Do phrases like; “I’ll do it later.
Let it be; we can do it tomorrow.
I am so tired to do anything right now.
Can you give me a glass of water?”
….. define your married life?? Then we are afraid that you have married a bludger !!!
Being with a lazy and irresponsible husband can literally stress you out and make things extremely difficult at home.
Here’s a little guide that can help you deal with a lazy husband.
Marriages may be made in heaven, but they can work only when both the partners work together. A lazy husband will never care enough to do anything special; you can just be happy that he didn’t sleep away while getting married.
If you have lately witnessed your husband escaping away from helping you, check out for these signs to know if you have married a couch potato.
#1. They Rule The World
Some of us might have a husband who thinks that the world revolves around them and it’s either their way or the highway. A lazy husband will never take any initiatives to help you with the house chores. He will keep avoiding his part of the duties till the last minute.
#2. He Leaves A Mess Everywhere
Does your husband annoy you by throwing the wet towel on the bed? We are sure he does if he is a lazy husband. And what’s more is that he expects you to pick it up because you are supposed to do it WIFEY!
If your husband is lazy at home, he is sure to lounge in the living room, enjoy his time munching on his favorite snacks and leaving the dishes behind because he is the HUSBAND.
A lazy husband would never treat you as an equal partner and would always expect you to clean the mess that he creates.
#3. He Prioritizes His Career Over Yours
As a life partner, it is important for both of you to respect each other’s career goals and ambitions. A lazy husband would never be appreciative about your aspirations. He would always expect you to look after all the responsibilities. As a 21st century modern woman, you are surely capable of multitasking, but that does not give your husband the right to burden you with all the errands.
A lazy husband can also expect you to leave the job because he does not value your skills. He just wants you to sit back and look after all the household chores.
#4. He Refuses To Compromise On Anything
Compromising is an essential element of any functional relationship, and your husband needs to understand that. A lazy husband will never be ready to compromise on anything whatsoever, making things exceedingly difficult to manage.
#5. Your Husband Never Offers To Make You Feel Better
If you are expected to be excited and cheerful while you fumble through the daily chores, your lazy husband too should be equally volunteering. A husband who is lazy at home will never make any efforts to make his wife happy. Whether it is your favorite red velvet cheesecake or a random ‘I love you’, his lazy bones will never even think of making any such efforts.
Getting your lazy husband to leave his television remote and pick up the vacuum cleaner can be a tough task at hand. If you wish your lazy and irresponsible hubby to take your kids for a play day or give you a relaxing massage, you need to play it smart.
Here’s a list of ways in which you can deal with your lazy husband.
#1. Communicate
When you have a lazy husband who is just not ready to pick himself from the couch, you need to talk to him about it. But before you start talking, make sure you lay off your sarcastic and nasty comments. Stick to being affectionate and considerate to his situation while you convey him your frustration and expectations. Men are pathetic at reading between the lines, so stay clear and specific about your demands.
#2. Ask Him To Help
Now that you have communicated your disapproval towards his behavior, it is time to test him. Ask him to help you with some chores. If he tries to excuse himself out of it, then counter with an alternative. Make a list of things that need to be done, ask him lovingly to get them done whenever he gets the time to. Being respectful and affectionate will help you yield better results.
#3. A Few Compromises Will Cause No Harm
As a partner, you need to understand that your husband cannot be as good with things as you are. Women are naturally better at managing the house. Therefore you need to recognize the difference between his and your degree of perfection. Try to ignore the trivial issues and accommodate with his style of working. Do not redo the work that he just did. It will surely demotivate him.
#4. There Is Always Room For Negotiation
If your lazy husband is too good at making excuses, you need to get better at negotiating. If he finds a task to be excessively demanding or completely mundane, change his role or negotiate the frequency of the task. If you do not wish to be bombarded with the chores, better lower your expectations.
#5. Always Appreciate
Everyone deserves to be appreciated for the work well done. If your husband finally moves his lazy bum to do something productive, you need to show him some love and appreciation. Rather than finding faults, just shower him with affection. If he gets appreciated for helping you, he’d surely jump in for such opportunities in the future.
#6. Say NO To Deadlines
Deadlines don’t work well with men. If you want your lazy bunny to help you out, give him the freedom to do it. Men are simply not wired to complete a task in limited time frames (until it’s their boss who sets them). Let him take his own sweet time to accomplish a task.
#7. Do Not Make Him Feel Guilty
Do not keep pinpointing his mistakes all the time. He might have made some hiccups in the past, but give him a chance to improve. Try making healthy conversations about things that he has accomplished or the willingness that he has started showing.
#8. Do Not Fumble Upon Your Decisions
Now, obviously he has started helping you and stuff, but he is still the lazy husband right. He is surely going to play some tricks on you to get away with the work. A peck on the cheek or a pack of your favorite chocolates might melt away your heart.. but NO, you cannot let that happen. Play the hardball, and do not let him take advantage of you.
#9. Be Accepting
Everyone has their own way of doing things and hence you cannot be judgmental about it. Instead of forcing your ways on him, just try to accept his ways of doing things. If it yields the same results, how does it matter anyway? Be content with his ways and styles, he is just trying to help you, SWEETHEART!!
#10. Do Not Poke
We understand your temptations of poking when you see him mismatching the cutlery or arranging the dishes in some other manner, just STOP yourself right away!! Let him take full control over the task at hand. Just stay out of his zone as long as he is on to his mission. Keep your unsolicited advice to yourself until he waves his flag for help.
#11. No Need To Compare
You might have seen your friend’s husband always offering to help around the house, do not idealize him. And even if you do, do not think so loud. If you start quoting examples of other men, your husband is surely going to lash out with other things. Comparison never works, it just makes them feel inadequate and incompetent.
#12. Be His Guiding Light
It always takes two to tango. When it comes to the household chores, both the partners need to do it together. Share your experiences to help him out in completing the task. Hold on to your patience level because losing them will definitely make your husband feel lazy again.
You may be the kind of wife who likes everything to be tidy and perfect; your husband can just be the opposite. If you can understand the difference, things are sure to get much easier. Encourage him to help you and be grateful for whenever he does. Appreciation could do wonders in making your lazy and irresponsible husband get going.
Do you wish to add any more points to our list? Let us know in the comment section below.
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