If you are born white, you feel as if you are not dusky or tanned enough. If you are a brunette, then you wished you were blonde. Singles want to be in a relationship, and committed people are tired of being in one! The grass always seems to be greener on the other side indeed. There is no cure for this inferiority complex that every single person goes through at least once in their lifetime. But not always does this inferiority complex driven attitude is basic in nature. Sometimes the complex is instilled in such a way that you feel like you are trapped in a bubble of low self-esteem.
The causes of this complex can be many. Childhood issues, failed relationships, rejection in the past and high goals that seem impossible to reach are amongst the most popular. Neglecting parents with shaming attitude can be a major reason for the development of inferiority in kids which most of the time the person seems to carry it along all throughout their life. Discouraging parents that seem to turn a deaf ear to the feelings of their children tend to make the kid feel as if they are not good enough or that their opinions do not matter can go a long way for the kid. Children having undergone such childhood issues tend to carry this fear of rejection as a baggage convincing them to think subconsciously that they are not good enough. Failed relationships and rejection, on the other hand, are taken up in the minds of people after having undergone the trauma and fear of getting rejected again. They tend to settle for less thinking again that they are not good enough and do not deserve the best. Not being able to achieve set goals can hamper a person’s thought process making him think that he is not capable of giving his best or that the fact that he is not the best man for the job and deserves less.
Not all of these are developed, and most of the time they come as a wave of emotion where the person believes that he lacks something in his/ her physical appearance upon coming across somebody with better attributes than them. This can again hamper one’s self- confidence making him think that he is not good enough and does not deserve the best. All these thoughts, meaningless expectations and temporary rage of emotions are not always true and more often than not, false. People with inferiority issues fail to understand that these thoughts and labels are what we give to you and not what the society thinks of us. We all need to understand that we are capable of a lot more than we think we are!
Only you yourself can pick out these unwanted and misleading thoughts from your mind. It would not be wrong to say that the feeling is like a parasite feeding your confidence every single day and it is only you that can eradicate this disease from your mind, with or without help. Here are some sure signs that you might be suffering from an inferiority complex!
Spotting signs of an inferiority complex can be tricky. A person might be an extrovert and still suffer from downgrading thoughts deep inside his mind. Sometimes it can be pretty evident. Blaming others for your deeds is one true sign of an inferiority complex. If you feel like a victim in the situation called life where you tend to blame your family or friends for your failures every day, then this might be the complex accusing you. Indulging in a habit of overdrinking, overeating and over splurging are also some signs to look out for.
Finding it hard to put your trust in others, feeling unwanted anxiety over tad things and the fear of expressing one’s opinion strongly instead of submissively surrendering to the decisions that others make for you can also be related to the feelings of inferiority. If after a long day, you just feel like rolling up in a ball in your bed watching Netflix instead of hanging out with your friends, then you might be forcing yourself to maintain minimal human contact and feel more comfortable in just alienating yourself from the crowd. Isolation might be your escape from the inferiority feeding you. Rooting out this disease or the misconception of not being good enough or better than most cannot be done overnight. It takes time, but there are ways by which you can help yourself to avoid into this void of uncertainty.
#1. Acceptance
Accepting and embracing who you are, as a person, personality or in the way you look must be the first and foremost step that will help you get rid of the inferiority complex bubble that you force yourself to get trapped in. Acceptance of your physical features stands the greatest value since that is something that we are born with. If you were born skinny or chubby, accept your body the way it is. You can work hard to achieve the kind of body you always desired but blaming others will not solve the problem or less lead you anywhere. Also, acknowledge yourself with the fact there that is not one single qualitative measure of beauty.
#2. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
Some people have a bad habit of comparing their lives with the lives of others and then getting frustrated thinking about how you don’t have the best of resources, parents or relationships. Stop comparing your life with the lives of others and focus on what you have rather than what you are missing out on. Dwelling on things that you do not have will only affect you negatively and will do no good to your self- confidence. Focus on the bigger picture and focus on the things that you have and others don’t. You want to live someone’s life, and there are people who want to live the life you are living.
#3. Everyone Has Flaws
Nobody was born perfect. Even your favorite celebrity lacks in some skill that might be good for you. Either accept your flaws or focus your energy and make a genuine effort to better yourself.
#4. The Grass Is Always Greener On The Other Side
Skinny people wished they were fat and fat people wished they were skinny. The grass is always greener on the other side and what you have might be the on the wishlist of another. What you lack does not define who you are and feeling inferior in relation to the things that you were not born with is rather just a waste of your time.
#5. Clear Your Misconceptions
Sometimes, we view ourselves as lower in comparison to what others have, and we lack. We might think that we look too fat even when we aren’t. Others will only accept who you really are if you accept yourself. If you think you are beautiful, you will feel beautiful. Others only perceive your worth to an extent that you do for yourself. Clear out all the misconceptions that you have and be confident enough to carry yourself. If life's a rollercoaster, then it is also a bundle of joys which will bring enough opportunities for you to believe in yourself.
#6. Get Over The Past
If you owe your inferiority complex to your troubled childhood or a strained relationship, then get over the fact that the situations you had to go through in the past don't define your current self-worth or the person that you have turned out to be. Some parents are overprotective, and the kids are used to hearing a ‘No’ for almost everything that excites them or they want to pursue. This rejection instills a long way in some kid’s minds which may convince them into believing that they do not have what it takes. When at such a tender age, kids are shamed for the things they believe in and the goals that they are passionate to pursue, their emotional capability is hampered to a great extent.
#7. Seek Therapy
If you tend to feel burdened and obsessed with self-depreciating thoughts every day, seek help. Therapy will make you accept who you really are and make you aware of your worth that you fail to recognize. Sometimes it can be difficult to accept your flaws and therapy can take you a long way to embrace it. I have come across so many people who have taken on to therapy and came out with a different, positive and fresh outlook in their life! Therapy can always be helpful and seeking professional help can never go wrong.
Here are some ways in which you can spot the signs of inferiority complex and treat it. Leave a comment if you think this article was helpful!
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