Periods can be stressful. Do you remember the first period you had? Were you happy coupled with anxiety or scarred for life? However it was, talking to your daughter about her periods is crucial if your little princess is all set to reach her next stage of growth. It is important that you talk to your little one before they are no more little. Not just the girls, but the boys have questions too that must be taken by you as an opportunity to provide knowledge to your kids about their changing bodies, a process that is unavoidable and absolutely natural.
If you've ever had bad experiences from your period or your first period was a big deal for you in terms of acceptance and understanding, make sure you go out of your way to make your daughter aware of the changes that are yet to come before they already do! Make your kids read articles or books on menstruation that will better talk to them about their changing bodies, and then you answer all their questions relating to the female or male genitalia. By making them read about it, you will eliminate the awkward talk that both the parent and the kids are embarrassed to share.
After making your kids aware of their changing bodies comes the part where you answer all their questions. Make sure you make your kids realize that this is a natural process and all the myths surrounding it are false. From menstrual cramps, blood flowing out of the bodies and the age at which they achieve their first period, all may differ depending on their bodies.
Here are some ways by which you can deal with the awkward talk and some points on how to do it!
#1. Tell Them That This Is Normal
Periods are a way of preparing the body susceptible to certain changes that are necessary and is crucial for the development of the girl. An important factor of growth, it makes your kid realize how normal this process is and that every girl has to go through it once a month. The cramps could be annoying at times and may hinder the child from undergoing certain activities, but it is your duty as a parent or a guide to make your kid feel relaxed about the situation every time it occurs!
#2. Explain The Process
It is crucial that as a parent you give your kids all the first-hand information that he/ she requires to make them aware of the fact that the bodily changes are bound to occur. It is your duty to provide all the information that the kid is unaware of, all the information regarding the physical changes that occur depending on their gender and age. The female reproductive system releases an egg every month which is supposed to fuse with the sperm. When this fusing does not occur, the body has a way to release that egg within a cycle of 28 days starting at the age of 10-16 up to the age of 45-51 years. They may undergo painful cramps for a few days, but that is okay and absolutely normal where she can undergo almost any activity that she wants without having to worry about anything.
#3. Ask Them If They Already Know About It
There might be a chance that your kid might already have gathered bits and pieces of information regarding this topic from a sex education class at school, teachers or friends. If you happen to hear them talking about it, talk to them, answer all their questions and clear their doubts relating to their changing physical bodily and internal changes.
#4. Do Not Freak Them Out
If you never had the opportunity to talk about your periods as openly as you wanted to and always regarded it as a task, make sure you do not pass this on to your daughter as well. Your negative opinions will only make her feel stressful and react negatively towards it too. Talk to them as a friend and explain to them patiently of how the process occurs and how it is absolutely normal for a girl to go through it every 28 days! Menstruation is as normal as any other bodily change such as breaking of voice or the growth of facial hair in men and comes under the category of puberty. As teens, it can be tough for them to go through the painful cramps every month but make them aware of the fact of how these are temporary and do not stop you from carrying out your daily chores.
#5. Clear All The Myths
Myths surrounding periods are very common. Whether putting it as ‘that time of the month’ where you are asked to stay low on performing sporty activities, they exist and are abundant. Make your kids aware of how this natural process does not affect your productivity and every other activity carried out daily can be performed in that period of time too. Tell them how normal PMS’ing or the Post Menstrual Syndrome is and there is absolutely nothing to worry about as you cannot avoid this process.
#6. Tell Them How There Is Nothing To Be Embarrassed About
If your daughter has some questions pertaining as to why her friend got her period before she did or vice versa, there comes your job as a parent to tell them how different each female body can be and how the process does not have a definite time or age to occur. If your kid, however, is going through some serious issues during menstruation such as excessive cramps, to such an extent that she cannot walk or is unable to perform any activity, make sure you respect their feelings and take them to a doctor. There is nothing embarrassing about one visiting the gynecologist as well which can not just make your kid make aware about her body better but also prescribe painkillers such as ibuprofen to eliminate or deal with the pain.
#7. Talk About Tampons And Sanitary Napkins
There is absolutely nothing embarrassing about buying a tampon or a sanitary napkin, less using it. Since this process is natural and every girl has to go through it, buying the resources used in the process has to be absolutely normal as well. If you discourage the buying of tampons in public, this might raise doubts on your kid’s mind regarding the change. Also, make your kids aware of the over usage of tampons or sanitary napkins and their risks. Make them aware of how they need to keep changing it after every few hours and how by overusing, it can lead to serious health complications.
#8. Answer All Their Questions
After exposing your kids to so much new information on their changing bodies at such a tender age, they are bound to have some questions. Do not avoid those questions and make sure you answer every single one of them including copulation and the difference between a male and a female body. Make them aware of the risks which will be associated if they try to experiment sex or consume any pills that can affect their hormones dramatically which will only be the cause of further problems. Let them know why you have to go through this kind of menstruation as well by making them aware of the existence of a uterus, a part of the female reproductive system.
#9. Importance Of Hygiene
Hygiene is of utmost importance during this time, and you must make your kids aware of how they should take a bath daily and change their tampons/ sanitary napkins every few hours. They might be going through this process unaware for the first time, and it is your job as a guide, gynecologist or a parent to encourage regular daily hygiene and the benefits and risks associated with it.
Here are few ways to tackle the problem of undergoing the awkward talk with your kids! Make sure you make them feel like their bodies are special and the process natural. We hope that your daughter’s first period be stress-free!