The beginning of every relationship is all sugary and warm. You cannot keep your hands off each other, and you cannot bear a second of separation. This phase when a couple lives the most beautiful and the most romantic moments in their relationship is called the honeymoon phase.
Spending most of the time together and thinking about each other all day is what the couples do when their relationship has just begun. There is a chemistry and an attraction that makes the couple go crazy for each other but as the honeymoon period ends everything gets over. You do not get enough time to spend with each other, and other responsibilities hang over your head like a sword.
Just as much the romance in a relationship is important, the duties they have towards their family and work are equally necessary. A person cannot deny their other roles in for the sake of playing one role. If you are a spouse or a partner, you are also a child to your parent, an employee of the company you work and a friend to someone in need. You cannot deny the other roles just to be a good husband or a wife. So, what to do when the honeymoon phase is over, and you do not want to lose the romance while taking care of other responsibilities?
With the end of the honeymoon phase, a couple starts to get to know each other. The time they spend together passes either discussing the new rules and regulations, the budgets, the expenses or fighting about it. The honey-dipped conversations turn into bitter arguments after the honeymoon phase is over. And when the relationship becomes so hard and annoying, you start feeling that nothing is ever going to be like it was in the beginning. It hurts you to see how quickly things change and the dynamics of your partnership transforms. But it is not your or your partner’s fault. You both are just a victim of time and this is how things work. You realize the importance of happiness only when you face a low time.
A tough time in your relationship will show you if your love has the strength to defeat all that comes in your face. The stage after the honeymoon phase ends is very crucial for the longevity of the alliance and the end of the honeymoon period does not mean that the romance has to end as well. You can still have a smooth and interesting chemistry with your partner. You can make your post-honeymoon stage a second honeymoon if you wish to enjoy your married life. Let us learn what to do when the honeymoon phase is over.
#1. Analyze Your Relationship
The time after the honeymoon phase ends is the most accurate to think about your relationship. You should re-evaluate your relationship with your partner. The beginning of the relationship is always filled with attraction and infatuation which can look like love, but it may not be so. It could be a fling that you did not realize with the passage of time because you were deeply involved with them. You should think about how you are going to live with your partner from the very moment onwards, and you have to observe if you really love them or not.
Relationships are not a child’s play. They should be well thought over because they have to power to make your life wonderful. If you fall into a wrong relationship, then your life will be nothing but a mess. When we love someone, our whole life revolves around them, especially during the honeymoon period. So, when you choose a partner for yourself, you must be very careful. If the partnership does not give you joy, then it will affect your personal and professional life as a whole. The relationship will work out only with your efforts and love.
#2. Do Not Abruptly End All The Romance
Nobody wishes the honeymoon phase to end but it does, and you cannot stop it. There is something else that you can do if you want your relationship to stay the same. You can try to keep the things as they were during the honeymoon period. Your partner may be very busy, and perhaps you have a tight schedule as well. But if you keep depending on your partner to make the life interesting then nothing will ever happen. They may be expecting the same from you. So, try to take out time to keep the romance alive in your relationship. Try to spend as much time as you can when you are home together at night. Do not sleep directly after the dinner. Go out for a walk or just spend some time together before you sleep. You can watch a romantic movie together or something you both like to do. Get cozy with your partner and do not let the intimacy die. Keep things interesting in the bed and spice up your life. Do not let the sexual attraction between you two fade away.
#3. Expect Fights And Arguments
After the honeymoon phase is over, it would be wise to expect fights and arguments on silly matters. There will be fights almost every day because you will still be discovering things about each other. Your opinions and decisions will differ, and you will have to learn to understand each other’s perspective. You will have to adapt, adjust and compromise in the relationship because this is the only way to keep a marriage from falling apart. The relationship is about two people who are totally different from each other, and you cannot expect things to go smooth. Both the partners will have to discuss every single thing because one person’s decision will affect the other. Be it the bills or change of a job; all the decisions need to be thought over keeping in mind the consequences it may have on the other partner. Moreover, when life is no more dreamy people get frustrated, and the annoyance comes out in terms of fights with each other.
#4. Talk About The Change In The Relationship
When the structure of the relationship is changing, and all the romance seems to diminish into the air, you will feel inclined to shut about it. You should never hide your feelings from your partner because they have every right to know what bothers you and what makes you happy. You cannot know more about your relationship unless you talk to each other. Have a chat with your partner about the transformation in their personality which makes the relationship totally different. Stay in contact because if you stop talking to them, then there will be misunderstandings which will never get resolved. Make it a habit of talking to your partner no matter how big a fight you had with them. Every couple must know the significance of communication in a relationship.
#5. Explore Your Partner’s Habits
During this post-honeymoon phase, you will have plenty of time to explore new things. You will explore things about your partner, their family and yourself. You will change over time, and you will realize it when you will come face to face with new life challenges. You should explore the things your spouse likes and dislikes, what makes him aggressive and what are his bad habits. You may come across something you never expected. You may find a new side to his personality that had been hidden the whole time. It could be something good or something that can stress you out. Whatever it may be you have to be ready to accept the things. Yes, you can try to change some of the bad habits of your partner but do not expect them to change completely.
#6. Work On The New Responsibilities
You have new duties and responsibilities as a spouse or a partner who has moved in some time ago. You will have to live according to the other partner, and they will have to adjust according to you. The duties will be distributed equally in the house, and you will have to abide by them. You will have to look after your partner because you are not alone anymore. Work on your responsibilities and try not to disappoint anyone. Make yourself a better person, and the relationship will grow on its own. Be mature and do not exaggerate trivial issues.
#7. Enjoy This Phase
The new period after the end of the honeymoon period is another phase of life that you should enjoy. It will surely bring stress and tension but do not take everything too seriously. Try to enjoy getting to know each other and staying away from each other for short period of time. Clinging on to each other all day long will not make your relationship strong. The way you handle your relationship at this stage will decide how strong a foundation you will build.
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