Can an Educated person be Happily Married to an Uneducated One?

Marriage is an institution of love which needs to be constantly nurtured and taken care of by both the partners. Marriage is an important partnership decision because it stays for a lifetime (at least we can hope so).

But are you sure that your love will surpass all the obligations that come your way when you decide to marry someone who is not ‘suitable’ for you as per the society? We are afraid not.

Marrying someone beneath you might build up some major issues in your relationships if either of you is insecure about it.

Here’s a list of reasons that can make you rethink about your decision of marrying an uneducated.

Is It Fine To Marry Someone Less Educated Than You?

Marriage is a beautiful thing until it is not measured in “who is better”? Some people tend to make the relationship a competition to disguise their insecurities thus ruining the romance. One cannot be sure if it’s fine or not to marry someone who is less educated because the perceptions vary with individuals.

Some people believe that is fine until your partner is confident enough about the relationship. There are times when someone with higher qualifications comes across as intimidating to others, because it is a general perception that higher the education better the job and hence better the salary. If you believe that education is beyond the degrees that you hold and those extra set of letters attached to your name does not affect your personality, then there’s no harm in being involved with someone with lesser qualifications. Just because someone had higher education, does not make them smarter than the rest. As long as people realize it, education levels won’t affect any relationship.

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While some find it absolutely okay to be in a relationship or marry someone beneath you, others feel differently. There are people who believe that it is difficult to mate with someone who does not match your intellect because education differences quickly morph into bigger issues in short spans of time. Less educated or uneducated people tend to lack curiosity and exhibit laziness towards discussing important things in life. They are mostly interested in talking about trivial issues like sports, getting laid or eating out. You’d never be able to discuss politics, current affairs, or psychology with these people. They believe that they cannot marry an uneducated person because they’ll never be able to love someone whom they don’t respect and they will never be able to respect someone who’s uneducated.

Education doesn’t necessarily come from high school or college degrees because some of the smartest people are college dropouts. One can exhibit intelligence without having degrees. Uneducated people are those who lack intellect and are ignorant towards gaining knowledge. There is a big difference between uneducated and ignorant.

One can find educated people who are ignorant, and then there are people who don’t have degrees but have common sense and intellectual curiosity. Not everyone has the means or opportunity to pursue higher education and one should keep their minds open to such situations. Being with someone who is uneducated yet smart will never affect your relationship. Someone who is interested in making the most of their skills and developing their talents will only make your life a better place to live.

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Does Education Level Affect Relationship?

One cannot provide a sure shot answer to a question like this because on technical terms the level of education should not affect any relationship. In a utopian society, love is unconditional and cannot be hindered because of age or education factors. But the truth be told, ours is not a utopian society. In the imperfect society that we reside in, education does hold significance when you look for a partner. While the degree of importance may vary from person to person, complete ignorance sounds illusional.

Here are few reasons that would make your decisions simpler.

#1. Who Is More Educated?

While in a relationship, it matters who has the higher education level. A relationship works fine in most cases where the man is more educated, but things aren’t the same when the woman has an upper hand. This usually happens because the man is supposedly the one, who offers leadership and command in the family, and lesser degrees takes away his rights (at least that’s what they believe).

#2. What Is The Difference In The Education Levels?

You may be more educated than your partner, but it’s just fine if she/h has a diploma and you are an undergraduate. Such differences are negligible. But if the difference is more prominent, like a diploma and a master’s degree; you might have to face some issues.

#3. Does It Affect Your Interactions?

Communication is an important part of every relationship and therefore should be given the utmost significance. Our education does affect the way we interact and henceforth is essential.

If you and your partner are both educated, you’ll be able to reason your arguments better and hence have an interactive conversation. Lack of knowledge would only end up in dull and boring conversations. Our education is a reflection of our experiences and affects our everyday life.

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Imagine your partner giving you a blank expression when you tell him/her a joke? Will you be able to live with it? Only the lucky ones get to be with partners who are not educated but are street smart.

#4. Time To Raise The Red Flag

Your partner can be insecure of your education and might blame your education for every decision or argument that you make, then you know that something is wrong. You need to be with a partner who has self-esteem and who is acceptant to what both of you are. If your partner is constantly trying to put you down because of your over achievements, it is time to show some red flags.

As a woman, you need to make it clear that you honor his leadership despite the education difference. You are not to pull the “I know more than you do” card or even insinuate it in conversation. When a man feels respected by his woman, he is assured of her love.

#5. What Are You Willing To Do About It?

If both of you have realized the education differences between the two of you, are you willing to do something about it? There is a chance that your partner could not complete his/her education, give them a chance to complete it now. If he/she is able to catch up with you, then there will be no more issues regarding your education difference.

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Marrying an uneducated or marrying beneath you is an unnecessary thought if you truly love someone. The sole purpose of marrying is to support one another. Instead of being ashamed or insecure about your partner’s qualification, you should rather try to help them out or reach their levels yourself. Support and guide them while they try to catch up with you. Appreciate and acknowledge their knowledge.

Do you think that it is better to marry someone who is uneducated but smart rather than someone who holds a bag full of degrees but is ignorant? Let us know in the comment section below.

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