"Broken crayons still color." - Unknown
Is it easy for you to learn to live alone? But what exactly should you do after you are being heartbroken? Should you just keep waiting? Or is it okay to start all over again with someone else? When you feel broken, the pain provides you with a grief. At times, it is like a soul-searching experience for some. But, for the others, it is like getting the opportunity to develop on the emotional and spiritual front. So, it is totally your call to make a decision.
As long as you think that love from the other person is the ultimate award, it will always be hard for you to move on. However, the moment you realize and understand the point that you have always been giving the other person an undeserved attention and advantage, you will be able to accelerate forward with ease.
When any of your close relationships end, it is very normal to undergo a period of loss. And therefore, it becomes important for you to learn to live lone without letting in the feelings of loneliness. You need to be there, by yourself, as your own choice. You need to learn to cherish the freedom, get rid of pleasing people, lack the environments of conflicts and just do the things that you want without any compromise. And to your surprise, this phase also gives you the strength to see a world that was so unfamiliar to you, a world where you are able to connect with new and like-minded people and a world where you feel content with whatever happens in your surroundings.
So, before you drown yourself in the feelings of sorrow and even start feeling pity for your self, make sure to understand the difference. Know that you loved them or you just loved the idea of being in love and appreciating the emotions involved. You can easily waste your time after being broken, obsess over the person who does not care for you, get confused and also be unsure about moving on. But, keep in mind that sanity is accepting changes as they occur. Sanity is expecting different outcomes from one particular situation. Sanity is feeling hopeful. And it is to immerse yourself in the things you love and do those for growing yourself.
#1. Yes, Cracks Let In Light!
I am not saying that you need to remain broken in order to allow light to enter. But isn't our life about all such collective experiences that gradually add up to make a shining star? All those cracks make a beautiful texture in your life and enlighten your soul.However, it takes tremendous courage and patience to feel this way. And, with time, even you will be able to see the world from this perspective. So, you need to let the transformation happen and give room to challenges that make you even better and powerful. Each one of us is shattered and are struggling with our decisions. But that is what positivity should be about - Being perfect enough from the heart and mind to let in light, so it absolutely shines through! After all, it is our imperfections that makes us feel beautiful.
#2. Embrace Your Emotions
Accept and honor the feeling that you are going through right now. No matter how hard it is for you to cope up, remember that there is a world beyond this. Certain circumstances warrant super strong reactions. You may want to cry; you may want to scream or fall to your knees. But it is definitely okay to feel this way. Just remember that fighting off only delays the emotional turmoil. So, it is always better to accept them as they arrive, begin to work on them and just figure out what actually needs to be done after you have been through all of it. Feel your vibes, turn them into positives and regain the strength to sustain your happiness.
#3. Look, There Stands Your Support Group!
Your support group, your family, and friends, they are always there to help you deal with whatever situation you are going through. They are there even when we feel we do not need anyone. Silently they stand there, keep a watch on us and just don't leave, no matter how tough the path be. These are the people who stand tall to shield us in whatever way they can. They play an important role in our lives. These are the relationships that stay with us in times of need - no matter if we are in sorrow or experiencing happiness. But remember, that these relationships are based on reciprocal behavior. So, in order to receive the help, you should also be doing the same to some extent. It is a to and fro process. You need to be compassionate enough even to let others instill the same amount of trust in you.
#4. It Is A Temporary Phase
Life is full of ups and downs, so you need to keep in mind that every phase you encounter is temporary. It is not here to stay until the end. It will exist for a short period of time. But, we tend to overlook the fact that each situation arises to teach us some lessons. And it leaves us at the most unexpected moment. In the end, when you look back at your life, you will be thankful for your helplessness. It carved out your own unique journey that was full of hardships but happiness too was significant. So, when you feel broken, tell yourself that this too shall pass - your evergreen happiness mantra!
#5. Do These Instead
If time is not there to heal your wounds, initiate healing your broken heart all by yourself. It is okay if time does not change your situations. Take such actions that will change the circumstances. Do not get disheartened over what is happening. Adopt for some simple methods in which you can kick out the brokenness. And do these when you feel broken:
Strengthen your body along with your mind. Get out of the city and experience the wanderlust. Unplug for an entire week or a few weeks. Liberate your experiences by meeting new people. Start to get disciplined about self-care and self-love. Just quit the things that are not working for you and do this by allowing yourself to let go.
Reorganise all the things clustered around you. Take up a food diet for a few days. Make a budget and try sticking to the same. Create stronger bonds with the ones you love and who also care for you. Feel the control that you can practice in your life. Do not find reasons to get happy and instead feel the happiness present in the air.
Take pride in the changes you are willing to bring about in yourself. Trust the things that happen to you, do not sabotage those opportunities or failures. Challenge your fears and face them head on! Forgive, forget, express and see how far you have traveled. That's the beauty of life.
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