How important is it to be emotionally independent?

Have you recently had a breakup? Have you suddenly lost a friend in an accident? Do you feel that you have hit the dead end and there is no way you can stand back on your feet and smile a happy smile?

Think again!

Feel again!

Smile again!

Your world does not revolve around someone else. It revolves around you. Live for yourself. Love yourself before loving someone else. Do not waste your life by measuring them in coffee mugs filled with bitter black coffee. If you think sleep has abandoned, do not grovel in self-pity and blame that one person whom you wished to be by your side on such nights. His or her time span in your life was only for a stipulated period. Always remember we all have arrived in this world alone, and we shall leave this world alone. In between is the journey where many Michaelangelo will walk in your life, kiss you wild, sing and dance with you in the rain and then leave you alone at night to sip that black coffee and stare and smile at the stars. 

Always thank these people because if they had not walked in your life, you would have never known what melancholy is. Melancholy is a beautiful feeling. It enables our contemplative nodes and ensures that we take an introspective journey within. It helps us to find the real me. There is nothing more satisfying than knowing who you are and what you want in life. Once you know what you want, chase those wildest dreams of yours. Do not stop because the world thinks you to be a fool, do not be stuck in the quagmire of "to be or not to be". It is your life, take full charge of it.

Love your family. Love your friends. Love your beloved. But before everyone else love yourself first. A person who is devoid of self-love can never love someone else. Loving yourself is the only way in which you can be truly independent. Do not let inconsequential people, like that extra concerned neighbor's questions, determine the decisions you take in your life or decide your course of action. They will never stand by you when you are being pulled into the quicksand. They will be the silent spectators who will smirk and turn their backs to you. Value those and love and respect those who truly care for you. Bring a smile on their face and double your happiness.

My message goes out to all those young people who have confined their lives to twelve hours of work, fat pay cheques, selfies, Facebook, WhatsApp, pubs and momentary happiness. Do not let life be confined in these mundane ordinariness. Each of the youth is special in their way. Make yourself realize that and give you a chance to feel appreciated. If the world fails to appreciate you, let the world go to hell. You pat your back if you think you've done something good or out of the box. Buy yourself chocolate and eat it while returning home from the office. Smile at a forlorn pedestrians and let your joy be that stubborn epidemic that infects all those around you. 

Do not let the spirited child in you have a moribund end. Keep him or her alive as long as you can. If someone hurts your first cry, rave, and rant and then try and talk it out with that person. If you feel that the person fails to understand you then just let go of him or her. If the relationship is here to stay it will and if it is not, then there is no point putting that futile effort. Find the greener pasture within your heart, smile and sleep a peaceful sleep with no baggage of disappointment, dissatisfaction and discontent. 

There are various ways by which you can be happy and emotionally independent:

1. Go on a road trip all by yourself.
2. Play hide and seek with the two-year-old child of your neighbor.
3. Cuddle the puppy on the road.
4. Dance in the rain.
5. Go shopping all by yourself.
6. Sing songs loudly while taking a shower.
7. Cook a four-course meal for yourself.
8. Go for a long drive.
9. Go for a movie all by yourself.
10. Stare at the night sky with the twinkling stars.

We have just one life so live it king size. Do not just be economically or socially independent. Be emotionally independent because that is the ultimate mantra to your happiness. And if you are happy, then the world around you is also happy. Always remember that a sad person can never spread joy and happiness, and in this otherwise sad world be that speck of pleasant change.