Being in love is the most special feeling for any person in the world. Everything seems right and the world appears to be a better place to live. Initial years witness adjustments and compromises from both the partners because they are in love. After some time, the bubble bursts. You get into fights over trivial issues and this beautiful world turns hell for you. But fighting once in a while is normal. Your partner wouldn’t listen to you, you would not listen to them and if your partner is a girl then even God can't save you. Just kidding!
Men across the world search for ways in which they can win an argument with a woman because arguing with a woman you love can be risky. They may get angry or upset and if the argument takes a devilish shape then you might even lose her. Women need not worry as they have their own ways to win arguments with their partners.
The important thing in this situation is that you should wish to win each other’s hearts rather than the arguments because:
#1. Arguments can turn into hatred. Hence, it's better to love than argue.
#2. If you win your partner’s heart then you will automatically win the argument.
Your relationship should be your shield from the ruthless world because the person who loves you will always stand by you even when the whole world goes against you. You would do the same for your partner. Wouldn’t you?
If you still want to know how to win an argument in a relationship, then follow these simple steps.
#1. Discussion
Argue wearing the mask of discussion. Make it look like you are not arguing but you are just trying to have a healthy discussion. Discuss whatever your thoughts are and stick to them. Do not make anybody feel like you are against them. Value other’s opinions, listen to what they have to say but do not prove them wrong. Prove yourself correct and your argument to be more convenient and logical. Do not impose yourself or your opinions on others.
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#2. Be Polite
You do not want to start the third world war by speaking rudely with your partner. Your attitude and behavior at that point will decide how he/she takes your argument and that if they should even listen to you. If you behave well with them and show some courtesy, then they will patiently hear you. All you have to do is behave gently and everyone will listen to you because nobody likes to listen to boorish people. Do not lose your temper.
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#3. Counter-Attack
Cite facts as evident or proofs to support your argument. Keep your game up and be prepared to bring your ace to the fore. Collect all the information about all that has been said in the past, the things you have frequently ignored in the past. This is the right time to use all of them in your favor. Remind your partner of the times they made mistakes for which you forgave them without even getting angry at them. Your partner or whoever you argue with will be left with no other attack strategy. Know what you are saying and what you want. Be clear, not loud.
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#4. It’s Never Too Late To Apologize
If you have said something, you shouldn’t have then apologize right away because this could ruin everything. If you want to win an argument in a single sentence, then it has to be “I am sorry, and I love you.” Sorry is a magical word which can set everything straight. This one word will be for the betterment of your relationship. It will show them that you care for your relationship and will bring you closer to each her. Using bad words for each other will threaten dignity and honor causing a wound in your relationship. Buy them a gift as a token of apology or just because you wanted to gift them something. Be warm and accepting rather than being cold and rejecting.
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#5. Face To Face
Do not get into an argument over messages or a video call. Meet them personally and resolve the argument. When you message someone, you cannot know their true emotions and expressions without which you cannot hope to win an argument. When you talk face to face, look them straight in the eye, and maybe they will not be able to resist falling into your eyes they once fell in.
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#6. Keep Quiet
No, you are not attending a class where you have to keep quiet, but when you are in the middle of an argument, it would be better if you consider yourself a student and your partner a teacher. Sometimes at school keeping quiet with your head down is the best solution when your teacher is angry with you in the class. Remember, you would not speak a word and would not even dare to interrupt them while they would speak. Repeat this with to win an argument with your partner. Keeping quiet would show them that you respect them and then they would return the same respect to you.
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#7. Make Allies
If you want to win an argument with a girl or a woman, it would be very necessary for you to have people favor you. Keep your common friends with you and make them side with you because if they support you only, then your partner will slow down. And when they calm down then they will have a chance to listen to what you have to say. Another advantage will be if you get their family to support you. If their family agrees with you, then they will have to listen to their family. It is going to be important to teach your friends or your partner's family the same points you are going to learn here because inviting other people in your argument can be risky. People tend to trust the truth that the majority speaks. Also if the person favoring you is a trusted source then that person will listen to you at least once with an open mind. When they will listen, you will have your ground ready to win.
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#8. The Blame Game
The blame game should not include blaming your partner. Blame whatever is against you on anything that they cannot be angry at like alcohol. Tell them that you were drunk and did not know anything you were doing or saying. But do apologize for that too. If you don’t drink, then blame it on the situation. “That day was not my day.” Come up with humanitarian ideas that will help you gain their sympathies. Ideas that will make them emotional like you saved a puppy from an accident that day of argument or you were left with no money but still bought a gift for them. If you did something because you had no other choice then they will have to give up their weapons, and you will have the upper hand.
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Winning an argument can be very easy if you know the right way to approach someone and the right kind of mindset to maintain during the argument. Remember you do not have to yell at each other, turn the argument into a discussion that harms nobody. Stay logical and real that will help you play with the other’s mind. After the argument is over and you have a winner, make sure you do not hurt the other person by celebrating your victory. Find out the cause of the argument and start elevating all those causes to avoid another argument in the future.
Let us know if these points help you in winning an argument in your relationship. Also, share your views on how do you think women win arguments with men in the comments section below.
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15 Opinions
How to win an argument with men is the easiest job for women. They have their
own weapons more dangerous than atom bombs. I feel women are one of the
best creations of god despite the fact how irritating they can be sometimes. At
First, she will try to reason out with you, give you all the logic in the world she can.
When all the logic run out of her mind she will give you theories which have
nothing to with the argument she wants to have and this point men are so much
in a conundrum that it takes them time to understand what the whole point was.
And when you will ask her what she meant she will use it against you to blame you
that you never listen to her, “I am not important to you”. And if you tell her that
she is important to you then she will ask you to agree to what she says, eventually
winning the argument. But if you disagree then she will take out her next weapon-
her directory. The diary in her mind where everything you ever did is recorded
from which she will launch mini-missiles. All the times you made her wait, you did
not turn up, forgot her birthday or forgot your own. This should be enough for you
to ‘bend the knee’ otherwise she will launch the big missiles like “You stared
another girl”. This is the biggest punishable offense a man can commit. It is just
the beginning so better you give up.
If by any chance all if this still does not help her win, she will start a court hearing
where her friend will lawyer for her and you will have to put your leg down. You
do not want to waste your entire day fighting a case for yourself. But if you are
high on energy and feel like fighting for yourself then she will let loose her final
weapon- the weapon of tears. Yes! She will cry her heart out and you will lose
because you can’t see her crying and you can’t afford to be the reason behind her
crying. If you leave her crying she will use it against you in the next argument you
have where again your possibilities of winning the argument will be zeroed. But I
guess with this article above on “How to win arguments in a relationship?”, even
men can know how to win an argument with a girl, how to win an argument with
a woman or how to win an argument at work.