Are Arranged Marriages a good idea?

It comes as a surprise that when the world is proceeding towards intense development and globalization is taking place all over the world, how do many people manage to stick to the term ‘Arranged Marriages’? Arrange marriage is sort of a marital union where the boy and the girl are chosen mostly by the parents than each other. It was seen to be way too common during the eighteenth century, but in present times, such type of marital arrangement is just present in limited countries.

Now and then, when a male and female declare their love for each other and express their wish to tie a knot to live together in the future, innumerable eyebrows are raised. Not just that, it also gives rise to questions that are asked suddenly as if the couple has committed some grave and inevitable crime.  And, why is that so? It is because of the notion of ‘Love Marriage.'

It is not that people who practice the concept of arrange marriage are biased or deny the idea of marrying the person of your own choice! It is just that how they can be against the whole idea of arranged marriage when it has a bag full of benefits against the competitor. These people already know, there is no better deal than arrange marriage.

So, are arranged marriages a good idea over love marriages? Let’s find out!

#1. Balance Between Two Families

When you get married to someone, you just don’t permit that one person to enter your life; in fact, you let their family come in too. Similarly, your beautiful family enters theirs. Also, the best part of arranged marriages over love marriages is that both the families are way too supportive towards the bride and the groom. It is because they both get married by their choice and do not feel the need to be depressed for deserting their families. And, the case is opposite in love marriages. In a love marriage, you have to bear the brunt of the problems alone, and there is hardly any support from the family when a crisis strikes.

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#2.  Like-Minded Goals

Several studies claim that two people who come together by their parent’s choice tend to feel more in love as time passes whereas in love marriages it is the opposite. Many relationship experts iterate that this happens because the marriages which take place by parent’s choice are considered with great vigilance, and a lot of thought is put into the potential partner’s family, and they try to match the boy and girl’s interests, life goals before taking a decision. On the other hand, in love marriage, the parents rely on the boy and the girl’s judgment assuming that they must have figured out everything about each other and in case something goes wrong, then it’s not the parents who are to be blamed.

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#3. Equality Plays The Vital Role

We live in a century where men still hesitate to give all the freedom to women. They still somewhere or the other want them to feel inferior and not match up to their level of awesomeness. But when it comes to arranged marriages, parents leave no stone unturned to find the perfect potential match for their son or daughter. By saying this, I mean that in present times, families find a match who is at par with their child and can help him or her to grow by having similar qualifications such as in education, finances, and world view. Since families are the ones who play the match up the game; they tend to select partners who hold an equal stature. Hence, this gives a bumper start to a relationship on equal footing and then things are built up from there.

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#4. Winning Situation

We all know that arranged marriages don’t take place based on the whim-whams of the two people who are young. In fact, they are based on the judgments of the elderly people, who do not take impulsive decisions which in turn prevents divorces in great numbers. They know who will be a suitable potential match for their child after doing enough investigation and dig. So, are you in love already? Would you still think of going into a love marriage over arrange marriage?

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#5.  Financially Secure

Being secure financially is one of the pivotal aims of an individual. The groom or the bride holds the potential to support each other’s needs and requirements when they get together. No family would want their child to suffer and therefore would try their best to send their child to a wealthy and a good family. What do you think? Would choose to be financially secure or stay in love with somebody whose financial stability is still not there?

#6. Time To Know Each Other

We all have seen something attractive about arrange marriages that don't let us discard the concept completely. Since it is the parents who decide the fate of their child by choosing a suitable partner; they seek an opinion from the boy and girl before coming to the final decision. They allow both of them to interact and meet several times before marriage to get to know each other properly. And it is not that both of them get to discover each other post marriage. There is a sense of excitement which lies between the two of them while getting to know each other. And, in case they feel something is not matching up with them, they can easily call for quits. And, in a love marriage, the scenario is way too different. The blame is put on the boy and the girl if something goes wrong by chance.

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#7. Commitment Of Attachment

Did you know there are three departments in our brain tank, where one lies for lust, second for love that involves romance and third for attachment? The arrange marriage institution is designed in a way that it detaches the first two from the couple who get married. The commitment to stay together is what makes up for both love and lust, and that is exactly what love marriages lack- the commitment by two individuals that promise to keep them together forever.

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#9.  Excitement Prevails

When we get to meet a new person, we are curious to know about them and their lives. Similarly, in an arranged marriage, there is an intense excitement and curiosity for several years which is unlikely in a love marriage. In the latter, people have already been together for some years so there is nothing left to know about each other. And, in an arranged marriage, two new people come together for the first time so there is a lot to discover about each other which hence makes their life happening and full of surprises.

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#10. Honeymoon Is A Fun Activity

The honeymoon is a package full of surprise for the people who go together on a trip for the first time after marriage. It is interesting because you don’t go on trips with your family anymore but altogether with a different person to whom you just got married and there's a lot to explore. Isn't it?

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#11.  Patience Prevails

Do you know what that means? People who decide to stay in a love relationship for several years before tying the knot together lack patience because they have already been together for many years to make the relationship work. But, in an arranged marriage, there are fewer expectations, and it makes the relationship easier and smooth.  Both the individuals learn to adjust to make it work. Who do you favor now? Love marriage or Arrange marriage? The choice is yours!

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#12.  You Make Your Parents Happy

We all know how delightful we feel about seeing our parents smiling. They are the ones who have been nurturing us since the time we were kids so killing their smiles is no less than a sin. Deciding on marriage is a big step and not having their support can be the fate of an unfortunate person only. So you must know, arrange marriages make sure that you parents stay happy as it takes place as per their choice and also makes family ties stronger. In love marriages, the same cannot be said. Since the families may belong to different caste of class, they may have some difference of opinion which could lead to clashes and cause disharmony among the two families involved.

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