Do you find it impossible to make decisions on your own? Do you easily get influenced by your parents, friends, colleagues, and spouse when it comes to making all the important decisions of your life? Do you at all times feel you are not able to voice your opinion when you are operating in a group? Do you find yourself following the majority when it comes to taking a stand on major issues? Do you think you are afraid of doing things that are out of the box?
This is something that remains true for a majority of people and yet is something that we all do not feel requires too much attention. We go about life doing things that are accepted by the society, things that most people do and especially those things that do not tend to break the norms of the society. We spend most of our life doing all those things that are prescribed by the society. What we forget to do is to make it a point to ask our self what is it that we really wish to have in our life? We take others opinion; we make it a point to get counseled so that we make the right career choice, we make it a point to take all the style pointers from sources outside us, in order to make our-self look good, we take every opinion from outside and follow what everyone else is doing. But, it never occurs to us that what we really need to do is to ask our self what we really want and what we really need to do?
The worst aspect of this kind of an attitude is that fact that we have become accustomed to doing all this and have been following this kind of existence for the longest time. Today we do not stop to give a thought to the idea that may be a different approach where we speak up our mind clearly and where we all make decisions which we resonate the most with, irrespective of what the society thinks, will make it possible for us to live a more fulfilling life. We all really need to pay heed to the significance of making decisions that even though unique, have a greater ability to add meaning, to our life.
The idea is not to do each and everything differently. It is not at all about being different by making an effort. In fact, it is just the opposite; it is all about doing those things that you can accomplish effortlessly. It is about acquiring the courage to make sure that you have the ability to choose on behalf of your own dreams and you do not end up living a life designed by the rest of the world. It is about making sure you do not let random unknown people write the story of your life. It is all about never doing something because that is what the world does, but doing it anyway because it is what you resonate with the most.
If you tend to take all your decisions by assessing what people are doing and what they will have to say about it, here are the reasons why you should stop mimicking what others are choosing to do and make your own unique decisions.
#1. Don’t Do What Others Are Doing
The most important reason why you should stop following the herd mentality right now is that you do not want to do all those things that others have chosen by keeping in mind their private likes and dislikes. When we follow a herd mentality, we often mimic decisions that other people have taken and all of those decisions have nothing to do with our preferences. Mimicking others decisions is never going to give us the satisfaction that a choice made by us keeping in mind our true preferences is going to do. This the reason why you should make sure that you are not at all following the crowd and choose to walk on your own path even when there is no one else willing to walk along with you.
You surely will not want to live all your life choosing the career and experiencing the adventures that were based on the preferences of other people.
#2. Shut Out The Noise Outside
Please make sure that you make an effort to not let the millions of the voices outside cram your mind to such an extent that you can no more listen to the voice inside you. This voice within is the one you are supposed to be paying attention to. This is the one which will let you know what you resonate with the most.
But, we tend to get lost in the noise created by the outside world to such an extent that it becomes impossible to make a distinction between what we really wish to do and what the world thinks we should do. This is true not only for all the life decisions we make but also how we choose to live our lives.
For once it is essential to make sure that we are able to quite all the noise and listen to the true voice that is coming from within. For this, we will have to make sure we give up the herd mentality and learn to listen and trust the voice inside.
#3. To Gain True Satisfaction In Life
When we follow the herd mentality and take decisions, when we make a choice by mimicking others, we tend to do things, but unfortunately, that does not feel like progress. We keep on living a life and do not ever make sure we are living a meaningful life. This is the reason when we follow the herd and choose to do things the way they are doing; we are not able to be happy and often feel the lack of meaning in our own life. We keep looking at the way others lives are panning out and try to remodel our life like that. In the end, we are not satisfied and are not able to be happy.
This is the reason we will need to stop following the herd and make sure we do something to choose those things that add meaning to our lives and give us true happiness. It is absolutely no point going on living without for once knowing what is it is that you really love to do the most and what is that thing that makes you come alive.
#4. It May Turn Out To Be Better Than What You Think
The main reason why a lot of us find it hard to make a decision that is different from what the rest of the world is making is that of the fact that we all have this fear of not being accepted by the society and the fear of not being able to fit in. We need to understand the fact that it really is not going to make us happy if we are able to fit in but into the wrong crowd. We need to find that place where we are happy and all those accept us that way we are, are the ones we need to be with. We cannot keep following a crowd that too without giving a thought to how it will feel along the journey. Where we go wrong is that we keep our eye on how popular it is going to make us when we do things that people want to see us doing. Or those that others are appreciated for doing. We forget the fact that we may be able to reach greater heights when we take the decision of following our own heart and doing all those things that we are the best at.
#5. What You Feel Is Of More Importance
We need to realize the fact that we just cannot make everyone happy. We have to make our self-unhappy if we want to make the rest of the world happy. What is very crucial for us to keep in mind is that idea that when we think about how we can make our mark in the world, it is not about finding ways to make others happy. It is about choosing to that thing which we are best at and making the best possible use of the talents we have. It is about making our mark in the world but at the same time feeling good about doing so.
When we choose to follow what people are doing without taking into account how we are going to feel when we are doing the same thing, we end up making the wrong decision and make a choice that is not by any chance going to help us make the best of our talents.
Please understand the fact that how others feel is of no importance because that is not going to help you in any way. When the actual situation comes, you will have to face all the challenges, and if the decision you took was on the basis of how people were going to think about it, well remember you are the one who has to live the consequences of the decision, not them.
It is high time we learn to make our feelings the basis of the decisions we are taking and not the way people feel about it, instead of the way we ourself feel about it.
#6. It Will Help You Choose The Best For You
When we blindly take a decision because the rest of the majority are doing so, we are not keeping in mind what is good for us. We may take up bad habits and also tend to continue to have bad habits only because the majority approves them. Sometimes we need to make decisions that are for our greater good and at the same time are not approved by the rest of the world. Please understand the idea that just because it is done by the rest of the world does not mean that it has to be a good thing.
It is completely on us how we are going to make the best decisions for us. That does not require the acceptance of the rest of the world, which requires the ability to make a decision even when the rest of the majority are not doing so.
When we are able to stop following the herd we are going to be able to make a decision that is going to be best for us and not for the decision that will be approved by the world that makes us feel the burden of doing something that we do not resonate with.
#7. Know Yourself Better
The moment you stop following the herd and make it a point to give more importance to your opinion and what you really wish to do. You will be able to be the real you. There are so many times that we are busy giving importance to how people will think? And what people are doing? We tend to forget the fact that we need to know oneself the most in order to make sure that we are living a happy life.
Please understand the fact that we all have some awesome things infused in us and we need to give time to our self in order to be acquainted with the best version of us. So many of us are not even aware of the things that we can actually do. It will be a great idea to give up making what people did our reference point and keep trying those things we resonate with but are things that the world has not done yet.
Do you think the above article has been able to make sure that you stop following the world blindly and choose to something of your own? Please leave your comment in the box below.
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I made the worst decisions of my life because I did not have the guts to make those
decisions that would make me superb happy but, were not what seemed like the world
would be willing to accept. As a young growing teenager or young adult you do not tend
to give your happiness in terms of feelings that much thought. What people are going to
think is of prime importance. How the world is going to react the way we choose to live
our life is the thing that occupies our mind. We need to please our friends and also need
to make sure that we are accepted by them. This is not something that is right or wrong,
this is how we feel because of the conditioning we receive since our childhood.
What is very important to understand is the idea that as we grow up it is very important
for us to understand the idea the we do not need to do things to please the world, instead
we need to make sure that we create a path of our own. This realization massively
changed my world and turned things around for me. It struck me that I had been doing all
those things that I did not even intend to do, only because of the fact that everyone else
was doing the same set of things.
The kind of time I wasted only because of the mentality that it is not an easy thing to
follow your own heart and do all those things I really want to do, is something I really
wish I had not chosen to do. It has been a learning experience for me, that is why I have
been making all the decisions keeping in mind how it is going to make me feel and not
what anyone is going to think.
I have done things that I have been aiming to do for the longest time, been appreciated by
people because those seemed like the best thing to do at that time as the rest of the world
was doing similar things. But, I was not happy and it did not feel like an achievement to
me. What I realized was the fact that I was doing things that I did not like to do one bit. I
did not feel the sense of achievement at all for the only reason that I was interested in
doing other things. It was the idea that all the things that I chose to do was making the
people in my life proud of me that kept me happy and yet there was no sense of happiness
when I was at work. This is when I understood that we do need to make the people in our
life happy but, not by following what the rest of the world choose to do, but by doing
what you love doing the most. It is necessary to be happy yourself and then make others
happy.