Did you ever find yourself amidst an argument and the situation turned extremely uncomfortable? Have you noticed how people tend to ignore any kind of arguments? Do you find it hard to tackle arguments? Have you ever pondered over ways to win an argument at work or with your colleague? Are you tired of looking for the means to win an argument?
Certain situations in life can get very uncomfortable, one of them is when you are a part of an argument, and you really do not want it to escalate into a big fight. It is very true that an argument is one of the most uneasy emotions to deal with. Irrespective of whom you involve yourself in an argument with; it is not at all possible to be in an argument and not feel disturbed. It does become worse when you find yourself in an argument with your family, your loved ones or your friends. This is the reason we often find people staying away from arguments, ignoring confrontations that have the possibility to escalate into a major argument. This is also the reason why, most people generally try to avoid any argument, but at the same time they do make sure they speak their mind, and their opinion is not ignored. This basically means, they stay away from arguments but, are ready to indulge in it, if it becomes absolutely necessary.
There are two ways to deal with an argument. If you find yourself in an argument, you can either choose to make it go away; in this case, you make a settlement with the person you have been arguing with. Another thing you can choose to do is to win the argument, which basically means you turn the argument in your favor. This option is for people who are ambitious, but, I am sure most people will want to win an argument. There are something’s you will need to keep in mind in case you wish to win an argument because arguing aimlessly will surely not get you anywhere. Some arguments are personal in nature, with your parents and friends that you can just let go, the conclusion of such trivial arguments may not seem to make a major impact on our lives. But, there are sometimes, especially at work when you will need to be assertive and express yourself clearly. In case you are looking at winning the deal where you find yourself amidst an unwanted argument at work, here are something’s you will need to keep in mind.
How To Win An Argument At Work
#1. If you are arguing on an issue that you strongly feel for, you surely must be aware of the details of the matter. This means you really need to know your facts right. Now, the fact that you are choosing to argue should be done on the basis of clear knowledge regarding the topic you choose to argue about. Do not indulge in an argument on a topic regarding which you have absolutely no knowledge. If you ever choose to argue without any knowledge, only to satisfy your ego, be prepared to lose the argument.
If you wish to emerge a winner out of the argument, you will have to gather complete details of that particular topic. Make sure you have done your research well and all your facts are clear and correct. Do keep in mind the fact that if you make unacceptable mistakes, you are sure to reduce your chances of winning the argument. It is so because the moment you lose the momentum, you lose the control, and the other side begins to gain the momentum.
#2. Any argument at work can have an emotional attachment to you; it may be regarding something you feel strongly about or may actually have directly to do with your position at work. Most work arguments tend to have such emotional attachments. Do make sure that you do not let your emotions take control of you. You have to keep in mind the fact that if you tend to become too emotional, you may end up losing the control you have over the trail of thought regarding the topic you are speaking about.
Also, keep in mind; it is a work-related argument, and if you let your temper take the driving seat, you may turn your opponent against you. This may take place not only for that particular moment of the argument but may continue to go on well after the argument ends. What I am trying to tell you are the fact that you do not want to turn people against you, you are looking at making your point which you are sure is a relevant one. In the heat of the moment, your temper may create all sorts of negative situation and change the relationship equation between your colleagues in such a way that it may prevail for the longer run. There is also the possibility of turning your opponent in favor of your opinion if you maintain your calm.
#3. The best way to not only state your opinion but at the same time win the argument is not to be affected by any idea of the other party. It simply means you need to stick to your opinion. When it comes to winning an argument standing your ground is the best policy that you can choose to adopt in order to strike a win. There are cases where individuals end up winning an argument, even when they do not have a very strong case to present, only because they stick to the argument they have been presenting, in such a way that the other party is actually compelled to accept defeat. When you choose to stick to the opinion or the facts you are stating and remain immovable you actually are able to make a stronger impact.
#4. Respecting your opponent is very crucial. Whatever your stand may be, irrespective of how right or wrong you are, you do not wish to ruin your professional relationships. It really does not need to get that worse where you actually manage to turn people against you. It is a professional argument you do not wish to have people dislike you and make life difficult for you even after the argument is over. Also, you do not know who you might have to get into an argument with, irrespective of them being a senior or a junior, giving minimum respect to that individual is of utmost importance. Because the purpose of an argument is always to state your opinion and not let what you think to be overlooked!
#5. When you choose to get into an argument, you need to make sure that along with the research of your own point, you are well aware of what the other side may have to say. Knowing the points that the other side may come up with, actually, means that you are well prepared. You will be able to make your case in such a way that you already have all the counter-arguments to the points that your opponent may come up with. For this, you will have to make sure you have done a detailed research regarding the things that may be the counterpoints to your the point you wish to state. This will also help you to be in control of the argument. Just like it is crucial to know in detail what you wish to say, it is also important to know in detail what the other side will have to say. In case you find yourself not prepared to face what they have to say and they have a counter-argument for all the points you state, you will lose the arguments right there.
#6. The most effective thing to do will be to maintain a very positive attitude throughout the course of the entire argument. There are two reasons for this; firstly this will make sure you are not losing the control and the confidence you have. The kind of attitude you have directly affected the kind of confidence you will be able to exhibit. If you lose your confidence, which is sure to happen if you turn negative, you will not be able to be impactful in making your case. You will be able to do that very easily and with a strong impact if you maintain your state of positive mind. The other thing you will do is, you will come across as an individual with a very strong sense of confidence, to your opponent, this will make your opponent is not taking you lightly. At times when you look and feel under confident and negative, you tend to encourage your opponent. They tend to assume a stronger stance in comparison to you, simply on the basis of your poor body language, which is the result of your negative thinking.
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