People who still believe in true love and commitment might go through a hard time when they find their partners leaving them for a married man. All your beliefs, your efforts to keep the partner happy, and the idea of the existence of true love shatters and spreads in multiple pieces when you get to know your relationship is on the edge because your lady love is in building castles with someone else.
August 2015 was a tough time for people who believed in true love when hackers cracked into Ashley Madison (a dating site created specifically for married people looking to cheat on their spouses) and released the data online. The website which was expected to hardly have any users had 32 million identities. Now, that is a substantial proof to support the idea that most married men and women want to cheat for their different reasons.
Even the data from Ashley Madison wasn’t enough to justify properly as to why women prefer married men over single men. That’s the reason, for years, single men have been trying to figure out why their women ditched them for someone else, especially for someone who is already married. So, if you suspect that your partner might be planning to ditch you soon for a married man living next door, it’s a good time to find out why? Below are some rational reasons why women prefer married men over single men.
#1. Married Men Have Proved Their Commitment Level
Men and women alike love to be in a relationship or be a person who is good with commitments. And, in case of married men, they have already showcased their commitment levels by being married to someone. The biggest complaints by women in a relationship are that they feel difficult to settle down with men who are not willing to commit. Thus, women always have a thing for married men as they display the willingness to commit.
#2. Married Men Are More Mature And Responsible
As a man gets married, they get more responsible, and they let go of their carefree nature, displaying a sign of maturity. And ask any women whether they would like to date someone who is wild, immature and carefree, or someone who's is mature enough to handle responsibilities? The answer is most likely to favor mature men, which points directly at married men. It doesn't mean unmarried man is not responsible or mature, but married are presumed to be mature. So, the abovementioned explanation makes it clear why women like dating married men.
#3. Married Men Make Better Lovers
This can be a good reason to justify why women are more attracted to married men. Women believe that married men make the best lovers because you can send them back home when you’re done.
To explain the theory, we would like to use the example of childless women. As most of us will agree, one realizes the importance of something when they are deprived of it, or they never get it for themselves. So, just like the childless women who love to play with kids and make great babysitters because they love to do all the fun stuff, entertain and play the game, these lovers simply bask in the happy times because there’s no responsibility or any to-do list to follow for the next day.
#4. Doesn’t Have To Make Compromises With Married Men
If you have been to women-oriented websites on the internet, you would have read the romantic compromises that are made being in a relationship. As suggested by researchers, women get fewer orgasm compared to men. Thus, women fake orgasm most of the times.
Sex or lovemaking is a basic human need like food, air, and water. As people grow up, the need for sex also starts increasing, and thus people get into a relationship. But, when one partner fails to satisfy the sexual need of the other, the issue leads to breakups, and needless to say, breakups are a hell of an experience. Also, this happens mostly with women; men fail to satisfy their sexual needs. Thus, getting into a relationship with someone for sexual needs requires commitment too and women have to make many compromises, but in case of married men, women can easily get rid of them if they fail to satisfy them in bed.
#5. Married Men Are Challenging
Okay! This might be common in men and women alike, both love challenges. Be it a man or women; they always select a partner who isn’t really available to them. Thus, we can say that women are more attracted to married men because they are a challenge for women. Single women might be more attracted to married men because she isn’t ready—or wanting to indulge in a committed, long-term relationship at that time. And married men are already in a committed relationship with their partners. Thus they are always a better alternative for a long-term relationship.
#6. Married Men Make Women Feel Special
If a married man is approaching a woman or dating one, they are taking a major life risk by getting involved with women other than their wife. Women believe that if a married man is dating them, then they are really special.
Rachel A. Sussman, a relationship expert, says, "If a married guy flirts with you, texts you, or sleeps with you, he’s taking a major life risk to be able to enjoy your company. So, you must be special and feel like it". It’s easier to claim yourself to be special, but the real happiness is when someone else makes you realize it. Thus, when a married man chooses to lose his partner, you know you’re special.
#7. Mate-Poaching Copying
Mate poaching, as the term sounds, mate poaching is defined as behavior intended to attract someone who is already in a romantic relationship. Surprisingly, nearly 50 percent of Americans have confessed to having succumbed to mate poaching attempts at some point.
It’s called ‘mate-choice copying’ or ‘mate poaching’ which is very common among animals. Such traits are found mainly in females of certain species of animal, human, birds, or fish who prefer males who have been seen with other females or mated with other females.
#8. Financial Security
This might be a little hard to digest, but financial security is one of the major reason why women prefer married men. Married men are most probably assumed to be employed and have a regular income source. If a man is married, they must be mature and financially stable and must be having a job or a business to support his family.
A woman knows the importance of being financially secure, so, if a woman is dating a married man, she knows that the man she is having an affair with can satisfy her sexual as well as financial needs. Whereas, in the case of bachelors, they are likely to be less responsible and financially unstable which is why they get ditched for married men.
#9. Married Men Are More Experienced In Bed
Let's not be shy and face the truth, we all like to be in the bed with someone who is more experienced than us. Someone who we don't have to teach how to satisfy the flame or lust burning inside us. Every woman has different parameters which they use while they choose their partners and the most common one experiences in bed. Married men, no need to explain how and why are more experienced when it comes to being better sex partners. Being in a relationship with first timers is annoying, they may or may not be capable of satisfying a woman in bed due to the lack of experience. But, you never have to tell a married man how to make love to a woman, they have an abundance of knowledge and experience.
#10. They Are Assumed To Be Good Men
There's a saying, " It's hard to find a good man, as all the good ones are taken." This might be a theory for some, but few women take it too seriously. When women start dating, they start with the least compatible guy who is wild, energetic, and single. But, as they grow up, they start considering more responsible partners who are good enough in everything, the ideal husband material. And who else other than a married man can be a true husband material.
#11. They Might Be More Compatible
Compatibility has nothing to do with a man being married or unmarried; it’s simply that a man has all the qualities that the woman needs in her man, and it can or cannot be a married man. It’s just a simple coincidence sometimes that a woman finds a compatible partner in a married man.
If you’re in a failed, loveless marriage and there’s no sign of sex, no passion, then you may already be considering to leave. And, you might strike someone who is simply compatible with you, though it doesn't ensure that the relationship will last long enough, at that moment the women may not consider that.
#12. Gives A Sense Of Adventure
Being a woman who is more interested in a married man, you might be fascinated with the clandestine feel of an affair. Having a normal or mundane relationship might be boring for you and being in a relationship with someone who is already taken might be an adventurous feeling for you. The thought that you could destroy a marriage, maybe even a family, with one phone call to his wife. You could be someone who is attracted to drama, someone who likes toying with the situation.
Affairs are destructive. And from all that's said and explained above, it's very clear that most women have a sexual relationship with married men, and vice versa. Thus, we would like to advise women who are looking for or are already into this type of relationship.: Stop it right now before it's too late. Find someone who only loves you, be a part of a relationship that you deserve, one where you are truly loved and not used as a weekend getaway, and delete your Ashley Madison account permanently.
Being in such kind of relationship for long can inflict you, your lover, and his family, an enormous pain. So, before you start to suffer and live with the guilt, head to the right path. Search for real happiness, not a relationship that is fleeting, destructive and temporary.
We hope you liked the article. If you have been in a relationship like this, or are into such relationship currently, all we can say is it’s never too late to take the right decision. Share your feelings about this topic, and your opinions using the comment section.
