parents, and they repeat how the parents act. Be the role model first and then teach her.
#5. Wearing Confidence Instead Of Fake Fashion
When a girl reaches teenage, she faces a lot of changes in her life and her body. The teenage is the time when the kids at this age either build up confidence or their self-esteem falls. A lot of girls in her school would wear trendy clothes and apply makeup to be the popular one, and the others would follow her style to be the next best or at least be called beautiful. Girls at this age are very sensitive and any kind of incorrect information can ruin her teenage. She can get bullied or she could be outcast from one particular group in the class and at this time what will be handy is her confidence. You need to teach your daughter that confidence makes everything look better. If she is confident then even an old dress will look beautiful on her. Confidence will bring a glow on her face. So, confidence will help her stand equal with other girls and help her convey the right message to other girls.
#6. Beauty Is Beautiful Skin And Healthy Body
What happens at this age is that girls start getting conscious of their body. The definition of beauty is having a slim body and girls who are not slim begin dieting. These lead to body shaming and when the girls try to maintain their body by controlling the food intake. They become targets of eating disorders like anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa. The concept of a healthy body and healthy skin should be clear among girls. Inform your daughter that without a healthy body she cannot have beautiful skin.
#7. Treating All With Respect
Most of the times young girls get information from distrusted sources which can be biased. Some people do not find people of different ethnicities, culture, and race to be beautiful. For some people, black skin is not beautiful which is not true. So, it is important that you tell your daughter that she should respect people of all races and statuses. Every person is beautiful in some way or other. Real beauty is being humble at heart and treating all equally.
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We have delusion about the concept of beauty. For most of us, beauty is when a
person wears the latest brand clothes or applies expensive cosmetics. Some
people get so influenced that they undergo surgeries. But why does this happen?
It happens because the people who want to sell what they make want the
customers to believe that they need the product if they wish to look good. The
cosmetic industry makes people agree that they are not beautiful because they
are not fair or their skin does not glow. They have acne or they have a scar on
their body which needs to be removed instantly because apparently those marks
are barring the person from looking beautiful. They make the audience fool by
penetrating the idea deep inside them by repetitive advertisement with the help
of big celebrities who are paid to promote such “beauty products”. The person
who watches these advertisements starts absorbing the idea that they are not
beautiful and to look pretty they need to use those products.
What they hide from us is that the products can only hide those flaws. Those
products cannot take the problem out from the roots. Irregular eating habits and
sleeping patterns are responsible for a lot skin related issues but the products
cannot correct the cause that starts from the stomach. It is very important for all
of us to think about the concept that has been forced in our minds and what we
think is what our children think as well. It is very significant in this case that we let
our children understand what real beauty stands for. Beauty is how we treat other
people. A person who cares for others and is kind to them is beautiful. A person
who stays healthy is beautiful.