When we were all young, our teachers would ask us about what we want to be when we grow up. Our answers were diverse in nature with some of us wanting to be something as realistic as doctors, businessmen, and teachers to something as unrealistic as superheroes. And our teachers or parents even supported us then. Back then, we were not quite sure of what we want to be and what it takes to be a superhero but today we know. We know what is realistic and what is fantastical.
If somebody asks us today what we want to be, our answers will be the same. We may want to be a painter, a singer, a dancer, a farmer or anything we like today and this time we are quite conscious of our choices and dreams. We know how to achieve them and what they will give us, but this time our parents do not support us. What has changed? We were ambitious back then, and we are ambitious today. We were supported when we had no information about what a career is then but today when we know about it, our parents do not support us. Are our parents unsupportive?
We have changed, but our parents have not. Nobody can disagree with the fact that our parents always want the best for us and they sometimes do not support us out of concern. Their understanding may be different from ours, and that is why it becomes difficult for them to think from our perspective. One career choice we have chosen for us may have had a wrong impression on our parents because of which they do not want us to follow it. They might have heard some rumors about the field of your choice which makes it hard for them to allow you to go for it. As a parent, any person doesn’t want their child to suffer or get into a field that does not promise a good future. Your parents would ask you to choose a career which earns you profit sooner and which promises a great lifestyle. Some fields like tourism, acting, singing or other fields of art do not promise a bright future to everyone. These fields require extremely hard-working, talented, and lucky people to some extent in order to survive. Your parents look at the loopholes of the career choice you are about to make in order to ensure your safety and comfort. We can then conclude that our parents are not actually against us, but they are against the career of choice. Is there a difference between a job and career. So, let us know how to convince your parents when they do not support your career choice.
#1. Walk In Their Shoes!
As we discussed above, our parents love us the most in this whole wide world, so it is important to walk in their shoes to understand what their concern is. Your parents may have a lot of concerns about the field like how it is going to pay you, if you will have to relocate or if it is going to be a tiring job. Think from their point of view to understand how you can make them agree with you. You should know what bothers them and unless you think like them, you will not be able to clear their doubts and they will not support you.
#2. Spread Awareness
The reason why your parents are unsupportive is that they do not know about the field. Or they may have heard some rumors about the people working in the same field, and your parents feel that you will spoil your life entering that field of work. So now that you know your parent’s concerns, it is time for you to clear all those doubts. First of all, know the positives and negatives that come along with your dream job and gather answers about it being a good field of work. Tell your parents and other people like them about it and make sure that they are clear about all the doubts they have in their minds.
#3. Gather Support
Your parents have been long in the wrong impression of the job that you have planned to take so you alone cannot clear all their doubts. You need the support from other people who can help you in making your parents say yes. You should call your parent’s friends or other relatives who you think can make your parent’s opinion change. People who belong to the same field can make an impact on your parent’s thinking about the field. When they will find out that the person is successful in your field, then they will get a little assurance that you can do it too. Sometimes parents just want you to be secured in a job, so if they find out that all the rumors were wrong, then they may support you soon.
#4. Enhance Your Personality
Should you choose your career based on your personality ?If you want to seek your parent’s approval, then you need to enhance your personality. You should start learning all the skills required for success in your dream job. Your career choice is not easy, and it will ask for struggle so you need to be prepared mentally and physically for the hard work. When you start grooming yourself, your parents will see that you are serious about your work and this is something you really want to do in life. When they see you change for the good, then they will support you throughout your journey. When you start preparing yourself, the changes will make you compatible with the ups and downs in your entire journey. Do not do it for your parents but do it for yourself and your dreams.
#5. Stay Focused
It is important that you stay focused in order to achieve what you want in life. Your dreams and goals need to be chased by you. If you do not stand and run behind, they will not come close to you. If unsupportive parents make you depressed, then you need to avoid them but do not stop chasing your dreams. Your focus and diligence will prove to be the best asset for your success. If you stay focus, then there are chances that your parents will start supporting you. And only focus and determination to reach the highest peak can make you reach it. Therefore stay focused. Do not listen to what other people have to say about it. Work hard as there is no gain without pain!
#6. Prove Yourself
If your parents still do not support you and if they are not convinced that this is the right field for you, then you need to prove yourself to them. You have to show people that you can do it and this is not impossible for you. You need to prove your worth and your skills, and you need to tell yourself that you can do it. If you stayed motivated and inspired to do all that you have dreamt of, then you should start working towards your goal. Start working for your dream job from the basics. Do whatever job you get. In order to reach somewhere, you have to start from somewhere. These will be your stepping stones to success. When people find you working hard to get your desired goal, they will support you.
#7. Achievements
Your parents will start trusting you when you would have taken some job that may not fetch you all that you need but it will give you the satisfaction that you are working towards it. Show your parents the little achievements you have made. Tell them about everything you have done and everything you achieved doing it. Your achievements and rewards will ensure that you can have a good future ahead in the career of your choice. When the parents know that you are doing well at the level, then they will support you to achieve further.
#8. Determination
No matter what anybody says if you believe in something you do, then go ahead with it. It may be hard to do something that your parents will not like, but once you will be successful, they will be the happiest. Things will not seem right without their support, and other people may also start agreeing with them but do not pay attention to them. Be determined to achieve your goals and to work towards a better life. Do not give up on your dreams because your parents think it is not a good field for you. Your dreams and your decisions will affect your life more than theirs. Think about what you feel about your decision, and if you feel this is it, then this is what you should do.
#9. Socialize
During your struggle period, it is likely that your parents and some of other people around you will not support you. You may make enemies who would want to pull you down. In this situation, you will find yourself alone, and the thoughts of leaving everything and going back to what your parents said will appear a better option. But believe us, it will not be the best choice. If you do not try to achieve something you wanted, then the guilt of not trying will haunt you forever. Meet your friends who support you and share your concerns and feelings with them. You may not be able to cover the whole journey alone as good as you will do it with your friend’s support.
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Parents know the best for us and when they do not support us in our choices we feel that they are being unfair to us. But are they really being unfair? Or are they just being concerned about you? No parent will ever want their child to fail in their life. The child always remains a responsibility for a parent and they do not want to fail in their responsibilities of raising their child properly. Even the children do not want the same for their life. I am a parent of two and they are the most precious things in my life. My eldest child was in high school when he decided that he wanted to pursue singing as a career but I did not agree with choice. It was a difficult path that he chose and the path would not even have given him a good fortune to live a comfortable life. He lives with us right now and he lives comfortably but he is still pursuing hid dream of becoming a singer. We both compromised and concluded that I give him one year to follow his dreams and achieve something. If in the period of a year he achieves something then he can pursue his career ahead but if he is not able to make a name in the field then he will have to choose another field that can ensure a good lifestyle. He also agreed to listen to our conditions because even he could not deny the fact that this career is not easy and the possibilities of success are very rare. I am not against the career of choice and I do not want to be called an unsupportive parent because I love my children and their dreams are mine. No career choice can be wrong if the child is passionate about it but passion alone does not matter, talent and hard work also go hand in hand. If the child believes that he has the skills to grow in that industry then there are chances that they may but if they do not have it then it becomes hard for them to succeed in that field. We are not enemies, we are the well wishers and they should understand this. Yes, if they show commitment towards their work and show us that their dream is what all they want in their life then we cannot stop them. we will be with them throughout their journey to support them. if a child is lost then it is the duty of the parent to show them the right path. All we can do is encourage the child to become better at what they want to pursue through constant learning. Learning a few skills are not enough. The child also needs the patience and a positive attitude to accomplishing their goals. The dreams will not come true until; they work hard for it and until they struggle to achieve it.