Are you someone who is accustomed to lying on a regular basis or you just use white lies in difficult situations? No matter what it might be, getting caught will land you in equal trouble. Not only that, the person you lied to will begin to assume that you had been lying about other things as well irrespective of the reality, making it difficult for you to convince them otherwise. However, leaving the matters loose when you are caught might not be the best decision you make.
It is advised to not lie in relationships. However, even if you do, you should avoid it once your partner is aware of those lies. It will hurt their feelings and shake their trust on you. But at times, we come across such situations where we act out of our minds and cannot let the other one know about it. We feel that lying would be better than telling the truth. But what if they eventually find out that you were dishonest about it the whole time? Well, most of us do not know how to respond o that situation. Thus, we should act carefully so as to not do any further damage. Here's what you should do once you are caught lying!
#1. Apologize Immediately
Instead of trying to cover up for the lie, you should let them know you regret lying in the first place. Also, do apologize for keeping them in the dark. Express genuinely and tell them that you did not mean to hurt them. Do not deny the fact that you lied but spend that time in saying "I am sorry that I had to lie to you." But do not just put it simply in those words. Express that you understand that you have hurt them and you feel bad about it. Saying it correctly is going to make them trust you again and not punish you for it.
#2. Give Your Reasons
If you had no other way except to tell a lie, you should tell the other person about it. They should know the reason why you had to go to those measures to hide the truth. Maybe your intention behind the lie was not a bad one. So, you should tell the same, and it will make the scenario a little less tense. Do not expect them to forget the lie because you had good reasons to do it. But it will soften the other person down as they will be able to understand your situation as well now.
#3. Do Not Stretch The Lie
Now that they have caught your lies, your first instinct will be to save yourself by cooking up another lie. But it is not such a good idea as you always risk yourself of getting caught again. Only this time, they will stop trusting your words. It is better to accept that you have lied instead of creating a whole web of lies to hide the other lie. You will just be making things more awkward for yourself. So save the embarrassment of it all and own up to your fault.
#4. Accept Your Fault
The least you can do after breaking the trust of the other person is acknowledging that you have made a mistake. It will be of no good if you try to prove that it was a white lie you told just to avoid a bad moment. That cannot be an excuse to lie. In fact, no excuse is good enough now that you have been caught. The only to make them believe in you again is by accepting your fault without any arguments.
#5. Be Honest Now
You have been caught in your lie, the other person might be seriously considering to trust you again. You can only prevent this damage from happening if you tell the entire truth to them. Do not try to hide anything from them now. The chances are that they already know and are waiting for you to confess about it. So tell them everything that you were trying to cover up with your little lie. Only your honesty can save the bond between the two of you.
#6. Do Not Be Harsh In Speaking
Do not let your aggression make the situation even worse. Even you would be feeling horrible as you never planned to let the other person know the truth. Now your lie had failed, and they have found out the hidden secrets. This might take you off guard as well. But try to stay calm when you are talking to them in order to make things better for the both of you. Your attitude for the situation will matter a lot for them. If you are harsh with your words, it will never make the matter better. So, be careful with your words and tone.
#7. Body Language
Your apology will not mean anything if your body language does not support it. You cannot have a grin on your face and expect the other person to accept that you feel sorry. You need to adopt the right body language to portray that you genuinely feel bad about hiding the truth from them. If you feel apologetic, your actions will show it too. Keep your eyes down and listen to what they have to say to you. Do not let your ego come in between this or else you might lose the person forever.
#8. Avoid Arguing
When someone catches you in a lie, their trust in you shatters. Often they become aggressive and might say mean things to you. But now that you are at fault, you should not retaliate them. Try to stay silent and do not argue over the blames they put on you. It is the human behavior to counter-attack which they are doing after being hurt by your lies. But once they calm down, they will be back to themselves. So do not get involved in an argument with them if they start saying ill things to you.
#9. Do Not Shift The Blame
You should own up to your mistake instead of throwing the blame on somebody else. Try not to justify your actions simply by saying that you did it under the influence of someone else's words. You have your own judgment and should have been a better judge. It is better not to involve another person in your lie and put half the blame on them with the hope that it might make things better. It will not make things better for you but will also put the other person in a bad picture. So accept what you did and take full responsibility for it.
#10. Promise To Not Repeat
You have already done it, and the worst has happened. You have been caught in your lie. The other person will definitely be having a hard time accepting the truth. You should take some responsibility to make them feel better. After apologizing, you should assure them that you feel guilty for lying. Make a promise to them that you will not be continuing this practice in the future. Commit to sharing everything with them that you have in your life and not hide the truth even if things are difficult. This will give them some relief as they will be having a lot of doubts already after all this.
#11. Show Improvement
If the other person has decided to stick by your side despite catching you lying, show them that you are going to improve your habits. Make efforts and let them know that you are making some significant changes. Be truthful to them about everything now and make them believe that you have nothing to hide now. Tell them you are willing to make suitable changes in your behavior which can save your friendship or any relationship that you have with them. Be a better version of yourself so that they know you want the bond between you to remain.
It is difficult to amend the situation after you have been caught lying. But you can follow these few tips and avoid making the situation worse for yourself and anybody who is involved in it.
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