Though intimacy is a major part of a marriage and it is essential in a healthy relationship, a lot of couples are unable to take out time for each other after having a kid. Being a middle-class working man, it becomes difficult for me to indulge in intercourse with my wife after we welcomed our children.
So, is this a problem that a majority of people face? I have two kids and prior to this, we had a healthy relationship where we could practice intercourse often. Though now most of my time is taken up by work and taking care of the children, which leaves us tired at the end of the day. Has anyone else been through the same situation where physical intimacy in their marriage reduced after having a kid? Please share your experience and what according to you is the ideal frequency of getting intimate.
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Life is not always rosy sweet and as you grow old you are burdened with more responsibilities. Taking care of a child and raising them is by no means an easy job. In such a situation physical intimacy is bound to plummet in a relationship. Things that really matter during the early years of marriage will not stay constant all through out. Having said that there are more ways to make things more interesting. Take your husband/wife on a date and surprise them with things like candle light dinner or a small present. Make them feel special as that can add the old charm to your married life and romance will eventually lead to a healthier and more intimate married life. As far as frequency of getting intimate is concerned then that is no parameter to see how happy or good your married life is.It is a typical case of to each its own.
The best way is to talk to each other. the mutual love and understanding will help any couple solve their issues with ease.
Physical intimacy after kids is bound to take a huge dip. Raising kids is a tiresome job and takes a lot of energy and efforts. It is difficult to manage your personal time once you have the little monsters raiding your room every now and then.
Without any doubt, the answer is with proper planning and understanding between a man and his woman.
As you grow up, you tend to have more responsibilities in life. having said that, dealing with a kid is another of those responsibilities. If you have a child, it is quite understandable that you don't get much time to spend with your spouse or to indulge in intimate encounters. However, there is nothing wrong in your case. What you're going through is something that happens to everyone.